
In case no one has told you yet, you are a business. So often, people make the mistake of believing that they can only treat their lives like a business if they are an entrepreneur or a business owner, not realizing that the mere fact that they exist in this world makes them an owned and operated business. And as such, everything you do can be written off as an expense and thus, add to your overall wealth.
At least, that's what Dr. Lynn Richardson will put you on game about.

The financial expert and life coach took the stage on Saturday afternoon (July 28) during a conversation orchestrated by P&G's My Black Is Beautiful in partnership with the National Underground Railroad Freedom Center and Greater Cincinnati Association of Black Journalists. Famed rapper and humanitarian MC Lyte took the stage as the event's keynote speaker, and revealed her seven-year friendship with Lynn, as well as the fact that they partnered together in their book, Your Man and Your Money: How to Get'em and How to Keep'em. The two met when MC was really lost about how to have her finances together and as her financial advisor, Lynn pulled her through, and even helped her triple her income in the process!
There, the two friends and collaborators talked all things financial literacy, being your own business, and entrepreneurial advancement. And xoNecole was there to collect all of the gems. Read on for more.
Apply the 10-10-30-50 Rule to Your Budget
While many of us out there who have dabbled or are experts in budgeting know the power of a good dose of the 50-20-30 rule, Lynn's modified 10-10-30-50 rule might be the key to unlocking a lot of our financial success. "The first 10 percent you tithe, the next 10 percent you save. Our grandmas taught us to save for a rainy day, but really, we have to save for a come up. That means, when we have the opportunity to invest in something, [we can invest]," Lynn explained. "When the stock market crashed in 2008, everyone was in a recession. Well, one of my sorors, and financial mentors, she had saved and had money that she could use to invest, and she did. When the stocks went down to 20 cents a share, she bought 100,000 shares. And when it went back up to $12 a share, she sold it."
"We have to save for a come up."
She continued, "The next 30 percent is cash. And cash is what we have to understand as entrepreneurs. People on this planet have figured out how they can go into the boardroom, create something that cost $2 that they can sell to us on Black Friday for $250 and make it feel like we have to have it. Having cash prevents you from having a spending addiction… The remaining 50 percent stays in your checking account to go to bills."
Use Only 30% of Your Income as Spending Money
When breaking down the 10-10-30-50 rule for budgeting, the 30 percent allocated to cash plays a very major role in your day to day spending. Unlike the 50 percent for your bills that stays in your checking account, the 30 percent is to act as cash that you carry around and takes care of everything, from your nail appointment to your groceries.
Some of us (especially those of us who have a spending addiction) might think that relying on 30 percent and carrying it around in cash isn't feasible. If you ask Lynn, you're thinking way too small. And those extra unnecessary expenses? You need to cut it.
"What happens is, we forget that we spend mindlessly. And it's not about not having the intelligence, it's us rejecting what the world says that we have to do with our money and make a decision. That's where I say women, especially women of color, we can be billionaires, but we cannot ignore the basic thing we learned in the first grade, and that's mathematics: 1 + 1 equals 2. And if your stuff adds up to 10, it will never get to 2. And we will always be trying to figure out how to make our money work and where is it going."
"Control that number, and we can control our wealth."
Take Advantage of Everyday Expenses During Tax Time
What many of us fail to realize is how much we stand to gain during tax time by writing off expenses and deducting properly. Lynn wants everyone to be empowered by the fact that simply by existing, they are a fully owned and operated business. This does not mean quitting your job, but for all intents and purposes, you are an entrepreneur, whether you realize it or not. Therefore, it's time you start deducting like it.
"If you have a business and your business makes $100,000, here's what happens to all of your income: first, you get to expense everything you use in your business. You get to expense your cell phone. You get to expense your mileage or your gas on your car. You get to expense your trips because when you go on trips - I don't care if it's a family trip or a vacation or a family reunion in Mississippi - you are actually on a business trip so you need to expense that. Once you expense everything, they'll say, 'Those expenses are $65,000, there's $35,000 left over. That's the amount you get taxed on.'"
Lynn also suggested that wealthy people don't necessarily have more money, they just know how to get their money back. As an entrepreneur, it's crucial that we view ourselves as a business and view everything we do as a potential expense to be a tax write off.
Invest in Strategic Multiple Streams of Income
For most people, the secret to acquiring wealth is never allowing one hat to be your only hat and by that I mean, having multiple streams of income. Along with cultivating different avenues where more money can easily travel, it is important to develop strategy when diversifying your income as well, which is also where a strong personal brand comes into play. Whether it's a brick and mortar, selling or doing hair, repurposing vintage clothes, or mixing up your own beauty line, the opportunities are there, you just have to take it. "Multiple streams of income give us the ability to extinguish the fiery darts of an unstable economy. So, if one of your businesses is no longer popular, you got seven more to look at," Lynn added.
"We've got to have multiple streams of income, but we also gotta have strategy."
It is important to diversify your income in order to maximize your wealth potential, but it is also important to know that while more money is great to have, having the financial literacy to navigate your finances adeptly and strategically is ultimately the golden rule in acquiring wealth and breaking ground for more black women business owners, entrepreneurs, and millionaires. "Black women, we are the most educated people on the planet. There is no group of people who have more degrees than black women," Lynn noted. "We have PhD's, Master's degrees, and MBA's. But one of the things that sits with me a lot, is why are we not as wealthy as our education says? We are last on the totem pole when it comes to wealth."
And it's time that changes.
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This Is How To Keep 'Holiday Season Stress' From Infecting Your Relationship
Hmph. Maybe it’s just me, but it seems like there is something really weird happening in the fall season air (because winter doesn’t officially begin until December 21) that cuddle season is in full swing while break-up season is as well. In fact, did you know that break-ups are so popular during the holiday season that December 11 is deemed Break-Up Day?
The reasons why relationships shift around this time vary; however, I did both roll my eyes and chuckle when I read that a very popular one is because it’s an easy way to get out of getting one’s significant other a Christmas present. SMDH.
Anyway, I personally think that the less shallow folks out here may contemplate calling things “quits” or they at least distance themselves a bit from their partner (and what I’m referring to is serious relationships) due to all of the stress and strain that oftentimes comes with the holidays whether it be financial, familial, due to their tight schedules or something else.
Listen, I would hate for you and your man to miss the fun and happiness of experiencing this time of year, all because you are so overwhelmed or irritated that you can’t really enjoy it. That’s why I have a few practical tips for how to avoid allowing the typical holiday season stress from INFECTING your relationship.
Manage Your Expectations
GiphyUnmanaged expectations. If there is a main reason why the holiday season tends to be so stress-filled for so many people, I’d bet good money that this is the cause. And when you’re in a long-term relationship, expectations can manifest themselves in all sorts of cryptic and/or unexpected ways. You might have relatives who assume that you are going to be with them for Thanksgiving or Christmas when you have other plans in mind. You might be thinking that you are going to spend one amount for presents while your man is thinking something totally different. When it comes to scheduling, your signals may be crossed.
And you know what? To all of these scenarios, this is where clear and consistent communication come in. Don’t assume anything. Don’t dictate anything either. From now until New Year’s, mutually decide to check in once a week, just to make sure that you are both on the same page as it relates to the holidays and what you both are thinking will come along with it. The less blindsided you both feel, the less stressed out you will be. Trust me on this.
Set (and Keep) a Budget
GiphyOkay, so I read that last year, 36 percent of Americans incurred some type of holiday-related debt. Hmph. Last year, there was still some sense of normalcy in this country, chile, so I can only imagine what finances are gonna look like over the next several weeks. That said, since I don’t know a lot of people who don’t find being broke stressful, make sure that you and your bae set a budget and then stick to it this year — no ifs, ands or buts.
Because really, y’all — it doesn’t make sense to deplete savings and/or max out credit cards for a few days of giggles only to be damn near losing your mind because you don’t know how to make ends meet come Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day.
And by the way, this tip doesn’t just speak to things like food and gifts; I also mean travel. If it doesn’t make a ton of sense (or cents) to be all over the place this year — DON’T BE.
Keep Matthew 5:37 at the Forefront
GiphyIf off the top of your head, you don’t know what Matthew 5:37 says, no worries, here ya go: “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.” That verse right there? Oh, it’s a boundaries lifesaver! I say that because do you see “maybe” or “I’ll think about it” in there? Nope. LOL. It says that you should tell people “yes” or “no” and leave it at that — and that complements Anne Lamott’s quote, “’No’ is a complete sentence” impeccably well. Yeah, you’ve got to remember that anything beyond a yes or no to a request is privileged information; you don’t owe anyone details or an explanation.
Besides, if you are really honest with yourself, when someone asks you something and you give a “Umm, let me think about it” kind of reply, more times than not, you already know what your answer is going to be — so why not let you both off of the hook? Give your response. Commit to that. And let everyone (including yourself) get on with their lives and schedules.
I promise you that when it comes to those holiday parties, you are pissing more folks off by not RSVP’ing or doing so and not showing up than just saying, “Thank you but not this year” off the rip.
Remember That Your Personal Space Is Privilege Not a Right
GiphyA friend of mine recently bought a new house and invited me over to come see it. He’s a single man with no children, so as I was taking in all of the space that he had, especially as I walked through his finished basement, I joked about relatives coming to live with him. “Hell no” and “absolutely not” were pretty much his immediate responses as he went on to say that some folks even had the nerve to be offended when he told them that he had no intentions on taking DNA in.
Ain’t it wild how people think that your stuff is their right? And yes, that brings me to my next point. Your home is your sanctuary space. If you want to host folks this year — cool. If not, ALSO COOL. Please don’t let folks (family included) guilt you into how they want you to act or even into what they would do if the shoe was on the other foot. You are not them — and as one of my favorite quotes states, “If two people were exactly alike, one of them would be unnecessary.” (A man by the name Larry Dixon said that.)
Hell, my friends? They know that I am good for sending them random things that they need or even want all throughout the year. Coming over to hang out at my pace, though. Uh-uh. Chalk it up to being a card-carrying member of the ambivert club yet I like keeping my living space personal — and I sleep like a baby, each and every night, for feeling that way.
Always remember that your space, your time, your resources, your energy and shoot, yourself period (including your relationship), are all things that are your own. You get to choose how, when and why you want to share them. The holiday season is certainly no exception.
Cultivate Some “You Two Only” Traditions
GiphyIt’s not uncommon for some couples to hit me up after the holiday season to “detox.” Sometimes it’s due to the financial drama (and sometimes trauma) that they experienced. Sometimes it’s because they allowed their relatives (especially in-laws) to get more into their personal business than they should’ve. More than anything, though, it tends to be because they didn’t get enough quality time together and so ended up feeling “disconnected.”
Please don’t let that happen. Listen, I’m not even a holidays kind of woman and yet, I will absolutely sit myself down with some hot chocolate and chocolate chip cookies to enjoy a Hallmark holiday film or two. Aside from the fact that most of them are lighthearted and sweet, I also like that they usually focus on couples loving on each other amidst all of the holiday beauty and ambiance — which is something that all couples should set aside some time to do.
Maybe it’s a vacation. Maybe it’s a staycation. Or maybe it’s my personal favorite, A SEXCATION. Whether it’s for a few days, the weekend or even overnight — don’t you let the holidays go by without setting aside time for you and your man to celebrate one another. Don’t you dare (check out “Are You Ready To Have Some Very Merry 'Christmas Sex'?”).
GET. SOME. REST.
GiphyI once read that 8 out of 10 people get stressed out over the holidays and 3 out of 10 lose sleep during to it — and when you’re stress-filled and sleep-deprived, that can absolutely lead to hypersensitivity, making mountains out of molehills and even not being in the mood for sex.
Your relationship can’t afford to go through any of this, so definitely make sure to prioritize rest. I don’t care how unrealistic it might seem during this time, sleep should never be seen as a luxury; it will always and forever be a great necessity.
That said, try to get no less than six hours of shut-eye in (check out “6 Fascinating Ways Sex And Sleep Definitely Go Hand In Hand”) and even ask your bae to take a nap with you sometimes (check out “Wanna Have Some Next-Level Sex? Take A Nap, Sis.”). Not only will sleep help to restore your mind, body and spirit but, when it’s with your partner, it’s an act of intimacy that can make you both feel super connected, even in the midst of what might feel like chaos.
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Holiday season stress is real. Still, never give it the permission or power to throw your relationship off. Put you and your man first and let the holidays be what they are gonna be, chile.
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Sergio Hudson On Designing With Intention And Who Gets Left Out Of The Industry
Sergio Hudson dreamt big as a young South Carolina boy staring out of the window of his mom’s Volvo driving down the Ridgeway, South Carolina streets. Those dreams led him to design opulent tailoring that’s been worn by Beyoncé, Queen Latifah, former Vice President Kamala Harris and Forever First Lady Michelle Obama, just to name a few.
Those dreams have come full circle in a new way as he recently collaborated with Volvo for a mini capsule collection suitable for chic and stylish moments this fall. The 40-year-old designer follows a long legacy of fashion aficionados who’ve used their innovation to push the automotive industry forward, including Virgil Abloh, Eddie Bauer, Paul Smith and Jeremy Scott.
Using the same material from the interior of the Volvo EX90, Hudson crafted a wool-blend car coat and waistbelt that combine the vehicle’s Scandinavian design with his signature tailoring and intention. The exclusive collection launched on October 20, and each piece is made-to-order by Sergio Hudson Collections.

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In October, I traveled to Charleston with a group of journalists to get a firsthand look at Hudson and Volvo’s location. During a fitting, Hudson said his goal is to make “great work that can stand the test of time.”
“People can look back on and say, ‘I remember when Sergio did that collaboration with Volvo,’” he continued. “Thinking about aligning yourself with classic brands that speak to where you want to go. And I think that's what this collaboration kind of means to me and my business.”
Hudson pinpoints his mom as the biggest influence for his designs. This collaboration was no different.
“This particular coat reminded me of the swing coats that my mom used to wear in the early 90s. You know, diva girls in the early 90s had Sandra suits,” he said, referring to Jackée Harry’s character in 227. “My mom wore those and she would have these matching swing coats to go over them. And that's where the initial idea came. This would be around the same time that we had our Volvo. So she would put on her suit, her swing coat, get in that red Volvo, and go to church.”

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With this capsule and beyond, Hudson wants to see more staples rotating in and out of closets this fall. He advises fashionistas to build her closet out with essentials to mix and match that aren’t just stylish but also sustainable.
“It's just those special pieces,” he said. “You can wear the same shirt and pants every day and nobody will notice. But if you have a special boot, a special coat, a special bill, a special bag, that kind of speaks to everything that your style stands about, that is something you should focus on.”
These are the same kind of staple pieces that return to our Pinterest boards and TikTok feeds season after season. Fast fashion has never been Hudson’s aim. “I'm trying to create a special pieces that can stand the test of time,” he said in his warm, Southern accent. “I'm only creating those kind of pieces from here on out.”

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For Hudson, this collaboration is revolutionary. It’s his first time working with a car company and experimenting outside of his wheelhouse in this way.
“This is a Scandinavian brand, and, you know, it's 70 years old. I'm an African-American boy from South Carolina that has had a brand for 10 years. So I think bridging those two worlds and seeing the similarities was the beauty of this project,” he explained.
Though Hudson and his partner and CEO of Sergio Hudson Collections Inga Beckham have made massive strides in just 10 years, Hudson said the industry is far from where he wants to see it when it comes to Black representation. He pointed to how few Black designers were at this year’s Met Gala despite the theme being Black dandyism.
“The fact that I dressed 18 people speaks to how many of us weren't there,” he said. He implored more of industries, fashion and beyond, to collaborate with Black designers often.
“Allow mentorship. Allow funding. Allow great design to shine through,” he implored. “When it comes to being a designer of African descent, when you can't get the funding that your counterparts have, you can't compete. When you get opportunities like doing a collaboration with Volvo, or you get opportunities to be at the Met Gala, that's putting us on the equal playing field, but really the funding behind it is what we need to take it to that desk level.”
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