Does Body Count Matter? Mariah Carey Reveals She's Only Been With 5 Men In Her Life

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Mariah Carey is known for shutting down arenas all around the world, but she recently revealed that in the bedroom, she's much more selective with the mics she chooses to rock. In a recent interview with Cosmopolitan, MC got candid about her sex life and shared that she has only slept with five men in her entire life, and we are shook.

Life is a long time y'all, but Mariah said that she's always been serious about protecting her energy, even if that makes her seem a little uptight to potential suitors.

"I haven't had that many [partners], but there has been a variety pack. I've only been with five people in my life, so I'm kind of a prude, honestly, compared to most others in the field."

Men lie, women lie, but numbers don't, and there are times when people will try to use those numbers against you. Mariah has personal experience with this situation, and according to Mariah, she's been true to the low body count game since the beginning of her career, recognizing early-on that many men would use their relationship with her for personal gain. In an interview in 2003, Mariah said:

"A lot of people I meet are only interested in me as a notch on their belt, a celebrity. They don't want to know me as a person."

Since then, the 49-year-old singer has let go of some of her apprehension and is currently in a relationship with 36-year-old choreographer, Bryan Tanaka, who makes it abundantly clear via Instagram that he is one of the few who have had access to her glorious goodies.

Along with Bryan, in the past, Mariah has been part of a number of high-profile relationships with celebrities like Derek Jeter and Luis Miguel before marrying her former-husband and father of her two children, Nick Cannon, who previously said that he and the singer waited until marriage to be together intimately. In 2008, Mariah told Insider:

"It's not that we had NO intimacy, we just didn't have complete intimacy. It's just me, and my feelings. I definitely don't want to push it on anybody else. But we both have similar beliefs, and I just thought that it would be so much more special if we waited until after we were married. And it was, and it still is."

I'll be honest, sis; I can't relate. But I can't help but to think Mariah may be on to something. While my body count may not define who I am as a person, there are a few energies I've acquired over the years that I desperately wish I could return to sender and go back to the days where I could count my suitors on one hand.


Now that I'm older, I understand that sex is a transfer of energy that you can never really reverse. Every man I've slept with has left a piece of himself with me that I don't really care to have, so instead of harping over the number of men I've been with in the past, I've just chosen to be more selective with the men I'm with in the future.

Historically, the number of men a woman has slept with has been a defining factor of a woman's value in this world, but to me, this theory just isn't valid. In my opinion, life is what you make it. And quite frankly, so is your body count.

Whether you've been with 5 men or 50, as long as you find someone who can respect your body as much as you do, who's really counting?

Featured image by Instagram/@MariahCarey.

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