'I Am Finally Ready To Tell My Story': Cassie Sues Ex Sean Combs, Accuses Him Of Control & Abuse
In a shocking turn of events, a lawsuit brought to federal court on Thursday (Nov. 16), R&B singer Casandra "Cassie" Ventura accuses rapper and media mogul Sean "Diddy" Combs of rape and subjecting her to years of control and abuse throughout their decade-long relationship.
Per The New York Times, Cassie, who was a signed artist under Diddy's label and 19 at the time they met, alleges in her suit against the famed record executive that she experienced a cycle of abuse and control from Diddy starting not long after they met in 2005 and later signed to Bad Boy.
According to the filing, this reportedly included several incidents of physical abuse (the filing notes beatings that occurred "multiple times each year") as well as forcing her to engage in sexual encounters with male prostitutes where he watched and filmed the acts as a part of his "voyeurism" fantasy that was referred to as "freak offs" by Diddy according to the documents. Cassie also alleges being raped toward the end of their relationship in 2018.
The lawsuit asserts that Diddy kept Cassie plied with "copious amounts of drugs," including ketamine and ecstasy, drugs that "allowed her to disassociate." Due to the alleged violence and beatings she would receive, the lawsuit notes that she was fearful that seeking help from law enforcement "would merely give Mr. Combs another excuse to hurt her."
Additionally, Cassie claims in her lawsuit that Diddy's control included having access to her medical records, paying for her car, her clothes, and her apartment, and beating her as a means of intimidation or retribution in incidents where she didn't adhere to his methods of control. "Ms. Ventura felt that saying ‘no’ to Mr. Combs would cost her something — her family, her friends, her career, or even her life," the suit reads.
The 37-year-old "Me & U" singer detailed an incident that happened involving rapper Kid Cudi, whom she briefly dated in 2011 during a time she and Diddy had cooled off their relationship. Diddy became irate after discovering their email correspondences on her phone. Cassie tried to run away at the time, but "feeling like she could not escape Mr. Combs and his network of enforcers, Ms. Ventura returned to Mr. Combs," the suit says. "He hit her several times, and then kicked her in the back as she tried to run out the door."
The suit goes on to say that in 2012, Diddy threatened to blow up Kid Cudi's car "and that he wanted to ensure that Kid Cudi was home with his friends when it happened," the lawsuit states. "Around that time, Kid Cuid's car exploded in his driveway," the suit went on to say.
Since news of her lawsuit broke, Kid Cudi has confirmed Cassie's claims of what went down. "This is all true," the "Rose Golden" rapper said in a statement via a spokesperson.
"In one incident described in the court papers, Cassie says that in early 2012, Diddy grew so angry about her dating Kid Cudi that he said he would blow up the rapper’s car. “Around that time,” the suit says, “Kid Cudi’s car exploded in his driveway.”
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Regarding Thursday's filing, Cassie shared a statement within the legal document where she says:
“After years in silence and darkness. I am finally ready to tell my story, and to speak up on behalf of myself and for the benefit of other women who face violence and abuse in their relationships.”
Diddy has responded to the lawsuit, calling the allegations "offensive and outrageous" and implying that it's all blackmail. In a statement for Diddy, his lawyer, Ben Brafman said, "Mr. Combs vehemently denies these offensive and outrageous allegations. For the past six months, Mr. Combs has been subjected to Ms. Ventura’s persistent demand of $30 million, under the threat of writing a damaging book about their relationship, which was unequivocally rejected as blatant blackmail.
"Despite withdrawing her initial threat, Ms. Ventura has now resorted to filing a lawsuit riddled with baseless and outrageous lies, aiming to tarnish Mr. Combs’s reputation and seeking a payday," Brafman adds.
The damages Cassie is seeking with her filing have not been specified, but her suit was filed under New York's Adult Survivors Act, which allows people who claim to be victims of sexual offenses to file lawsuits even if the statute of limitations has expired.
"With the expiration of New York's Adult Survivors Act fast approaching it became clear that this was an opportunity to speak up about the trauma I have experienced and that I will be recovering from for the rest of my life," Cassie said in her filing.
Sending prayers of protection over Cassie and her family during this time.
For additional details, read the New York Times article here. You can also read the lawsuit in full here.
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This Black Woman-Owned Creative Agency Shows Us The Art Of Rebranding
Rebranding is an intricate process and very important to the success of businesses that want to change. However, before a business owner makes this decision, they should determine whether it's a rebrand or an evolution.
That's where people like Lola Adewuya come in. Lola is the founder and CEO of The Brand Doula, a brand development studio with a multidisciplinary approach to branding, social media, marketing, and design.
While an evolution is a natural progression that happens as businesses grow, a rebrand is a total change. Lola tells xoNecole, "A total rebrand is necessary when a business’s current reputation/what it’s known for is at odds with the business’s vision or direction.
"For example, if you’ve fundamentally changed what your product is and does, it’s likely that your brand is out of alignment with the business. Or, if you find your company is developing a reputation that doesn’t serve it, it might be time to pump the brakes and figure out what needs to change.
She continues, "Sometimes you’ll see companies (especially startups) announce a name change that comes with updated messaging, visuals, etc. That usually means their vision has changed or expanded, and their previous branding was too narrow/couldn’t encompass everything they planned to do."
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The Brand Doula was born in 2019, and its focus is on putting "the experiences, goals, and needs of women of color founders first," as well as brands with "culture-shifting missions."
According to Lola, culture-shifting is "the act of influencing dominant behavior, beliefs, or experiences in a community or group (ideally, for the better)."
"At The Brand Doula, we work with companies and leaders that set out to challenge the status quo in their industries and communities. They’re here to make an impact that sends ripples across the market," she says.
"We help the problem solvers of the world — the ones who aren't satisfied with 'this is how it's always been' and instead ask 'how could this be better?' Our clients build for impact, reimagining tools, systems, and ways of living to move cultures forward."
The Brand Doula has worked with many brands, including Too Collective, to assist with their collaboration with Selena Gomez's Rare Beauty and Balanced Black Girl for a "refresh," aka rebrand. For businesses looking to rebrand, Lola shares four essential steps.
1. Do an audit of your current brand experience — what’s still relevant and what needs to change? Reflect on why you’re doing the rebrand in the first place and what success would look like after relaunching.
2. Tackle the overall strategy first — before you start redesigning logos and websites, align on a new vision for your brand. How do you want your company to be positioned moving forward? Has your audience changed at all? Will your company have a fresh personality and voice?
3. Bring your audience along the journey — there’s no need to move in secret. Inviting your current audience into the journey can actually help them feel more connected to and invested in your story, enough to stick around as changes are being made.
4. Keep business moving — one of my biggest pet peeves is when companies take down their websites as soon as they have the idea to rebrand, then have a Coming Soon page up for months! You lose a lot of momentum and interest by doing that. If you’re still in business and generating income, continue to operate while you work on your rebrand behind the scenes. You don’t want to cut existing customers off out of the blue, and you also don’t want so much downtime that folks forget your business exists or start looking for other solutions.
While determining whether the rebrand was successful may take a few months, Lola says a clear sign that it is unsuccessful is negative feedback from your target audience. "Customers are typically more vocal about what they don’t like more than what they do like," she says.
But some good signs to look out for are improvements in engagement with your marketing, positive reviews, press and increase in retention, and overall feeling aligned with the new branding.
For more information about Lola and The Brand Doula, visit her website, thebranddoula.com.
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Exclusive: After Focusing On His Career For So Long, David Banner Is Now Ready To Find A Wife
During the Fight Night: The Million Dollar Heistpremiere, David Banner, who stars in the film, opened up about his weight loss and his desire to get married and start a family. At 50, David has accomplished many feats, from rapping, producing, and acting, and now he's ready for the next phase of his life. "I want to get married," he tells xoNecole.
"I'm tired. I want to find my wife, have some kids. We chase all of these esoteric goals, and sometimes we look back, and we left the things that really matter. I looked up one day, I had all of them, the music accolades, the film accolades, not all the ones that I want, but a lot of them. I had accomplished my goal, had chased my goal so long that when I looked up, I saw that I ran off and left everything else."
He also shares how working in the entertainment industry can sometimes affect his life and relationships with others. "We forget to be human beings, and people don't allow us to be human beings," he continues. "So, that's the reason why I said what I said, because I know what y'all platform means, and I want people to know that there are still some human beings that's up on that camera, and sometimes we hurt too."
Back in 2016, the "Like a Pimp" artist released the single "Marry Me" and shared in an exclusive interview with us how he is working on becoming his best self for his future wife.
"I just want to be the man that most Black women want to marry. I want to be a Black man that stands strong," he said. "I'm not perfect, but [I want to be the man] women want to marry and that kids want to be their father. I want to be that man. [When I die] I want people to say that that's a strong African man, I am proud that he's a part of my culture."
During our most recent interview with the "Get Like Me" rapper, he also revealed that he lost 35 lbs and dished on how important it is to take care of your body. "I have this thing that I want to be our children's superhero on the screen and off, and people always talk about mental health, but part of your mental health is what you put in your body," he says.
"People always talk about God. People always talk about the church, but the real church is your body, your temple. So I am treating my body and my temple as if God is in there."
Fight Night is out now on Peacock.
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