Victoria Monét Dishes On Relationship Boundaries And Having Trust With Her Partner
Singer and songwriter Victoria Monét discusses her sexuality while shedding light on the boundaries within her relationship.
The 34-year-old, who is openly bisexual, has been with her longtime partner John Gaines for over three years. The couple also share a two-year-old daughter Hazel Monét Gaines. Since their union, Monét and Gaines didn't disclose many details regarding their relationship with the public aside from their future plans of taking the next step. Still, all that changed during the "On My Mama" vocalist's recent appearance on Baltimore's radio station Radio One.
In the July interview, while promoting her upcoming album Jaguar II and a sold-out tour, Monét revealed why trust and a solid foundation are essential in her bond regardless of what sex she is with.
In the discussion, the mother of one shared that her partnership with Gaines works so well because even though she is physically attracted to both men and women, the pair's open line of communication, trust, and a solid foundation has played a massive role in their successful relationship.
"Whether I'm dating a man or woman, I feel like it's more so about the connection you have with each other and the trust that you have," she told the outlet. "Because even if I was going on a girls' trip and I don't like any of my quote-unquote friends, and I was doing something shady, there's a guy that has to check us in the hotel. There's like so many opportunities. It may not be one of my friends. It could be anybody I walk past."
Further into the conversation, Monét added that the pair's trust and the tight unit had created a safe space for her to participate in any activities she chose without fear of infidelity.
"It's really about the grounding you have at home and making sure that feels strong. So there's just trust there. That opens up a whole world of trips wherever. It doesn't matter who in the world you come across, you know that I'm yours, and we trust each other," she said.
Jaguar II is scheduled to be released on August 25.
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Rihanna Talks Shedding Expectations And Finding Balance As A Mother
Since becoming a mother in 2022, Rihanna has defined parenthood by her terms and hopes to pass that sense of autonomy on to her children.
For Vogue China’s April cover story, Rihanna shared her perspective on raising her two sons with A$AP Rocky, and how she hopes to preserve her children’s uniqueness, devoid of societal expectations.
"The most beautiful thing...is that [children] come into the world with their own individuality and sincerity, without any logic or conformity,” she told the publication. “Which usually makes you feel that you must fit into a certain group."
The “Work” artist, known for her trendsetting style and captivating persona, expressed her desire to support children in fully embracing their individuality and encouraging them to be whoever they want to be. "It's really beautiful to see and I want to continue to help them navigate that and make sure that they know they can be whoever they want to be,” she says.
She continues, “They should embrace it completely, because it's beautiful, and it's unique. I love them just that way."
From shattering music charts to shaking up the beauty industry, Rihanna has forged a path that has since created the “dream” life we see today. One that she says has made her parents proud of.
“I’m living my dream,” she continued. “My parents were very proud of that because they just wanted me to be happy and successful. So, I think the key thing is to find some kind of balance. Yes, balance is important. Do this and you get the best of both worlds. You can write your own life the way you want, and it will be beautiful. Sometimes, you just need to let go of everyone’s expectations and start living your own story.”
Rihanna, who shares sons, RZA, 23 months, and Riot, 8 months, with rapper A$AP Rocky, recently shared her vision for expanding her family in the future in Interview Magazine.
When stylist Mel Ottenberg asked about the number of additional children she hoped to have, Rihanna replied, "As many as God wants me to have.”
"I don't know what God wants, but I would go for more than two. I would try for my girl,” she adds. “But of course, if it's another boy, it's another boy."
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