
I think that we all know, in theory, that no matter what we put on our hair, if we want to have a healthy head of it, we’ve got to care about what we put into our bodies as well. That’s because, in order for your strands to be strong and long (if that’s what you’re after), you’ve got to make sure that your hair follicles have the nutrients that they need — and that means making sure that your diet is full of vitamins and minerals that will nurture them.
Since we are knee-deep into fall at this point, let’s get into some foods that are both in season and proven to help your scalp, your follicles, your strands, and your hair goals.
1. Grapes

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Even though grapes are in the produce section year-round, you can definitely tell that they are in season right through here because of how big they are and how sweet they taste. Yeah, this is definitely the best time to put some grapes in the freezer and consume them after they’ve frozen. Anyway, as far as what their overall health benefits are, grapes are good for you because they’re a low-calorie snack that contains protein, fiber, copper (bookmark that), antioxidants, and vitamin K. Not only that, but if you’re looking for a fruit that will help to reduce your cholesterol and blood sugar levels, improve your mood and memory and even help to keep your bones strong, grapes will totally have your back.
And what can grapes do for your hair? Aside from the fact that their high concentration of copper can help to slow down premature graying (check out “This Is How To Naturally Treat Premature Greying”) and certain properties in grapes can also decrease the irritation that is associated with dandruff, the antioxidants in grapes will help to keep free radicals from damaging your hair cells. Not only that, but the vitamin E in grapes will support a healthy scalp and help prevent hair loss, while the melatonin in grapes will help you get a good night’s rest so that your hair cells are able to rejuvenate themselves.
Fall Grape Recipe: The “Autumn Twilight” Grape & Rosemary Cocktail
2. Pumpkin

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Pumpkin is packed with protein, fiber, and a ton of vitamin A. It’s also a good vitamin B-sourced food, and if you need some extra vitamin C or potassium in your system, it can help in those departments as well. Something that I like about this particular fruit (it contains seeds, so…yeah, it’s a fruit) is it’s great for your immunity when it comes to helping to keep colds and the flu at bay. Also, thanks to all of the vitamin A that it has, pumpkins are great at keeping your eyes in a healthy state. Plus, it fights off the kind of bacteria that can ultimately lead to heart disease and certain cancers.
Hair-wise, pumpkin is outstanding because the vitamin C in it will help increase the collagen that will help to prevent hair breakage. Also, some studies reveal that pumpkin (especially pumpkin seeds) helps to block elevated levels of testosterone that can sometimes lead to hair loss. Not to mention the fact that vitamin A also helps strengthen your hair follicles too.
Fall Pumpkin Recipe: Pumpkin Sandwich Rolls
3. Butternut Squash

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It is my personal opinion that if you’ve never had butternut squash soup before, you are truly missing out — well, if your palette likes things that have a bit of a sweet yet nutty taste, that is. Although there are different kinds of winter squash, butternut is certainly one of the most popular. Protein, fiber, an overwhelming amount of vitamin A (a whopping 457 percent of the Reference Daily Intake), various forms of vitamin B, vitamin C, magnesium, manganese, potassium — geeze, no wonder butternut squash is considered to be a superfood!
Again, the vitamin A that’s in it is good for your eye and bone health while the vitamin C that it contains helps to reduce bodily inflammation and boost immunity. Something else that’s worth taking note of with this vegetable is, if you happen to be diabetic, it’s actually a sweet treat that has antidiabetic properties in it. How awesome is that?
There is also vitamin E in butternut squash; that’s dope because that helps with scalp health as far as slowing down premature aging and increasing blood circulation. Vitamin E is also super beneficial when it comes to moisturizing your hair shaft, which always reduces breakage. Plus, vitamin B is a nutrient that both strengthens and moisturizes your hair.
Butternut Squash Fall Recipe: Slow-Cooker Vegan Lentil Chili
4. Brussels Sprouts

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I don’t know about y’all, but I somewhat have a fickle relationship with Brussels sprouts. The reason why I say that is I like them (most) based on how they’re prepared (and who prepares them). I do try to get them into my system around this time of year, though, because they do the body good. As another food that is high in protein, fiber, and antioxidants, it’s a great food for vegetarians and vegans who may be looking for a protein source that doesn’t contain meat.
It’s also a good veggie when it comes to getting some vitamin C and K into your body. Aside from that, Brussels sprouts are really healthy because they help to manage blood sugar levels, reduce inflammation, fill you up with anti-cancer compounds, regulate your blood pressure, and they can also help you to maintain a healthy gut as well.
When it comes to hair growth and retention, vitamin K gets slept on far more than it should. For one thing, it helps to prevent scalp calcification (which is basically when too much calcium gets into your hair follicles and slows down blood flow and nutrients to them), so that you have less of a chance of dealing with brittle hair or even hair loss.
Brussels Sprouts Fall Recipe: Air Fryer Brussels Sprouts
5. Cranberries

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Want a snack that is low in calories and high in hydration? Look no further than a handful (or two) of cranberries. They’ve got fiber and 87 percent water in them. They’re also a fruit that contains vitamins A, C, E, K, and copper, along with a variety of plant compounds. Although it’s probably best known for being a natural way to treat a UTI (urinary tract infection), cranberries are also good for you when it comes to lowering your cholesterol and blood pressure levels, maintaining digestion, and helping to prevent kidney stones and even cavities.
Thanks to the copper that is in cranberries, they also can help to prevent premature graying, and, as far as hair length goes, their antioxidants can help to strengthen your hair follicles. Another cool thing about cranberries is they’re a rich source of potassium, and since hair loss has been linked to potassium deficiency — well, there ya go.
Cranberries Fall Recipe: Cranberry Apple Crisp
6. Cauliflower

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I’m pretty sure we all can agree that if there’s a food that is a vegan favorite, it would have to be cauliflower. Perhaps not so much because of how it tastes when it’s in its rawest form but because it’s been “upcycled” into so many other things like cauliflower rice and even cauliflower pizza crust. In the health benefits department, you can feel good about consuming this vegetable because it’s a good source of fiber, multiple forms of vitamin B, vitamin C, and antioxidants. It’s also a food that helps to fight heart disease, can be of great support if you’re looking to lose weight and the choline that’s in it is great for your metabolism and your cell membranes.
Cauliflower has also been proven to reduce oxidative stress and free radicals, help your body absorb iron better (being low in iron can lead to hair breakage and hair loss), and contain sulfur (which helps to strengthen hair) as well as silicon (which also reduces hair loss), so yes, it’s a great veggie to consider if gaining inches is a top priority for you right now.
Cauliflower Fall Recipe: Garlic-Parmesan Roasted Cauliflower
7. Pears

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There’s nothing like a juicy pear in the middle of the day. Every time you bite into one, you can feel good about it, too, because pears are high in fiber and a good source of copper and potassium. Pears also contain plant compounds that can protect your heart and reduce your chances of being diagnosed with cancer and diabetes. Plus, pears are able to fill your system up with good bacteria and they are great at relieving constipation, too.
Since pears also have vitamin C in them, it can’t be said enough that your locks will benefit from them because vitamin C maintains scalp health, adds strength and shine, boosts collagen, which increases elasticity and even makes your hair shinier.
Pear Fall Recipe: Caramelized Pear French Toast Bake
8. Pomegranates

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If you’re looking to get an unbelievable amount of fiber and protein from one fruit, pomegranates got you. As a bonus, they’re a good source of potassium, folate, vitamin C, and antioxidants. If you happen to deal with some type of chronic inflammation, pomegranates can help to bring you relief. They also have antimicrobial properties that can help you to maintain your oral health. Some other impressive things to take note of, as far as pomegranates are concerned, are they help to protect your brain cells, they can increase endurance for you (as far as workouts and even sex are concerned) and they can improve the level of prostate health in men.
Your tresses will enjoy this fall fruit because the antioxidants that are in it will strengthen your hair follicles as well as increase blood circulation to your scalp so that those follicles are able to receive the nutrients that they need. They are also able to reduce the oxidative stress in your system that can break down collagen which could make your hair brittle and lack flexibility (which can cause breakage).
Pomegranate Fall Recipe: Pomegranate-Glazed Salmon with Oranges, Olives, and Herbs
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Now that you know some autumn-season foods that are able to help your hair thrive, make sure to get a few of them. They’re delicious, they’re healthy and they’re just what your tresses need — from your scalp to your ends. Enjoy!
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This Is How To Keep 'Holiday Season Stress' From Infecting Your Relationship
Hmph. Maybe it’s just me, but it seems like there is something really weird happening in the fall season air (because winter doesn’t officially begin until December 21) that cuddle season is in full swing while break-up season is as well. In fact, did you know that break-ups are so popular during the holiday season that December 11 is deemed Break-Up Day?
The reasons why relationships shift around this time vary; however, I did both roll my eyes and chuckle when I read that a very popular one is because it’s an easy way to get out of getting one’s significant other a Christmas present. SMDH.
Anyway, I personally think that the less shallow folks out here may contemplate calling things “quits” or they at least distance themselves a bit from their partner (and what I’m referring to is serious relationships) due to all of the stress and strain that oftentimes comes with the holidays whether it be financial, familial, due to their tight schedules or something else.
Listen, I would hate for you and your man to miss the fun and happiness of experiencing this time of year, all because you are so overwhelmed or irritated that you can’t really enjoy it. That’s why I have a few practical tips for how to avoid allowing the typical holiday season stress from INFECTING your relationship.
Manage Your Expectations
GiphyUnmanaged expectations. If there is a main reason why the holiday season tends to be so stress-filled for so many people, I’d bet good money that this is the cause. And when you’re in a long-term relationship, expectations can manifest themselves in all sorts of cryptic and/or unexpected ways. You might have relatives who assume that you are going to be with them for Thanksgiving or Christmas when you have other plans in mind. You might be thinking that you are going to spend one amount for presents while your man is thinking something totally different. When it comes to scheduling, your signals may be crossed.
And you know what? To all of these scenarios, this is where clear and consistent communication come in. Don’t assume anything. Don’t dictate anything either. From now until New Year’s, mutually decide to check in once a week, just to make sure that you are both on the same page as it relates to the holidays and what you both are thinking will come along with it. The less blindsided you both feel, the less stressed out you will be. Trust me on this.
Set (and Keep) a Budget
GiphyOkay, so I read that last year, 36 percent of Americans incurred some type of holiday-related debt. Hmph. Last year, there was still some sense of normalcy in this country, chile, so I can only imagine what finances are gonna look like over the next several weeks. That said, since I don’t know a lot of people who don’t find being broke stressful, make sure that you and your bae set a budget and then stick to it this year — no ifs, ands or buts.
Because really, y’all — it doesn’t make sense to deplete savings and/or max out credit cards for a few days of giggles only to be damn near losing your mind because you don’t know how to make ends meet come Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day.
And by the way, this tip doesn’t just speak to things like food and gifts; I also mean travel. If it doesn’t make a ton of sense (or cents) to be all over the place this year — DON’T BE.
Keep Matthew 5:37 at the Forefront
GiphyIf off the top of your head, you don’t know what Matthew 5:37 says, no worries, here ya go: “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.” That verse right there? Oh, it’s a boundaries lifesaver! I say that because do you see “maybe” or “I’ll think about it” in there? Nope. LOL. It says that you should tell people “yes” or “no” and leave it at that — and that complements Anne Lamott’s quote, “’No’ is a complete sentence” impeccably well. Yeah, you’ve got to remember that anything beyond a yes or no to a request is privileged information; you don’t owe anyone details or an explanation.
Besides, if you are really honest with yourself, when someone asks you something and you give a “Umm, let me think about it” kind of reply, more times than not, you already know what your answer is going to be — so why not let you both off of the hook? Give your response. Commit to that. And let everyone (including yourself) get on with their lives and schedules.
I promise you that when it comes to those holiday parties, you are pissing more folks off by not RSVP’ing or doing so and not showing up than just saying, “Thank you but not this year” off the rip.
Remember That Your Personal Space Is Privilege Not a Right
GiphyA friend of mine recently bought a new house and invited me over to come see it. He’s a single man with no children, so as I was taking in all of the space that he had, especially as I walked through his finished basement, I joked about relatives coming to live with him. “Hell no” and “absolutely not” were pretty much his immediate responses as he went on to say that some folks even had the nerve to be offended when he told them that he had no intentions on taking DNA in.
Ain’t it wild how people think that your stuff is their right? And yes, that brings me to my next point. Your home is your sanctuary space. If you want to host folks this year — cool. If not, ALSO COOL. Please don’t let folks (family included) guilt you into how they want you to act or even into what they would do if the shoe was on the other foot. You are not them — and as one of my favorite quotes states, “If two people were exactly alike, one of them would be unnecessary.” (A man by the name Larry Dixon said that.)
Hell, my friends? They know that I am good for sending them random things that they need or even want all throughout the year. Coming over to hang out at my pace, though. Uh-uh. Chalk it up to being a card-carrying member of the ambivert club yet I like keeping my living space personal — and I sleep like a baby, each and every night, for feeling that way.
Always remember that your space, your time, your resources, your energy and shoot, yourself period (including your relationship), are all things that are your own. You get to choose how, when and why you want to share them. The holiday season is certainly no exception.
Cultivate Some “You Two Only” Traditions
GiphyIt’s not uncommon for some couples to hit me up after the holiday season to “detox.” Sometimes it’s due to the financial drama (and sometimes trauma) that they experienced. Sometimes it’s because they allowed their relatives (especially in-laws) to get more into their personal business than they should’ve. More than anything, though, it tends to be because they didn’t get enough quality time together and so ended up feeling “disconnected.”
Please don’t let that happen. Listen, I’m not even a holidays kind of woman and yet, I will absolutely sit myself down with some hot chocolate and chocolate chip cookies to enjoy a Hallmark holiday film or two. Aside from the fact that most of them are lighthearted and sweet, I also like that they usually focus on couples loving on each other amidst all of the holiday beauty and ambiance — which is something that all couples should set aside some time to do.
Maybe it’s a vacation. Maybe it’s a staycation. Or maybe it’s my personal favorite, A SEXCATION. Whether it’s for a few days, the weekend or even overnight — don’t you let the holidays go by without setting aside time for you and your man to celebrate one another. Don’t you dare (check out “Are You Ready To Have Some Very Merry 'Christmas Sex'?”).
GET. SOME. REST.
GiphyI once read that 8 out of 10 people get stressed out over the holidays and 3 out of 10 lose sleep during to it — and when you’re stress-filled and sleep-deprived, that can absolutely lead to hypersensitivity, making mountains out of molehills and even not being in the mood for sex.
Your relationship can’t afford to go through any of this, so definitely make sure to prioritize rest. I don’t care how unrealistic it might seem during this time, sleep should never be seen as a luxury; it will always and forever be a great necessity.
That said, try to get no less than six hours of shut-eye in (check out “6 Fascinating Ways Sex And Sleep Definitely Go Hand In Hand”) and even ask your bae to take a nap with you sometimes (check out “Wanna Have Some Next-Level Sex? Take A Nap, Sis.”). Not only will sleep help to restore your mind, body and spirit but, when it’s with your partner, it’s an act of intimacy that can make you both feel super connected, even in the midst of what might feel like chaos.
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Holiday season stress is real. Still, never give it the permission or power to throw your relationship off. Put you and your man first and let the holidays be what they are gonna be, chile.
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This Experience Curator Details How To Host Guests For The Holidays
In many cultures, going to grandma's house for the holidays has always been the thing to do. But as we get older, things change. We move to new cities, start our own families, and our grandparents may no longer be around, so our homes may now be the holiday destination for extended family.
However, playing host can be a hassle, especially during the holidays when your home becomes your family and friends’ home for a short period. And if this is your first year hosting the holidays at your place, you can be in for a rude awakening if you don’t make the necessary preparations beforehand.
We spoke to NYC-based experience curator and owner of POP! by Yaz, Yasmin “Yaz” Quiles, to help guide first-timers. According to Yasmin, an experience curator is “someone who not only focuses on an actual event but the entire experience, and that can mean anything from the first point of contact, things from an invitation, a website, all the way to the end and after effects.”
If you are hosting the holidays in your home, it is important to touch on all of these points so that your guests can have an experience to remember. Here are the steps to successfully host family and friends for the holidays.
1.Plan and Organize:
Before people start showing up to your house, you must plan out what you need and for how many people. It's also a great time to be creative. “The first part is the dream part because it’s the fun part. What do I envision my event to look like? What do I want my people to feel when they come to my space? Ask all of the questions for the first point of contact,” says Yasmin. “What kind of invitation [am I using?] Who am I inviting? What kind of music are we listening to? The food. So, you start thinking about what the vision is, and then after the dreaming, you organize your thoughts.”
That includes putting together a budget. “See what you have access to, what you need help with, and what you may need to outsource,” she advises. Meaning, this is the time to decide if you and your family will be cooking or if everyone will chip in to get dinner catered.
2.Repurpose Your Items:

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As you continue to plan and organize, it's important to take stock of what you already have at home. This can also help you stay within budget. If you have a limited budget then start thinking about how to utilize what you already have in a innovative way.
“I also like to start with inventory. What [are] items in your house that you can use? That way you can determine what it is that you have to get,” she suggests. “I feel like a lot of people always put together a list and it's always 'buy, buy, buy, buy,' versus ‘oh, wait a minute, I actually do have some things that I can utilize and I can just use it in a different way.’”
For example, “Utilizing a console as a small bar area or creating fake fireplaces. I think there are ways to use items in your space so that you don’t have to continue to fill it up with new things.”
3.Make Your Guests Feel Like They Are at Home:
Ever heard the saying, "mi casa es su casa?" You want your space to make guests feel like a home away from home and having a cozy place to sleep plays a major part in that. Be realistic about how many people you can fit comfortably in your home. “Figure out how much space you have in your house and how many people you can truly accommodate,” she says. “What that means is even if you have a two-bedroom apartment, what are some creative ways you can create some space for them? Is it an air mattress or is it getting a hotel that is close to you; Airbnb's?”
You also want to provide your guests with the necessary accouterments and the gift of convenience. If you have certain rituals in your home, you want to make sure your guests can also participate in them. “What I love to do with my guests, I always love to make them feel like they're at home even when they are not, so I like to replicate the things I love in a hotel room. In our house we take off our shoes so we always have disposable slippers here that people can slide on or brand new socks in a basket,” she explains. “That way they can feel immediately comfortable the moment they pass the threshold in your house."
"And in the bathroom or if there’s a powder room, I like to put together a little welcome basket and it can be something as simple as here’s your towel, here’s your washcloth, all the little toiletries you may need," she adds. "I give them their own little stash, that way they don’t feel like they’re burdening me by asking, 'oh, do you have q-tips' or whatever it is. It’s all already set up there for them and it makes them feel so welcome and thought of.”
4.Food and Entertainment:

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Along with welcome baskets, the Afro-Latina entrepreneur also enjoys putting lists together with a few of her recommendations. Think, welcome lists you receive at hotels and Airbnb. “I’ll put together a short list of my favorite restaurants, my favorite channels or shows to watch that way they can be entertained while I’m doing other things,” she says.
The holidays involve a lot of cooking and so going out to eat may not be an option. But neither is eating mac and cheese, collard greens, and ham all day, every day. So, it's best to provide options for your guests. “When people go to other people’s homes, they really want the house experience so eating out is great, it’s fine, but I think it really makes people happy when immediately there at home at your house," explains Yasmin.
"What I like to do is immediately have an assortment of snacks available and that means everything from the folks that are on a diet to folks who want to indulge and have a little bit of everything. That way we have a good selection. And [I like to have] things that can be left out for a couple of days as well so I’m thinking pre-packaged items that way [they can] 'grab and go.'”
5.Activities:
When having guests stay over for a few days, you should want to do more than just stay in and look at each other the whole time. Similarly to the way Yasmin advises providing a list of recommendations for eating out and indoor entertainment for guests, she suggests providing guests with a list of favorite stores or favorite markets with recommendations of what to buy.
This can also be a great time to show your guests where you live by going on walks or a scenic drive. "A lot of times these holiday celebrations happen when we are in the midst of planning and doing things and doing all the last-minute errands. Another thing I like to do is photo albums, people love photo albums.”
Yasmin recommends having a physical photo album that you and your guests can look through or a digital frame such as Aura Frames that holds photos online that you can continue to add to.
6.Music:
What’s left is providing the ambiance. One of the many ways that people do this is by having a playlist. Creating a playlist is fun but can also be time-consuming. Not only do you have to add your auntie's favorite Christmas song to the playlist but you may also want to take a trip down memory lane with your siblings and jam to a throwback from your childhood. Yasmin reveals a solution, which she refers to as an “elevated” experience.
“You can hire a DJ. They can do a set on Twitch,” Yasmin says. “There’s a chatroom function so you can put it on your TV, so all the guests who are there can listen to the music live but if there are guests who can’t make it for whatever reason, they can tune in and participate via the chat.”
The experience curator also suggests having a quiet space for those who are more introverted or need a break from the loud music and crowd.
7.The Breakdown:
Whether you and your family decide to cook together or hire a caterer, cleaning up after a big event is always a buzz kill. Yasmin recommends outsourcing help as a way to enjoy yourself and not worry about the aftermath. “Clean up can be a big hassle. It is okay to get a cleaning team. It is okay to hire a bartender. It is okay to hire anybody who can make your job easier,” she assures.
“The point of these events really is to connect and I feel we get so caught up in the doing that we forget that and the party ends and we’re like, ‘Dang, I didn’t get to have a conversation with my best girlfriend who I haven’t seen in six months.’ Give yourself permission to outsource so that you can have a good time.”
For more information about Yasmin, you can visit her website at yazquiles.com and follow her on Instagram @popbyyaz.
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Originally published on December 13, 2022









