
Yung Miami Opens Up About Personal And Career Struggles: 'I Lost Myself'

Caresha Brownlee, aka Yung Miami, is getting vocal about recent struggles in her personal life and career. Yung Miami rose to fame in 2018 as one-half of the City Girls.
Together with JT, they released party anthems like "Act Up" and became a symbol of women's empowerment. However, after four albums, the duo decided to split, and many people have speculated about the behind-the-scenes drama between the former bandmates.
Both have admitted to the drama and say they are focusing on their separate projects. JT just released her album, City Cinderella, and Miami revealed that she is working on new music. But during her recent episode of "Caresha Please," which she co-hosted with Saucy Santana, the mom of two shared that she is struggling to find herself again after constantly being hit with negative comments about herself from people online.
Yung Miami (L) and JT (R)
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"You know what it is, Santana, I feel like I lost my personality," she started. "The reason why I lost my personality is because everything is so literally now. Like we can just be at the pool talking something, and the next day, you wake up, and it's a headline and it just goes so deep."
She continued, "It just feels like I lost myself because normally, you know, I used to be on (Instagram) Live all day, Santana. We'll be riding around and call Juicy Crab anywhere we on Live.
"Now, I'm scared to pop up my Live. That's like the other day, we at the pool, I'm like Santana I'mma turn off my Live 'cause I feel like people build you up to break you down."
Aside from the music, Miami became known for her big personality. She and best friend Santana would often get on Instagram Live together and joke on each other and share funny stories, which went viral from time to time. However, she feels that what helped her appeal to a broader audience is now one of the negative criticisms she receives.
"So the reason why people fell in love with me, now it's just like, oh you so ignorant, you so this, and I just feel like I don't have a personality no more, and it just really hurts," she admitted.
The "Rap Freaks" artist also talked about her relationship with Diddy and finally broke her silence about the abuse allegations made against him. While Miami said she has experienced abuse in previous relationships, that was not her experience with the Bad Boy founder.
Diddy and Yung Miami in September 2023
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“I can’t speak on something that wasn’t my experience and I can’t speak on something that I don’t know,” she said after people condemned her for being silent. “I can’t speak on these allegations because I wasn’t around at the time.”
She continued, “I met Diddy when the world was celebrating him and giving him his flowers while he was still alive,” she said. “So I was celebrating him with the world and I just feel like everybody is crucifying me for it.”
In November 2023, singer Cassie Ventura sued Diddy and accused him of rape, domestic abuse and other heinous acts. They quickly settled the next day, and months later, a video came out showing the rapper chasing down the "Long Way 2 Go" singer and physically abusing her.
Miami admitted that their relationship was mutually beneficial and that they did fall in love, but she is against domestic violence, and they ultimately separated.
The 30 year-old, however, was able to take what she learned from the disgraced mogul and apply it to her businesses and her career going forward.
"I think that when you get around people, you see certain things. You should be able to learn from somebody and I felt like I was able to see how should my business be operating," she said.
"I should have a chief of staff, I should have a business manager, I should have all these things in place and that's what I was learning. I took that more of like a learning experience as far as tryna become a mogul. That's why I'm like, I'm a mogul. I'm a businesswoman. I'm not just a rapper like I'm bigger than rap."
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Devale Ellis On Being A Provider, Marriage Growth & Redefining Fatherhood
In this candid episode of the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker talked with Devale Ellis, actor, social media personality, and star of Zatima, about modern masculinity, learning to be a better husband, emotional presence in marriage, fatherhood for Black men, and leading by example.
“I Wasn’t Present Emotionally”: Devale Ellis on Marriage Growth
Devale Ellis On Learning He Was a ‘Bad Husband’
Ellis grew up believing that a man should prioritize providing for his family. “I know this may come off as misogynistic, but I feel like it’s my responsibility as a man to pay for everything,” he said, emphasizing the wise guidance passed down by his father. However, five years into his marriage to long-time partner Khadeen Ellis, he realized provision wasn’t just financial.
“I was a bad husband because I wasn’t present emotionally… I wasn’t concerned about what she needed outside of the resources.”
Once he shifted his mindset, his marriage improved. “In me trying to be of service to her, I learned that me being of service created a woman who is now willing to be of service to me.”
On Redefining Masculinity and Fatherhood
For Ellis, “being a man is about being consistent.” As a father of four, he sees parenthood as a chance to reshape the future.
“Children give you another chance at life. I have four different opportunities right now to do my life all over again.”
He also works to uplift young Black men, reinforcing their worth in a world that often undermines them. His values extend to his career—Ellis refuses to play roles that involve domestic violence or sexual assault.
Watch the full episode below:
On Marriage, Family Planning, and Writing His Story
After his wife’s postpartum preeclampsia, Ellis chose a vasectomy over her taking hormonal birth control, further proving his commitment to their partnership. He and Khadeen share their journey in We Over Me, and his next book, Raising Kings: How Fatherhood Saved Me From Myself, is on the way.
Through honesty and growth, Devale Ellis challenges traditional ideas of masculinity, making his story one that resonates deeply with millennial women.
For the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker peels back the layers of masculinity with candid conversations that challenge stereotypes and celebrate vulnerability. Real men. Real stories. Real talk.
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Calling All Lovers: October London, Tamar Braxton & Ro James Deliver A Soulful Serenade
If there was ever a night to pull out your best leather jacket, call up an old flame, and lean into your soft, sultry era, The October Nights: Calling All Lovers tour was it.
Presented by Black Promoters Collective, the show brought an evening of lush vocals, smooth grooves, and unapologetic grown-folks business to Atlanta—with Ro James, Tamar Braxton, and the man of the hour, October London, leading the charge. The energy? Sensual. The vibe? Intoxicating (literally and figuratively—more on that in a minute).
Ro James kicked off the night with his signature raspy vocals and a cool confidence that immediately set the tone. While “Permission” was the undeniable crowd favorite (with couples slow-dancing in their seats and people swaying with their phones in the air), he also dug deeper into his catalog, delivering seductive mid-tempos and moody ballads that reminded us he’s not a one-hit wonder—he’s a whole vibe.
Next up, Tamar Braxton took the stage with diva energy and vocal acrobatics that had the crowd on their feet. Her set was a perfect mix of emotion and edge—songs like “My Man,” “All the Way Home,” and “Love & War” hit every heartstring, but she didn’t stop there.
Tamar tapped into her earlier work, showing her full vocal range and reminding everyone that she’s one of the most powerful voices of her generation. Between tracks, she got personal with the audience, sharing laughs and stories like we were all cousins at the family reunion.
Oh—and in case you missed it: “Braxtons are coming back.” 👀 Consider that a soft launch if we’ve ever heard one.
Then came the velvet king himself: October London.
From the moment he stepped on stage, it felt like time slowed down. Backed by a silky live band and powerhouse background vocalists The Shindellas — Kaso, Stacy, and Tam, October’s set was pure R&B indulgence.
He opened with songs like “She Keeps Calling” and “Make Me Wanna,” blending retro soul with modern sensuality. Every note was intentional, every lyric soaked in emotion.
“Touch On Me” and “3rd Shift” had the crowd in a trance, while “Lovers Interlude” and “You Look Better” brought things to a tender, candlelit close.
And because this is October London we’re talking about—of course, he came with the charm. “If I come down there and sing with you,” he teased one woman in the front row, “you gon’ get pregnant.” The entire room screamed.
He also took a moment to introduce his newest venture—a signature whiskey that he’s currently promoting on tour. Smooth music, smooth vocals, smooth whiskey? A trifecta for the grown and sexy.
To top off the night, there was even a surprise pop-up from Tyrese, sending the crowd into full nostalgic overload.
By the end of the night, it was clear: this wasn’t just a concert—it was a love letter to R&B. The October Nights: Calling All Lovers tour captured the essence of grown-up intimacy, storytelling, and soul. No gimmicks. Just real voices, real feelings, and really good music.
If October London is the future of modern soul, we’re all in.
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