Dear DV:
After five years, I have finally landed my dream job (salary included!). I am super excited because it has given me the opportunity to finally become a homeowner. It seems as if my life is finally coming together. Recently, I met a man that I think I may be falling in love with but there's only one problem. He's broke, he has no job and no working car. He has big dreams and I understand he's trying to figure it out. My mind (and my girls) are telling me to walk away but my heart is telling me to give it a try.
- Signed, In Love With Potential
As a woman, I commend you for finally being able to pursue your dreams. In the beginning stages of my career, I wasn't as fortunate as you were. I was a single mother working full-time and still had to make time to pursue my dreams. My life was far from easy but because I didn't have a backup plan, I had no choice but to figure it out. I share this because the man you have fallen in love with may be in a similar position. Perhaps, he's trying to figure it out.
I wouldn't discount it just because he's not perfect on paper.
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In my book Going The Distance For Love, I share with my readers the importance of not being afraid to reevaluate your checklist. You never know what you could be missing out on by holding yourself hostage to a list that may or may not even be realistic (remember the show What Chilli Wants?). Before you decide if you want to fully pursue this relationship, consider the following things:
Cream Rises To The Top!
Everyone has dreams but the real question is, does he have potential? Potential is defined as having or showing the capacity to become or develop into something in the future. I also believe that women have a sixth sense and you have to learn to listen to your inner voice. We can see the signs of potential because it is more than just talking a good game.
What's The Plan?
Any man can have a plan but does your man have a plan of action? Is he focused? Has he shared the steps he is taking to realize his dreams? Does his plans include more than your support and possibly your money?
Walk It Like I Talk It
Hard work and preparation always lead to opportunity. The laws of attraction and reciprocity are real, so if he displays these qualities, then I think it's worth holding onto the relationship. This goes back to reevaluating your checklist. Are your top priorities for the man of your dreams that he make 6+ figures, is already established, and has zero debt, or is it at the top of your list that he treats you like a queen, is patient and supportive of the woman that you, and he is committed to his spiritual relationship and growth?
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Life is a journey and it doesn't always go as planned, so ignore the noise, the naysayers (yes, even your girlfriends and your mom) and trust the process. You will be so glad that you did.
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"I end up selling it as a body oil first because, obviously, I'm 17, [and] don't have any background as an esthetician or anything like that. I just made a product that worked for me, but people bought it and was using it, and I reformulated it, and then it just stuck like with me."
While MoonXCosmetics is known for its facial products, it wants to expand to body care and home. It just released its new product, Moon-Gel body wash, and it's only up from there. As Mariee continues to grow the brand, it's more than likely that she will see more history-making moments. And so far she has.
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When asked if she feels pressure to obtain more of those milestones, she says yes and no. "I did $1.8 [million] again, and then I did $2 million but I feel like now, currently, I don't look at that as one of my goals anymore because [of] the headache and just everything that came with it, but I was thankful and blessed to have that milestone, but now I'm looking for more," she says.
"I want to say more reach than more like fast-paced sales. I do want that. Obviously, every girl wants that, but I do want to have a better overall reach for my brand because I did take two years off so I was able to learn, [and] study a lot of different things. See how things have changed from 2020 to now."
"I did $1.8 [million] again, and then I did $2 million but I feel like now, currently, I don't look at that as one of my goals anymore because [of] the headache and just everything that came with it, but I was thankful and blessed to have that milestone, but now I'm looking for more."
Another part of expanding for any company is hiring people. Finding the right person to help you can be a hassle, especially for business owners who are used to doing all the work themselves. Mariee can relate to this, and she touched on this topic in her documentaryThe Million Dollar Story. She recommends having someone be your "right-hand man" who you trust to handle the ins and outs of the company.
"I could say, definitely get, like a right-hand man to help you within the process because that really was what helped me. I never had a job. I literally was 18 now, being like, you know, the boss of over 30+ employees at one point in time, and I didn't know anything. I didn't know anything about no W-2s, no taxes, no clock in, clock out because all I [have] ever known was my brand," she explains.
"So I definitely partner with people who are very skewed and versed in those areas, and they helped me get through it. Even to this day, I still have my same person helping me with hiring, firing, [and] doing everything that I can right now because I'm still learning. But obviously people get jobs young, so they have way more experience than me, but still learning."
And though she is still learning, one thing she makes sure to stay on top of is being consistent. Consistency is what trips many people up when it comes to achieving goals, but Mariee says it's all about scheduling. Whether it's when to post on social media or email marketing, scheduling it out can make a world of difference. That same practice also works when planning out her future goals for the company.
"Right now, future goals would be to drop at least five more products before the end of the year. We always do outreach, where we do drives and all that, but definitely do way more this year, she says. "Then really dive into body [care], and then hopefully open up MoonXBody underneath MoonXCosmetics to let that branch out and be open and definitely get back consistent."
For more information, visit moonxco.com.
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