
Taraji P. Henson Gets Candid About Aging And Mental Health: 'I Had No Idea What Was Happening To My Body'

Award-winning actress Taraji P. Henson's 2001 debut in John Singleton's box-office hit Baby Boy opened the door for the Washington D.C. native to achieve massive success on the big screen. Known for breaking ground in Hollywood, since her mainstream introduction, she has gone on to achieve enormous affluence portraying Loretha "Cookie" Lyon in the musical drama television series, Empire, and has starred in blockbuster films such as Hustle & Flow, Think Like a Man, Hidden Figures, and most recently,The Color Purple.
With being a working actress in Hollywood and constantly being in the spotlight, many wonder how one maintains the foundation of who they are, especially for heavy hitters such as Taraji P. Henson. According to Taraji, she maintains her authentic well-being by "Taking vacations, saying no, hanging out with my sister circle, going back to my roots, visiting my family, and hanging out with my grandma, who is about to turn one hundred years old."
However, with an abundance of information readily available across the internet and on social media, studies, and scholars have suggested the negative impact on one's mental and emotional health, causing many to stray away from who they truly are at the core. In this current age of instant gratification and perfectionism, Taraji advises young women to protect their peace and prioritize their well-being by not worrying "about what anyone else thinks."
She also emphasizes, "Make sure you have the information and resources you need to keep yourself prepared and empowered to live confidently, especially when it comes to aging, because, like many women, I'm experiencing changes with my body. Not all of them are fun per se, but they shouldn't have to be debilitating. The truth is, it's normal and completely natural!"
Now, in her latest quest to generate more insight behind perimenopause and maturing, the Howard University alumna has teamed up with Always Discreet to shatter stereotypes associated with "aging and changing bodies as women encounter symptoms such as bladder leaks," Taraji tells xoNecole.
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"I am super passionate about mental health, and perimenopause can have a huge impact on that. Although I do not experience bladder leaks, I had no idea what was happening to my body when I reached perimenopause. One in two women over the age of 18 experience bladder leaks in their lifetime, yet no one talks about it."
So, if no one talks about these symptoms and their inevitable effects on our bodies, how do we begin to cultivate conversations around this topic to gain more knowledge and better educate ourselves? Taraji encourages women to reach out to their medical providers to help find the best available options and, most importantly, don't be shy about it because "sharing your experience with loved ones is a great first step."
As a champion for change, there's no denying the Golden Globe award winner has utilized her platform throughout the years to enlighten, empower, and educate the masses, especially regarding mental health within the Black community. Her tireless dedication and advocacy for this work stemmed from her own mental health challenges, resulting in a pivotal moment that led to her candid and upfront approach to what was taking place in her life behind closed doors.
"The tipping point that led me to speak more openly about my mental health was when I was in search of help for myself and my son. It was quite difficult looking for a therapist who looked like us, and that was alarming to me. That's a problem because Black people are carrying seven generations of trauma that we've never unpacked, and yet there are no therapists to help us unpack it who understand the struggle."
Feeling compelled to take action to promote awareness in the Black community because "most insurance policies don't cover mental health costs," she started the Boris Lawrence Henson Foundation. According to the company's website, offerings include "access to localized and black-culturally relevant therapy, wellness resources, and a best-in-class network of professionals."
As a continued result of leading by example in caring for her overall health, Taraji promises to leave "behind all negativity" as we move forward in this new year. "I am leaving behind all the things that stop me from growing into the person I know God wants me to be. What I'm taking into the new year is more space for grace for myself and others as this world gets crazier and crazier every day. We all should work on having more grace for one another."
Taraji's sentiments are echoed as there is an increased interest in our community as many strive to live a more balanced, healthier, happier, and fulfilled life. We're all fighting battles that others may or may not know about, but extending grace is one of the easiest things we can do. And just think kindness doesn't cost or come with a price tag. It's priceless.
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Eva Marcille On Starring In 'Jason’s Lyric Live' & Being An Audacious Black Woman
Eva Marcille has taken her talents to the stage. The model-turned-actress is starring in her first play, Jason’s Lyric Live alongside Allen Payne, K. Michelle, Treach, and others.
The play, produced by Je’Caryous Johnson, is an adaptation of the film, which starred Allen Payne as Jason and Jada Pinkett Smith as Lyric. Allen reprised his role as Jason for the play and Eva plays Lyric.
While speaking to xoNecole, Eva shares that she’s a lot like the beloved 1994 character in many ways. “Lyric is so me. She's the odd flower. A flower nonetheless, but definitely not a peony,” she tells us.
“She's not the average flower you see presented, and so she reminds me of myself. I'm a sunflower, beautiful, but different. And what I loved about her character then, and even more so now, is that she was very sure of herself.
"Sure of what she wanted in life and okay to sacrifice her moments right now, to get what she knew she deserved later. And that is me. I'm not an instant gratification kind of a person. I am a long game. I'm not a sprinter, I'm a marathon.
America first fell in love with Eva when she graced our screens on cycle 3 of America’s Next Top Model in 2004, which she emerged as the winner. Since then, she's ventured into different avenues, from acting on various TV series like House of Payne to starring on Real Housewives of Atlanta.
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Eva praises her castmates and the play’s producer, Je’Caryous for her positive experience. “You know what? Je’Caryous fuels my audacity car daily, ‘cause I consider myself an extremely audacious woman, and I believe in what I know, even if no one else knows it, because God gave it to me. So I know what I know. That is who Je’Caryous is.”
But the mom of three isn’t the only one in the family who enjoys acting. Eva reveals her daughter Marley has also caught the acting bug.
“It is the most adorable thing you can ever see. She’s got a part in her school play. She's in her chorus, and she loves it,” she says. “I don't know if she loves it, because it's like, mommy does it, so maybe I should do it, but there is something about her.”
Overall, Eva hopes that her contribution to the role and the play as a whole serves as motivation for others to reach for the stars.
“I want them to walk out with hope. I want them to re-vision their dreams. Whatever they were. Whatever they are. To re-see them and then have that thing inside of them say, ‘You know what? I'm going to do that. Whatever dream you put on the back burner, go pick it up.
"Whatever dream you've accomplished, make a new dream, but continue to reach for the stars. Continue to reach for what is beyond what people say we can do, especially as [a] Black collective but especially as Black women. When it comes to us and who we are and what we accept and what we're worth, it's not about having seen it before. It's about knowing that I deserve it.”
This interview has been edited for length and clarity.
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'Leave Quicker': Keri Hilson Opens Up About Learning When To Walk Away In Love
What you might call Black love goals, Keri Hilson is kindly saying, “Nah.”
In a recent appearance on Cam Newton’s Funky Friday podcast, the We Need to Talk: Love singer opened up about a past relationship that once had the public rooting for her and former NBA star Serge Ibaka. According to Cam, the pair looked “immaculate” together. Keri agreed, admitting, “We looked good.” But her demeanor made it clear that everything that looks good isn't always a good look for you.
That was all but confirmed when Cam asked what the relationship taught her. Keri sighed deeply before replying, “Whew. Leave quicker.”
It was the kind of answer that doesn’t need to be packaged to be received, just raw truth from someone who’s done the work. “Ten months in, I should have [left],” she continued. “But I was believing. I was wanting to not believe [the signs].”
Keri revealed to Cam that despite their efforts to repair the relationship at the time, including couples counseling, individual therapy, and even sitting with Serge’s pastor, it just wasn’t meant to be. A large part of that, she said, was the seven-year age gap. “He was [in his] mid-twenties,” she said, attributing a lot of their misalignment to his youth and the temptations that came with fame, money, and status.
“There were happenings,” she shared, choosing her words carefully. “He deserved to live that… I want what you want. I don’t want anything different. So if I would’ve told him how to love me better, it would’ve denied him the experience of being ‘the man’ in the world.”
But she also made it clear that just because you understand someone’s path doesn’t mean you have to ride it out with them. Instead, you can practice compassionate detachment like our girl Keri. “You can have what you want, but you may not have me and that.”
When Cam jokingly questioned what if there was a reality where a man wanted to have both “you and a dab of that,” Keri didn’t hesitate with her stance: “No,” adding, “I can remove myself and [then you] have it. Enjoy it.” Sis said what she said.
Still, she shared that they dated for a couple of years and remain cool to this day. For Keri, being on good terms with an ex isn’t a sign of weakness; it's a reflection of where she is in her healing. In a time when blocking an ex is often seen as the ultimate sign of growth, Keri offers an alternate route: one where healing looks like resolution, not resentment. “I think because I have such a disgust for ugliness in my life. Like, I don't do well without peace between me and everyone in my life. Like, I really try to resolve issues,” she explained to Cam.
Adding, “I think that's what makes things difficult when you're like sweeping things under the rug or harboring ill feelings towards someone. When you're healed, when you've done your work, you can speak to anybody when you've healed from things. I think maybe that's the bottom line.”
Watch Keri's appearance on Funky Friday in full here.
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