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Cuffing season is upon us, ladies, but instead of getting chose by a man with little else to offer than "potential" and a full package in some grey sweatpants, this year, Sanaa Lathan wants you to do the choosing, sis.

Despite her iconic roles in Love and Basketball and The Best Man, Sanaa has yet to meet Mr. Right in real life, but according to her, she's not in any rush. Last weekend at CultureCon, the 48-year-old actress sat down with journalist, Taylor Rooks, and shared how she really feels when it comes to fairy tale love stories.

"We read all these fairy tales—Snow White, Cinderella—…[and] they're being chosen by a man. That's when you win when you are chosen by a man. That's not the truth! I'ma choose me first."

Being single isn't a flaw or a punishment, issa time to invest in what matters most and Sanaa says that she's using her time alone to become her own knight in shining armor. Although Sanaa has played a hopeless romantic in many of her on-screen roles, her perspective on reality is much different:

"You see how many relationships aren't working. The divorce rate is—I don't know—it has got to be over 50 percent. So I wouldn't invest in something with less than 50 percent. That's more than half of failure."

While Sanaa isn't totally against the ideas of love and courtship, she believes in the value of self-love even more and knows that her personal journey to wholeness and healing will make her even more attractive to a suitable, potential partner:

"I do believe in love and I want that for myself, but right now I'm focused on loving myself and the truth is when you start loving yourself, you attract a better quality of situation."

During the on-stage discussion, Sanaa also detailed the items that she wants to be crossed off of her wishlist the next time she does become open to the possibility of being in a relationship:

"I want somebody who wants me shining; who is not scared of that; who will be there after the day's over and actually cares about what's going on in my life. And I want to do the same for someone."

As an honorary member of the Single But Not Suffering Club, I must say that I hear you, sis. I don't believe that the divorce rate is a reason to stay single, but having a desire to not settle is.

Love takes time, and so should you, sis.

Featured image by Instagram/@SanaaLathan.

 

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