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5 Things To Help You Grow In Your Waiting Season
Ah, the waiting season - the season in our lives we all may dread in the moment, but when we look back, we can be thankful for the way this season has shaped us. I’m certainly in my waiting season. How do I know? I’ve tried to pursue things on my own, and it either 1) doesn’t meet my expectations or 2) doesn’t even happen. So I’m left to wait. While in this season, I’ve learned there is power in reframing. I now identify this season as my preparation season because, yes, I’m waiting for the next chapter to begin. However, I’m not stagnant - I'm preparing.
Preparing for the best that is yet to come keeps the waiting/ preparation season thrilling yet peaceful. You’re not forcing situations and simply receiving the goodness life has to offer at the divine time it’s supposed to come. While living life to the fullest in my waiting/ preparation season, I continue to do these five things that keep my spark and hope alive for what’s to come next.
5 Things you can do while in your waiting/ preparation season:
Keep your heart fixed on your desire
Whatever you do, don’t lose sight of what you’re believing in and preparing for. Consider this your North Star that may feel so close, but so far. Through the trials you may experience, reflect on how these situations shaped your character. Ask yourself questions like “What did I learn about myself?” “Have I gained new ideals?” “How will what I learn help me get closer to my desire?” I like to meditate and achieve stillness while asking myself these questions to truly hear my heart. In a world where there's so much noise and chatter, it’s important to stay fixed on what you want for yourself.
Strengthen your faith
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This season in your life may come with heightened vulnerability. The important thing to remember is to not let anything break you. It’s necessary to strengthen your faith and believe that what you want is more than capable of manifesting in your life. Strengthen your faith in every way! This can be through hearing other people’s testimonies, watching uplifting content, repeating your affirmations, and/or reading books focused on positivity. My favorites are The Power of Your Subconscious Mind, Think and Grow Rich, and The Power of Positive Thinking. Overall, waiting can be hard, but strengthening your faith can make waiting more enjoyable than frustrating.
Reflect on poor choices and character traits
There’s beauty in the waiting season because it allows you to prepare for the best that is yet to come. A key part of preparing is shedding the old to create space to embrace the new. During this time, I encourage you to reflect on poor decisions or choices you’ve made that didn’t reflect the good person you are. We’re all human, and we are bound to make mistakes. That’s not the issue. Once we make a mistake, it’s wise to learn from it and do better. Find quiet time to reflect on decisions you made, get to the root of why you made them, and how you can do better next time. The decision could be as small as eating cookies when you know fruit is the better option and can get you closer to your health goals. The beautiful thing about life is the opportunity to grow, and reflecting on poor choices/ poor character traits are the catalyst to self-growth in your waiting season. Be sure to focus on the areas of life you can control instead of wasting time on the things you can’t.
Spend time with people who bring you joy
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Sometimes, the waiting season may mirror a season of isolation, but it doesn’t have to be lonely. We all need social interactions through every season of our lives, and leaning into our community can provide that. Your dear friends can pray over you and speak words of hope to you. I encourage you to identify those friends and spend quality time with them while in your waiting season.
Fill your days with activities that help you grow as a person
Lastly, spend time doing things that nourish your soul. Activities that allow you to grow and that bring you joy are so crucial. A few activities I recommend getting involved in are therapy, which is a great way to spend your time as you heal and grow, yoga because it allows you to be patient with yourself and find moments of stillness, and journaling is beneficial to document the ebbs and flows you may experience during this season.
Trust me, everything you’re doing is worth it and is working for your greater good. I encourage you to revisit these tips as you live your life to the fullest in your waiting/ preparation season! Whatever you do, don’t give up.
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Asha, meaning "full of life," was born and raised in New York City. Growing up with a big family and connecting with diverse people throughout life inspired Asha to take her communication skills to greater heights. After graduating with a Bachelor's in Mass Communications and a Master's in Business Administration, she aspires to write about topics relevant to the growth of young Black women. Aside from writing, Asha finds fulfillment in keeping up with fashion trends, indulging in self-care, attending social events, and exploring new activities with family and friends.
How This New Bond Repair Line Transformed One Mother's Postpartum Shedding Into The Ultimate Curl Comeback
This article is in partnership with SheaMoisture
For Crystal Obasanya, her wash day woes came shortly after her son did. The beauty and lifestyle content creator had been natural for years, but during postpartum, she quickly learned about one reality many mothers can relate to experiencing: postpartum hair loss. “Sis had thinning hair. Sis had split ends,” she shared about her hair changes in a Reel via xoNecole.
Over a year into her postpartum journey, Crystal explained she also had dry, brittle hair, noting that keeping it hydrated before pregnancy had already been “a task.” The 4C natural recalled going from thick hair during pregnancy to a thin hairline due to postpartum shedding as “devastating.” When it came to strengthening and revitalizing her hair, the new SheaMoisture Bond Repair Collection was just the thing she needed to elevate her damaged coils to revive and thrive status and get them poppin' again.
SheaMoisture is providing us with the cheat code for transforming dry and damaged strands into thriving and deeply nourished crowns. By unveiling their 4-step hair system, the SheaMoisture Bond Repair Collection is equipping you with the tools to reverse signs of hair damage caused by protective styling, heat, and color and is uniquely formulated for Type 3 and 4 hair textures.
The haircare system revives damaged natural hair by repairing and rebuilding broken hair bonds through a game-changing combination of HydroPlex Technology and AminoBlend Complex, a unique blend of fortifying amino acids formulated specifically for curly and coily hair. Scientifically proven to reduce breakage by 84% and make your hair six times stronger (vs. non-conditioning shampoo), the collection infuses your hair with the nourishment it craves and the strength it deserves.
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“When trying it out, I quickly noticed that my hair felt revived and renewed, and my curls were so hydrated,” Crystal said while using the Amla-infused Bond Repair Leave-In Conditioner. “I also felt my hair strands were stronger.” So much so that the influencer felt brave enough to get her hair braided shortly thereafter. “I can definitely say that I will be keeping it in my hair wash routine,” she added in the caption of her Reel about her positive experience using the products.
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Tailored to repair styling damage, this creamy conditioner locks in 12x more moisture than standard non-conditioning shampoos, boosting damaged hair strength by 1.5x with significantly less breakage. The creamy SheaMoisture Bond Repair Collection Conditioner deeply hydrates, enhances manageability, and leaves your hair looking healthier and shinier.
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Tia Mowry On The Importance Of Being In Solitude: 'I Am Becoming The Partner That I Want'
Actress Tia Mowry is rediscovering herself as she navigates her journey through singlehood.
Mowry's most notable relationship, spanning over two decades, was with actor Cory Hardrict. The couple called it quits in October 2022, when the Family Reunion star announced their separation after 14 years of marriage, citing irreconcilable differences. Mowry and Hardrict's divorce was finalized a few months later.
The pair share two children: Cree, 13, and Cairo, 6. Despite the split, Mowry and Hardrict maintained what appears to be a healthy co-parenting relationship, spending significant events together, such as holidays and their children's graduations.
Recently, at the 2024 BET Awards red carpet, the 45-year-old opened up to Entertainment Tonight about her current perspective on love and dating.
Tia On Solitude
When asked about her transformation journey as a divorcee, Mowry revealed that she enjoys solitude and aims to inspire others to welcome the changes that come with life transitions.
“I’m really enjoying this journey of solitude. I have a reality show that’s coming out this fall. It’s all about me just attacking this journey alone, to be honest with you,” she said. “I feel like it will be really relatable. I’m all about inspiring and encouraging women. Women empowerment. I’m encouraging people to be courageous, strong as they go through transitions in life. Whether it’s a divorce, whether it’s a change in a job, a loss, whatever. If I can be that source of inspiration, then I feel like I am doing what I am supposed to be doing.”
Tia On Dating
Toward the end of the conversation, Mowry shared insights about her dating life. The Sister, Sister star revealed that after a few unsatisfactory dating experiences, she shifted her focus back to herself and is working on becoming a better person.
“I took a little break with dating. You know who I am dating: me. Right now, I am becoming the partner that I want, so that takes time… This is what I mean that I’ve been in solitude, learning a lot about myself, self-discovery. I’m reading this new book called Brave New You by Cory Allen, and it has been so fantastic and I just want to encourage women out there that you don’t have to just jump into a relationship and have this sort of rebound. Work on you, work on yourself,” she stated.
Mowry added that her healing journey has been aided by having fun, spending time with loved ones, and listening to dancehall music.
The Gamestar's insights about self-reflection and personal growth after a breakup can inspire others to focus on themselves and avoid settling in matters of love.
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