"I've grown. If it doesn't water me I don't want it." - Teshia Ivana
When I scrolled past this simple statement on Facebook, I felt it so deep down in my spirit that I almost caught the Holy Ghost.
I am not a snack. I am a whole ass garden—one that needs water, sunlight, and love from an equally yoked partner to thrive and if a relationship can't promise growth, I want absolutely no parts and in Halle Berry's recent interview with People, our good sis had that same energy. The 53-year-old mother-of-two shared that although she's been single for the last three years, it has been my choice—not force.
"I've learned a lot being with my children. They are the best company for me right now, and when I divorced Maceo's dad I've been pretty alone by myself going on three years now. Decidedly so, for sure."
The actress, who divorced her third husband, Olivier Martinez in 2016, told People that while in the past, she'd usually prefer to be boo'd up, she's taken a break from dating to focus on herself and I felt that.
"I have decided to take time. I'm very much a relationship-oriented person, I always want to be with someone. But I decided, no I'm going to slow my roll, I'm going to take a minute and I'm going to spend time with me."
Halle says that although she didn't initially expect her single season to last three years, she knows that it was time well spent.
"I knew I was going to take at least a year, one full year. One year led to two years and two years is now leading to three years," she said with a laugh. "But I'm fine because I think the next relationship I have I think I will have a better chance of attracting and choosing what's right for me because I've taken this time to think about what's important to me."
Falling in love hit different when you know yourself and after 53 years, three divorces, and two children, Halle Berry has learned this firsthand:
"I no longer feel the need for a relationship so I don't feel the need to rush or accept something that's not totally right for me. Not that anything's wrong with the people I've been with but I'm going to wait for my match or I will stay solo and be with my kids and do my life the way I'm doing it."
Being alone doesn't mean you have to be lonely, and Halle wants us to know that your singledom isn't a curse, issa gift. She had this advice for women who are searching to find solace in solitude:
"You know what I think the gift is, and this is something that comes with age, the gift of your own company. And you can start it by maybe taking a short trip, a weekend trip and seeing how that feels. I promise you, you will start to enjoy that time and being with yourself and your company being the most important company."
Click here to read the full interview!
Featured image by Shutterstock.com