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Lizzo Talks Feeling Herself Even When She Isn't Really Feeling Herself

Lizzo needs you to know the only opinion of herself that matters is her own.

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Lizzo has had one helluva month, and we're literally only 12 days in. A few days ago, the 31-year-old entertainer let it all hang out at a Lakers' game, triggering a polarizing online debate that had everyone (and they mama) talking. Despite whatever your thoughts may be about her bodaciously bold courtside move, it's important to note that Lizzo didn't become the number one artist in the country by giving a damn about what other people have to say, and that's big facts.

If you didn't know who the "Truth Hurts" singer was in 2019, it's clear that sis refuses to be ignored in 2020. Earlier this week, TIME named the Detroit-born diva Entertainer of The Year, and in her interview, she got real about the effect her newfound success has had on her mental state. The singer explained that although her music was quickly climbing the charts, she still felt stuck in rut she couldn't seem to shake until recently.

"From March to… now! I was experiencing a little bit of unhappiness. I was not happy with the way I felt to my body. I didn't feel sexy, and I didn't know when it was going to end. There were times when I would go onstage and be like, 'Y'all, I'm not going to lie. I'm not feeling myself.'"

We all have moments of insecurity, but Lizzo just so happened to be managing hers in front of the entire world. She explained that there were even times during her shows where she would break down in tears:

"Sometimes I'd break down and cry. Sometimes the audience would just cheer to make me feel better. I was getting sick a lot. I was like, What the f-ck is going on? I need to fall back in love with my body. I didn't want to be famous. I wanted to be like Brandon Boyd from Incubus! I just want to go to the farmers' market."

Now, after surviving the death of her father, chronic depression, and an overflow of f*ckboys, Lizzo needs you to know the only opinion of herself that matters is her own. Along with Skyping her therapist on the road, Lizzo says being her truest self in front of her fans has allowed her to fall out of the comment section and back in love with her own body. She told The Los Angeles Times:

"I'm not like a consummate performer that puts on this happy face. I'm an emoter. And sometimes I cry when I sing these songs. I just started bringing my therapist on the road via Skype. I don't hide what I'm going through. And that's why my music is the way it is."

For Lizzo, being body-positive AF keeps her feeling herself even if she isn't really feeling herself.

"I think it's healthy to have a relationship with your naked body, even if no one ever sees it. But I've always felt the need to share it."

To check out Lizzo's full interview, click here!

Featured image by Instagram/@LizzoBeEating.

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This post is in partnership with Ulta Beauty.

"I'm a better mother, I'm a better wife, and I'm a better boss, because I take care of myself."

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In the midst of raising three young children, running her personal brand, and maintaining a household, Mattie is diligent about putting self-care dates into her planning just like she would a meeting. That includes therapy appointments, massages, or even quiet time to do absolutely nothing. These are essential wellness tactics that all serve her so that she can better serve others.

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The Cult Classic Purifying Face Cleanser

The Cult Classic Purifying Face Cleanser

A TULA essential, this purifying Gel-Based Cleanser removes dirt, impurities & makeup without stripping or over-drying.

Tula
$28

Take The Day Off Cleansing Balm

Take Off The Day Cleansing Balm Makeup Remover

Clinique Take The Day Off Cleansing Balm is a silky, lightweight makeup remover that quickly dissolves tenacious eye and face makeups, sunscreens.

Clinique
$36

Take The Day Off Makeup Remover For Lids, Lashes & Lips

Take The Day Off Makeup Remover For Lids, Lashes & Lips

Clinique's best-selling makeup remover Take The Day Off Makeup Remover For Lids, Lashes & Lips is a totally tugless formula that whisks away makeup.

Clinique
$21

C-Tango Multivitamin Eye Cream

Drunk Elephant's C-Tango is a rich and restorative eye cream featuring a brightening combination of eight peptides, five forms of vitamin C, and cucumber extract for firmer, stronger-looking skin around the eye area.

Drunk Elephant
$64

Tonique Confort Rehydrating Comforting Toner With Acacia Honey

Lancôme Tonique Confort Re-Hydrating Comforting Toner with Acacia Honey

Tonique Confort is a soothing, alcohol-free facial toner that improves skin hydration in just 15 minutes and gently cleanses, preps skin and reveals a visible glow.

Lancôme
$35

Salicylic Acid 2% Anhydrous Solution

Salicylic Acid 2% Anhydrous Solution

The Ordinary Salicylic Acid 2% Anhydrous Solution is a squalane based, non-irritating serum formulated with salicylic acid to effectively decongest the skin and provide surface exfoliation.

The Ordinary
$6.50

Lotus Youth Preserve Dream Face Cream

fresh Lotus Youth Preserve Dream Face Cream

fresh Lotus Youth Preserve Dream Face Cream recovers & detoxifies while minimizing signs of aging for more rested, youthful-looking skin by morning.

fresh
$54

Pro-Retinol Body Butter

Pro-Retinol Body Butter

Pro-Retinol: now available for your body. Josie Maran's Whipped Argan Pro-Retinol Body Butter is a lusciously whipped body butter infused with gentle and effective pro-retinol for a smoother, firmer-looking, deeply hydrated body.

Josie Maran
$46

100% Pure Argan Oil

100% Pure Argan Oil

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