Kehlani Had Their Breast Implants Removed After Traumatic Experience
While cosmetic surgery such as breast implants are more normal than ever before, many people don’t talk about the potential health issues that come along with it. Kehlani recently appeared on Big Boy’s Neighborhood to promote their new album Blue Water Road and during the interview, they revealed why they decided to remove their breast implants after having them for only four years.
The Oakland-born star was 20 years old when they entranced everyone with their song “The Way,” and being young in the industry, they didn’t have the mindset that they do now. They admitted in the interview that they got the implants because of the negative comments people made about their body at that time. “I think I was 22 and I was at an age where I couldn’t see past what people thought about me,” Kehlani said. “I went and made a consultation. I was like this is gonna make me feel better and at the time for a while they were great. I loved them. They did what they needed to do for my confidence. They made me feel awesome. Then I started having all these symptoms of a woman 30 years older than me.”
Kehlani described having aches and pains in their body so bad that they had to take pain medication in order to go to sleep. They had many tests run but doctors couldn’t find anything wrong with them. There was one doctor, however, who asked whether they had implants and claimed that they may have breast implant illness. According to breastcancer.org, breast implant illness “is a term that some women and doctors use to refer to a wide range of symptoms that can develop after undergoing reconstruction or cosmetic augmentation with breast implants.” Those symptoms can range from memory and concentration problems to joint and muscle pain, all of which the 27-year-old singer said they experienced.
After learning about breast implant illness and realizing that their body was rejecting the implants based on how frequently they shifted, Kehlani knew it was time to take them out. “Literally, as soon as I got them removed, everything went away. When I woke up for a week straight without body aches I bawled hysterically,” they said.
For the most part, they kept the breast implant removal to themselves, however, fans began to notice, which prompted them to finally respond. Noting that they believe in choice and didn’t want to bash cosmetic surgery and people who have it, they was wanting to wait to have a more progressive answer to why they removed theirs. “I want to give people the option to know the other side of the information so that they can enter their decision with as many things to know as possible,” Kehlani said.
There are other celebrities who have shared that they too have removed their breast implants. Check them out below:
Christy Teigen
In May 2020, Chrissy Teigen posted on Instagram that she was ready to remove her breast implants. She wrote, “I’m getting my boobs out! They’ve been great to me for many years but I’m just over it. I’d like to be able to zip a dress in my size, lay on my belly with pure comfort!”
Ayesha Curry
In an interview with the now-defunct Working Mother, Ayesha Curry revealed that she got a breast augmentation after giving birth to her second daughter Ryan. She called it a botch job and shared in 2019 that she ended up getting them removed in a comment under Chrissy Teigen’s breast implant removal announcement. “Life-changing, you're gonna love it," she wrote. "I got mine out last year. They were making me so sick."
Adrienne Bailon
Singer and talk show host Adrienne Bailon opened up about getting breast implants on The Real when she was only 19. “I asked for a B and came out with a Double D,” she said. She later said she was “more embarrassed that people knew I was so insecure that I went and got breast implants” and ultimately got them removed.
Kehlani Talks Body Positivity, Removing Her Implants, Happiness, Health, and Identity | Interview
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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