You've probably heard someone say that the easiest way to heal from an addiction is to first acknowledge that you have one. That's so true. The problem is, when it comes to something like a "love addiction", it's usually really hard to get past it because it's so difficult to detect in the first place. How can you actually be addicted to love? Even if it's possible, how could that possibly be a bad thing?
Both of these are really good questions. What's important to keep in mind about love addiction is, the people who are caught up in one are usually more in love with the concept of love as it directly relates to whatever images of love and relationships that they've made up in their mind.
It's sort of like the kinds of people who are more obsessed with having a wedding than having a marriage — it's about the fantasies and feelings that come with being in a relationship more than doing the work that's required to sustain it. Like most addictions, no one really wants to face that they could actually be a love addict. BUT, if after reading this, you can relate to half or more of these points, it's time to face the truth that you very well might be one.
Accepting this fact is the first step towards no longer obsessing over fantasies so that you can experience the truth, the work, the self-awareness, and personal accountability that's required to make a real love relationship work — and last.
Here are 6 subtle signs that you may just be a love addict:
You "Fall in Love" VERY Quickly.
C'mon now. How is it that you just met someone two weeks ago and you're already in love? More than that, how is it that you've been able to do this four times in a row?
Albert Einstein said one of my favorite quotes on love — "Gravitation cannot be held responsible for people falling in love." It's a reminder that no matter what these wack reality television shows portray or how many celebrities rotate relationships on a weekly basis, love is more of a choice than it is a feeling. And to be able to make a wise choice, you need to take out the time to get to really know someone.
And no, you don't really and truly know someone in a month. You can be attracted but not truly in love. Is there anyone that thinks what I just said is ridiculous? Well, you're already showing signs of being a love addict.
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