

This Is How Each Zodiac Sign Pairs With Scorpio In Matters Of The Heart
A Scorpio’s love life is fueled with passion, intensity, and intimacy. A Scorpio in love brings out an emotional and vulnerable side to Scorpio that not that many people see right away. They love the chase, and they are willing to pursue what it is their heart desires. They will go to the ends of the earth for those they love, and they are very protective, supportive, and loving. Not to mention, Scorpios are sexy. They naturally exude this type of magnetism and mystery in their life, and they intrigue many who come in their peripheral.
Scorpios are known to be the sexual and passionate sign of the zodiac, and there is a reason for this. Scorpios are ruled by the 8th house of intimacy, sex, commitment, and emotional depth. Scorpio also rules the reproductive system and sexual organs of the body. Needless to say, the sex life of a Scorpio is one for the books. Their stamina is unmatched, and people’s experience with them in love is often unforgettable in many different ways.
The downside of Scorpio in a relationship is that they tend to get attached to people in a way that can be detrimental to them and those involved. Scorpio’s emotions run high, and if not regulated properly, they can be very emotionally impulsive, leading them to make decisions they later regret. Scorpios can be led by passion and power rather than positive intention, and moves through a lot of transformations in their love life, evolving and learning more about themselves through each experience.
When Scorpio is paired with someone who they are naturally compatible with, however, fewer challenges get in the way of the positive and harmonious traits they possess. If a Scorpio feels trust and safety in their relationship, you will get the best of them. Overall when it comes to a Scorpio in love, they are like sour patch kids. First, they're sour, then they’re sweet.
Scorpio + Aries Love Compatibility
Scorpio and Aries have an immediate connection that is fueled by the fiery energy they both contain. These two come together through their passionate demeanor and they often hit it off right away. The challenges here come through during the relationship as with both of these signs being ruled by Mars, there can be a tendency for disagreements and aggressiveness in this relationship. The intimacy is great, but is it worth the fights and heated arguments? This pairing will have to work on being open to each other’s perspectives and feelings and watch out for power struggles between each other.
Scorpio + Taurus Love Compatibility
This is a soulmate pairing. One of Scorpio’s best matches in life is a Taurus. Scorpio and Taurus are sister signs, meaning they are on the exact opposite sides of the zodiac wheel, and they’re like the yin and yang. Scorpio and Taurus give power couple energy, and they accomplish a lot together. What makes this relationship work is that they both tend to have the same goals and need for security within a partnership. There is a good give and take here, and Taurus is someone who brings out a more calm and dedicated Scorpio. This is a relationship that will go the distance.
Scorpio + Gemini Love Compatibility
Scorpio and Gemini together is a bit of a chaotic pairing. There is a lack of similarities in the relationship to sustain this connection, but they do make life very interesting together. Gemini's energy is too curious for Scorpio’s “I need to know everything” personality. Scorpios in a relationship want to go deep and know everything about their partner. This type of vulnerability is what makes them feel safe in a relationship. Gemini starts to feel claustrophobic with this type of attention, and they would have to learn to understand what each other needs in order to make this relationship work.
Scorpio + Cancer Love Compatibility
This water sign duo is a match for the books. Scorpio and Cancer are a sweet couple and a couple that puts each other first. This is a pairing that has both love and friendship, and they also tend to have a good family base and support system around them. The intimacy and sexual chemistry between Scorpio and Cancer are off the charts, and this is an unforgettable connection. Being that this is a water-water duo, emotions will run high in this relationship, however, and things will get messy if there is not enough grounded energy and logic. This couple will need to be careful with the dramatics and emotional impulsivities, however, there is enough chemistry and love here to end up at the altar.
Scorpio + Leo Love Compatibility
Scorpio and Leo are not a pairing you see too often. Although there is passion, this is often a fling type of relationship where there is an immediate spark and connection, but one or other ghosts never speak again. You don’t see too many Scorpios and Leos together for years because this pairing tends to have a lot of ego struggles. What makes this work is if they both put their egos aside, and look at each other as human beings looking to connect and not someone looking to conquer the other. Scorpio and Leo are both fixed signs and it can be hard to compromise or cooperate with one another, as they tend to be stuck in their ways.
Scorpio + Virgo Love Compatibility
This is another soulmate relationship. Scorpio and Virgos are some of the most similar zodiac signs, and their zodiac symbol is also very similar as well, showing the connection these two have. Scorpio and Virgo are both lovers and best friends. They get each other and are both highly intuitive individuals, giving this couple an ethereal type of energy together. Scorpio encourages self-empowerment and passion within Virgo, and Virgo shows Scorpio the importance of the mind, and of slowing down more to enjoy life. This is a couple that can have fun together out and about, and also be completely satisfied staying home and being in their own world. This is a very good match.
Scorpio + Libra Love Compatibility
Scorpio and Libra are right next to each other on the zodiac wheel, which is just about the only similarity they have. Scorpio and Libra are a couple that would have to put in the work in order to make the relationship last. Although they are both relationship-oriented signs, Scorpio tends to be more dominant in their approach than Libra. Libra wants to be swept off their feet and loves to romanticize their life. Scorpio loves the idea of this rom-com type of life, but when it comes to living in it, it leaves them feeling more uneasy than settled. The thing about Libra and Scorpio together is that Scorpio tends to feel like the rug is going to be pulled under the feet at any moment.
Scorpio + Scorpio Love Compatibility
A Scorpio/Scorpio pairing is intense, intimate, and hot. This is a relationship where you wouldn’t expect these two to go together and be compatible, but they prove everyone wrong. The thing about dating your own sign is that there is an underlying energy of just getting each other in a way that no one else can. This is especially true for a Scorpio and Scorpio match as these two aren’t open books, so the fact that they can understand each other without having to dig too deep right away, makes them feel more safe and comfortable to pursue the relationship. This is a healing, passionate, and empowering couple.
Scorpio + Sagittarius Love Compatibility
A Scorpio and Sagittarius couple is rare, and to be honest, a little underrated. Scorpio and Sagittarius together create a life of adventure, freedom, and hope. Sagittarius helps Scorpios get out of their emotions, and into the world. Scorpio shows Sagittarius that emotions aren’t scary or something to run away from and that the further you are willing to go within, the more treasures you can find and healing that can take place. Scorpio provides security in the relationship, while Sagittarius provides flexibility. If they are willing to work together and get to know each other better, this can work.
Scorpio + Capricorn Love Compatibility
Scorpio and Capricorn are the power couple of the zodiac. This relationship is all about evolving together and creating a successful and passionate life together. Scorpio meets their match when it comes to Capricorn, and they can’t get away with a lot of the stuff they can with other zodiac signs. Their driven and goal-oriented personalities are what makes this couple pair so well, and they tend to create a nice life and family life together. They will need to work on not being too hard on each other however and will need to remember to put romance and positive energy into the relationship as well.
Scorpio + Aquarius Love Compatibility
This is an eccentric couple. Scorpio and Aquarius tend to hit it off right away, and they just vibe. What makes them have this immediate connection is that both of these signs tend to be lone wolves in life. They can sense this energy from each other, and immediately understand that they come from the same place. When it comes to longevity in the relationship and if this relationship can last the tests of time, that is a different story. In order to make this relationship work, they will have to make sure they are growing together in life and that they aren’t moving in separate directions. This relationship tends to be better in theory than in reality.
Scorpio + Pisces Love Compatibility
Scorpio and Pisces make a highly emotional, intuitive, and compassionate relationship. They deeply understand each other and want to make the relationship work. They both tend to cater to each other’s feelings in this relationship and will go the distance to make sure the relationship is doing well. The work they are both willing to put in is what makes this relationship work, and they are both willing to do so because they genuinely love each other. With all water/water signs duos, however, they have to watch out for over-compromising and letting emotions rule everything, and if they are willing to take things slow and really examine the intentions of the relationship and what they both want as a couple, this can be a forever.
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Tayler Barakat is a Mystic who has studied Astrology for over a decade. She does intuitive astrology and tarot readings for people all over the world, and her work focuses on healing and empowering individuals. Follow her on Instagram @taylerbarakat_ and check out her website www.listentothevirgo.com.
Exclusive: Gabrielle Union On Radical Transparency, Being Diagnosed With Perimenopause And Embracing What’s Next
Whenever Gabrielle Union graces the movie screen, she immediately commands attention. From her unforgettable scenes in films like Bring It On and Two Can Play That Game to her most recent film, in which she stars and produces Netflix’s The Perfect Find, there’s no denying that she is that girl.
Off-screen, she uses that power for good by sharing her trials and tribulations with other women in hopes of helping those who may be going through the same things or preventing them from experiencing them altogether. Recently, the Flawless by Gabrielle Union founder partnered with Clearblue to speak at the launch of their Menopause Stage Indicator, where she also shared her experience with being perimenopausal.
In a xoNecoleexclusive, the iconic actress opens up about embracing this season of her life, new projects, and overall being a “bad motherfucker.” Gabrielle reveals that she was 37 years old when she was diagnosed with perimenopause and is still going through it at 51 years old. Mayo Clinic says perimenopause “refers to the time during which your body makes the natural transition to menopause, marking the end of the reproductive years.”
“I haven't crossed over the next phase just yet, but I think part of it is when you hear any form of menopause, you automatically think of your mother or grandmother. It feels like an old-person thing, but for me, I was 37 and like not understanding what that really meant for me. And I don't think we focus so much on the word menopause without understanding that perimenopause is just the time before menopause,” she tells us.
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"But you can experience a lot of the same things during that period that people talk about, that they experienced during menopause. So you could get a hot flash, you could get the weight gain, the hair loss, depression, anxiety, like all of it, mental health challenges, all of that can come, you know, at any stage of the menopausal journey and like for me, I've been in perimenopause like 13, 14 years. When you know, most doctors are like, ‘Oh, but it's usually about ten years, and I'm like, ‘Uhh, I’m still going (laughs).’”
Conversations about perimenopause, fibroids, and all the things that are associated with women’s bodies have often been considered taboo and thus not discussed publicly. However, times are changing, and thanks to the Gabrielle’s and the Tia Mowry’s, more women are having an authentic discourse about women’s health. These open discussions lead to the creation of more safe spaces and support for one another.
“I want to be in community with folks. I don't ever want to feel like I'm on an island about anything. So, if I can help create community where we are lacking, I want to be a part of that,” she says. “So, it's like there's no harm in talking about it. You know what I mean? Like, I was a bad motherfucker before perimenopause. I’m a bad motherfucker now, and I'll be a bad motherfucker after menopause. Know what I’m saying? None of that has to change. How I’m a bad motherfucker, I welcome that part of the change. I'm just getting better and stronger and more intelligent, more wise, more patient, more compassionate, more empathetic. All of that is very, very welcomed, and none of it should be scary.”
The Being Mary Jane star hasn’t been shy about her stance on therapy. If you don’t know, here’s a hint: she’s all for it, and she encourages others to try it as well. She likens therapy to dating by suggesting that you keep looking for the right therapist to match your needs. Two other essential keys to her growth are radical transparency and radical acceptance (though she admits she is still working on the latter).
"I was a bad motherfucker before perimenopause. I’m a bad motherfucker now, and I'll be a bad motherfucker after menopause. Know what I’m saying? None of that has to change. How I’m a bad motherfucker, I welcome that part of the change."
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“I hope that a.) you recognize that you're not alone. Seek out help and know that it's okay to be honest about what the hell is happening in your life. That's the only way that you know you can get help, and that's also the only other way that people know that you are in need if there's something going on,” she says, “because we have all these big, very wild, high expectations of people, but if they don't know what they're actually dealing with, they're always going to be failing, and you will always be disappointed. So how about just tell the truth, be transparent, and let people know where you are. So they can be of service, they can be compassionate.”
Gabrielle’s transparency is what makes her so relatable, and has so many people root for her. Whether through her TV and film projects, her memoirs, or her social media, the actress has a knack for making you feel like she’s your homegirl. Scrolling through her Instagram, you see the special moments with her family, exciting new business ventures, and jaw-dropping fashion moments. Throughout her life and career, we’ve seen her evolve in a multitude of ways. From producing films to starting a haircare line to marriage and motherhood, her journey is a story of courage and triumph. And right now, in this season, she’s asking, “What’s next?”
“This is a season of discovery and change. In a billion ways,” says the NAACP Image Award winner. “The notion of like, ‘Oh, so and so changed. They got brand new.’ I want you to be brand new. I want me to be brand new. I want us to be always constantly growing, evolving. Having more clarity, moving with different purpose, like, and all of that is for me very, very welcomed."
"I want you to be brand new. I want me to be brand new. I want us to be always constantly growing, evolving. Having more clarity, moving with different purpose, like, and all of that is for me very, very welcomed."
She continues, “So I'm just trying to figure out what's next. You know what I mean? I'm jumping into what's next. I'm excited going into what's next and new. I'm just sort of embracing all of what life has to offer.”
Look out for Gabrielle in the upcoming indie film Riff Raff, which is a crime comedy starring her and Jennifer Coolidge, and she will also produce The Idea of You, which stars Anne Hathaway.
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A dead bedroom can kill any relationship. In all long-term, committed relationships, couples experience various phases, from the initial passion to a more complex and enduring connection. Yet, as time passes, sex may decrease, which introduces an issue often referred to as "bed death."
According to Advance Psychology Partners, 'bed death' occurs when individuals in a committed relationship experience a decline in the frequency of sexual activity and fall short of the desires of both or either partner. It is sometimes labeled a "sexless relationship" due to the infrequency of sex. In the U.S., an estimated 20 million people find themselves in such relationships.
This shift is a significant change for couples. Let’s face it: no one wants to be in a sexless marriage or relationship. But how can couples effectively confront the impact of fading physical intimacy on the overall health of their enduring partnership?
"I have found that many factors influence one's desire to dive, and it is often not a majority of just one thing. Most people assume that if they don't desire [sex], they are no longer physically attracted, but in my experience, that has little to do with it most of the time," explained Brittanni Young, LMFT, CST.
"Some of the heavy contributors that I see most often include excessive goal orientation towards orgasm, people not prioritizing their own sexuality, and the landfill of ‘should’s’ that develop from toxic sexual scripts created long ago in upbringing," she added.
Furthermore, these issues are not exclusive to any particular orientation, but it does manifest differently.
Young is a licensed marriage and family therapist, sexologist, and board-certified sex therapist who practices in Georgia and Florida. She has worked in the sexology field for over a decade. Young helps couples and individuals looking to get through challenges of all facets facing sexuality and intimacy, such as desire mismatch, over-compulsion, and dysfunctions. She recently launched a deck of intimacy connection cards called "Show Me Your Cards." Young is working on another product that helps teach children to consent and negotiate appropriate touch. She sat down with xoNecole to discuss what causes the decline in the bedroom, the myth of 'lesbian bed death,' and recommendations on overcoming "bed death."
The Decline In Intimacy
Intimacy often dwindles within relationships, a phenomenon triggered by various factors such as stress, the insidious monotony of routine, and the toxicity of unresolved conflicts, to name a few. While couples manage daily life, exchanging intimate desires and concerns may take a backseat. Sadly, this gradually erodes the closeness once shared in the relationship.
"Typically, the first thing I do when working with a couple on desire challenges is rule out medical causes by referring them to their primary care physician or other provider they are working with," Young shared. "There are times when unmanaged or mismanaged conditions factor into low desire levels. Also, many medications can wreak havoc on keeping desire levels up, such as antidepressants, SSRIs, anti-anxiety, and blood pressure medications, to name a few."
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"Next, I look at the state of the relationship. If there is dissatisfaction in the relationship, then it definitely affects how close and intimate one wants to be to another. There are also plenty of individual factors one can bring into the equation, such as low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, feelings of shame or guilt around one's own sexuality, and external life stressors that can get in the way. I find that life stressors can be a big one for folks, as once you get in the habit of not prioritizing sex, it tends to stick," she added.
Fortunately, there are ways to prevent "bed death." It can involve prioritizing your wants and open communication about sexual needs.
"What tends to be effective for all couples is taking an inventory of how satisfied they are with their sexual behaviors and engagement. Being truthful in this vein can be the start of unlocking inhibitions that can keep you from seeking out and being genuinely vulnerable in intimate spaces," Young explained. "Next, I suggest opening up lines of communication around these truths. When people assume that nothing can be done, hope is lost."
The Myth Of 'Lesbian Bed Death'
The notion of "lesbian bed death" perpetuates a simplistic and inaccurate stereotype about the sexual dynamics within lesbian relationships. Contrary to the myth, the experience of a decline in intimacy is not universal among lesbian couples. The diverse spectrum of relationships among women challenges this oversimplified narrative, emphasizing that the complexities of sexual dynamics extend beyond stereotypical assumptions.
"The notion of 'lesbian bed death' is based on a research study done by Pepper Schwartz in 1983 that found that lesbian couplings fell behind in sexual frequency compared to heterosexual and gay male couplings," Young revealed.
"Several other studies [after] have replicated these findings but give very little information about sexual satisfaction. Despite there being more research needed overall in the sexuality field, more recent research did find that when it comes to the length of sexual encounters, lesbian couples had the longest duration of encounters. To that end, sexual quality over quantity is a better marker of satisfaction, and that is what I pay most attention to in my work. With that said, dissatisfaction can happen in all couplings over time," the sexologist continued.
Factors influencing reduced intimacy among lesbian couples may include communication challenges, societal pressures, and individual variations in libido. Menstruation can also play a role, with some couples navigating discomfort or hormonal changes during this period.
"There are certainly some nuances that come into play with lesbian couples that differ from heterosexual or other-oriented couples. As I stated earlier, physiological factors can factor into the rise and fall of libido. The hormone fluctuations that come from menstruation and menopause can impact desire levels, and it is double present in lesbian couples. Another nuance is the lack of a sexual script from society on lesbian sexual behavior. There are patriarchal roots to sexual research, which have created our societal norms that tend to leave out anyone who isn't heterosexual," Young stated.
Overcoming The Challenges
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While 'bed death' challenges couples, solutions are within reach. By identifying and addressing the underlying causes, couples can rekindle the flame of intimacy and ensure a healthier, more fulfilling relationship.
"In the words of Esther Perel, another sexual professional in the field, 'love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery.' I recommend keeping it in the front of your mind, prioritizing, and keeping it interesting. Be open to learning more about your own sexuality every day, as well as your partner. You are always growing; what worked for you 20 years ago may not be the same today. Stay curious with one another and be open to exploring new ways to pleasure. You deserve it," Young said.
For instance, Young advised that couples should "keep sexual encounters light and playful." And not be afraid to introduce new elements, such as toys.
"Touch often in ways that are consensual and feel safe! I made 'Show Me Your Cards' to serve this purpose specifically. Just because you do not feel in the mood to go all the way does not mean you aren't in the mood to hold hands, exchange body massages, or dance together. Connecting often in any physical form, as long as it feels pleasurable, still counts as 'being in the mood,'" she said.
Overcoming the hurdles of "bed death" and debunking myths surrounding 'lesbian bed death' offers a unique perspective for couples grappling with the difficulties of sustaining a connection. Learning the proper ways to work through a sexless relationship can help foster a healthier, more fulfilling relationship.
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