Serena Williams' Hubby Reminds Us That We Should Be Celebrated, Not Just Tolerated

Celebrity News

"You're doing too much."

Well, maybe the problem is sir, that you're not doing enough.

After making her return to tennis following a taxing maternity hiatus, our personal (s)hero, Serena Williams, was surprised by a grandiose gesture of support during her drive through Palm Springs on Tuesday.

Serena's husband, Reddit co-founder Alexis Ohanian just made it necessary for every man in America to step his game up when it comes to celebrating their women. Ohanian rented out four billboards that featured pictures of Serena and her baby girl, Alexis Olympia, that read "G.M.O.A.T: Greatest Momma of All Time," and it is the cutest thing you'll see all day:

It's a phrase that Ohanian has told the tennis star before, on their wedding as a matter of fact. According to UsWeekly, Ohanian told his bride on their special day:

"You are the greatest of all time, not just in sport. And everything that I have done, everything that I am so proud of in my career, and in my life, for the last 34 years, pales in comparison to what we're doing today."

Can somebody get me a tissue?

Ohanian's display of affection is a reminder that maybe we're not asking for too much, we're asking the wrong person. The dated stigma that women are "too demanding" has finally reached an expiration date and it's time for us to replace this problematic notion with FACTS: Girl, you deserve it all.

Tinder, Plenty Of Fish, and all of the other forms of social media dating have desensitized us to the point where it makes me personally question if my old school standards of courtship and chivalry are outdated. Recently, a guy that I was dating told me that I was beautiful, but immediately followed with, "But, I'm not trying to boost your head up." I smiled and proceeded to delete his number.

Some will say I overreacted, but I know who I am. I know that I deserve to be boosted. I'm freaking dope. Did I miss the memo when it became a negative thing to compliment and express affection toward the woman you're involved with? For a long time, I worked with what was given to me and felt unfulfilled.

However, I am now at a point in my life where it is a priority that I am celebrated, not tolerated.

We're all guilty of "forcing it" at least once in our lives. Forcing something that's not meant to be because we feel too insecure to seek something else, and possibly discover something better. It's 2018 and I'm claiming it: I want a love like Alexis Ohanian.

Is it really so old-fashioned that I expect a man to show some effort before I show him my sacred places? Society constantly challenges our motives and intentions as women, and we are consequently pushed into submission by societal norms and settle for less than we deserve.

If you don't determine your value, someone else will do it for you. Ohanian and Williams welcomed their baby girl last September and had a lavish dream wedding in New Orleans last November. It's refreshing to know that when you've found the right one, the honeymoon doesn't have to end.

Embarking on a comeback tour after labor complications and nearly dying only solidifies that she is superwoman. Her husband's act of kindness is symbolic of the love and support that we all, as superwomen in our own right, deserve.

Consider your options. Know that you have the power to weigh them. Take it from Serena, you deserve to feel special.

Featured image by Getty Images

Before she was Amira Unplugged, rapper, singer, and a Becoming a Popstar contestant on MTV, she was Amira Daughtery, a twenty-five year-old Georgian, with aspirations of becoming a lawyer. “I thought my career path was going to lead me to law because that’s the way I thought I would help people,” Amira tells xoNecole. “[But] I always came back to music.”

A music lover since childhood, Amira grew up in an artistic household where passion for music was emphasized. “My dad has always been my huge inspiration for music because he’s a musician himself and is so passionate about the history of music.” Amira’s also dealt with deafness in one ear since she was a toddler, a condition which she says only makes her more “intentional” about the music she makes, to ensure that what she hears inside her head can translate the way she wants it to for audiences.

“The loss of hearing means a person can’t experience music in the conventional way,” she says. “I’ve always responded to bigger, bolder anthemic songs because I can feel them [the vibrations] in my body, and I want to be sure my music does this for deaf/HOH people and everyone.”

A Black woman wearing a black hijab and black and gold dress stands in between two men who are both wearing black pants and colorful jackets and necklaces

Amira Unplugged and other contestants on Becoming a Popstar

Amira Unplugged / MTV

In order to lift people’s spirits at the beginning of the pandemic, Amira began posting videos on TikTok of herself singing and using sign language so her music could reach her deaf fans as well. She was surprised by how quickly she was able to amass a large audience. It was through her videos that she caught the attention of a talent scout for MTV’s new music competition show for rising TikTok singers, Becoming a Popstar. After a three-month process, Amira was one of those picked to be a contestant on the show.

Becoming a Popstar, as Amira describes, is different from other music competition shows we’ve all come to know over the years. “Well, first of all, it’s all original music. There’s not a single cover,” she says. “We have to write these songs in like a day or two and then meet with our producers, meet with our directors. Every week, we are producing a full project for people to vote on and decide if they’d listen to it on the radio.”

To make sure her deaf/HOH audiences can feel her songs, she makes sure to “add more bass, guitar, and violin in unique patterns.” She also incorporates “higher pitch sounds with like chimes, bells, and piccolo,” because, she says, they’re easier to feel. “But it’s less about the kind of instrument and more about how I arrange the pattern of the song. Everything I do is to create an atmosphere, a sensation, to make my music a multi-sensory experience.”

She says that working alongside the judges–pop stars Joe Jonas and Becky G, and choreographer Sean Bankhead – has helped expand her artistry. “Joe was really more about the vocal quality and the timber and Becky was really about the passion of [the song] and being convinced this was something you believed in,” she says. “And what was really great about [our choreographer] Sean is that obviously he’s a choreographer to the stars – Lil Nas X, Normani – but he didn’t only focus on choreo, he focused on stage presence, he focused on the overall message of the song. And I think all those critiques week to week helped us hone in on what we wanted to be saying with our next song.”

As her star rises, it’s been both her Muslim faith and her friends, whom she calls “The Glasses Gang” (“because none of us can see!”), that continue to ground her. “The Muslim and the Muslima community have really gone hard [supporting me] and all these people have come together and I truly appreciate them,” Amira says. “I have just been flooded with DMs and emails and texts from [young muslim kids] people who have just been so inspired,” she says. “People who have said they have never seen anything like this, that I embody a lot of the style that they wanted to see and that the message hit them, which is really the most important thing to me.”

A Black woman wears a long, salmon pink hijab, black outfit and pink boots, smiling down at the camera with her arm outstretched to it.

Amira Unplugged

Amira Unplugged / MTV

Throughout the show’s production, she was able to continue to uphold her faith practices with the help of the crew, such as making sure her food was halal, having time to pray, dressing modestly, and working with female choreographers. “If people can accept this, can learn, and can grow, and bring more people into the fold of this industry, then I’m making a real difference,” she says.

Though she didn’t win the competition, this is only the beginning for Amira. Whether it’s on Becoming a Popstar or her videos online, Amira has made it clear she has no plans on going anywhere but up. “I’m so excited that I’ve gotten this opportunity because this is really, truly what I think I’m meant to do.”

The daily empowerment fix you need.
Make things inbox official.

Today is Malcolm X’s birthday. As an icon of Black liberation movements, his words are often rallying cries and guideposts in struggle. In 2020, after the officers who executed Breonna Taylor were not charged with her murder, my timeline was flooded with people reposting Malcolm’s famous quote: “The most disrespected person in America is the Black woman. The most unprotected person in America is the Black woman. The most neglected person in America is the Black woman.”

Keep reading...Show less

As her fame continues to rise, Tiffany Haddish has remained a positive light for her fans with her infectious smile and relatable story. Since Girls Trip, fans have witnessed the comedian become a modern-day Cinderella due to the many opportunities that have come her way and the recognition she began to receive.

Keep reading...Show less

We’ve all been there: Exhausted, lacking motivation, on edge, or simply not feeling like working at all. And we might have even used up all of our sick days, not to rest from a cold or injury, but just to get a bit of relief from those job or business responsibilities. Sometimes, you're not able to shake that nagging feeling of gloom, eventually finding yourself in a toxic pattern of unhealthy habits and behaviors. There's a larger issue that goes way beyond just needing a break.

Keep reading...Show less

CultureCon is one of the top conferences for creative people of color to attend to meet fellow changemakers. The event, which is presented by the Creative Collective NYC, has attracted some of our favorite entertainers as keynote speakers such as Tracee Ellis Ross, Chloe x Halle, Michael B. Jordan, and many more.

Keep reading...Show less
Exclusive Interviews

Exclusive: Jay Ellis Shares ‘Full-Circle’ Moment With His Parents & His Self-Care Ritual

Staying grounded is one of the actor's biggest priorities.

Latest Posts