Welp. It's that time of year again. Time to figure out what your strategy is going to be in order to avoid catching a cold. If you've ever wondered why it seems like more folks end up coughing and sneezing during the fall and winter seasons than any other time of the year, blame it on our noses. Our noses actually help to trap a lot of the viruses that try and invade our systems. But when the temperature drops, the cold air cools down our nasal passages, slows down the production of mucus (which is there to fight and remove infection), making us more vulnerable to getting sick.
Personally, I am not big on the whole over-the-counter drugs approach to handling a cold. To me, it's all about being as proactive as possible by finding natural and holistic ways to prepare my body for the germs that want to try and slow me down.
If this is the time of year that you always dread because, it's almost guaranteed that a cold will be coming your way, here are 10 things that you can do to build up your system and knock out the cold-causing viruses before they become too much of a nuisance or health issue.
1. Pour a Little Bit of Peroxide Down Your Ears
Although I don't get sick often, about twice a year, I'll feel a sore throat coming on. For me, that's always a sign that I'm about to catch a cold that I totally don't want. You've probably heard before that one of the best ways to nip the beginning stages of a cold or flu bug is to pour some hydrogen peroxide down both of your ears. Sis, when I tell you it works…it works.
All you need to do is get some that is three percent grade (which is what's usually at your local grocery store or pharmacy), pour about a capful of the solution into the bottle's top, tilt your head and pour it in. You'll immediately hear some bubbling and popping which means that it's cutting through your ear wax and cleaning out the infection that is trying to get you sick. Keep your head tilted for about five minutes and then grab a tissue to collect whatever fluid is left. Do the same with your other ear and you should notice a significant change within 12 hours or so. I know I always do. (If you want to read more about this, you can by clicking here.)
2. Eat Phytochemicals
This is the time of year when sugar and alcohol are in abundance. Just keep in mind that moderation is key because, if you consume too much of either, that can trigger candida in your gut which could end up weakening your immune system. Instead, swap out the sugar cookies and spiked eggnog for some phytochemicals. What the heck are they? They are active compounds, found in plants, that are loaded with vitamins C and E to strengthen your immunity while giving you more energy in the process. Some foods that are loaded with phytochemicals include grapes, cabbage, garlic, cauliflower, tomatoes, broccoli and red wine.
3. Eat Some Antioxidants Too
If you've ever wondered what antioxidants actually do, in a nutshell, they are molecules that fight free radicals that seek to damage the cells within your body. So, you can probably see why it's such a good idea to eat as many as possible if you want to keep from catching a cold. Some foods that are packed with antioxidants include blueberries, beets, spinach, kale, carrots, citrus fruits and dark chocolate.
4. Consume Probiotics
Something that a lot of people don't realize is about 80 percent of our immune system is located inside of our gut. The healthier it is, the stronger our systems are and the easier it is to fight off germs, viruses and infections. One way to keep your gut health on-point is to consume probiotics.
You can do this by eating fermented foods like pickles, kefir, miso, kombucha and sauerkraut and/or taking a probiotic supplement. If you decide to go the supplement route, make sure that it is a multi-strain kind that contains no less than 25-billion units. That way, you'll know that it's truly effective.
5. Drink Bone Broth
Who didn't have chicken soup when they were sick as a child? If you ever wondered why that seemed to be such a miracle cure, it was mostly due to the broth that was in it. Now that you're grown, one of the best ways to keep a cold at bay is to make your own bone broth. It contains amino acids like arginine and glutamine to boost your immune system, L-glutamine to reduce inflammation (and promote weight loss), electrolytes to increase hydration, properties to reduce gut bacteria, and the amino acid cysteine. Why is that relevant? Believe it or not, on the chemical tip, it actually resembles the bronchitis drug acetylcysteine. Since close to nine million Americans get bronchitis each year and women contract it twice as much as men, that's just one more reason to whip some homemade bone broth up. (You can get a great bone broth recipe here.)
6. DIY Some Antibacterial Wipes
When you stop to think about where germs are in abundance, places like kitchens and bathrooms are a given. But germs are also plentiful on doorknobs, in your make-up, on your smartphone, at ATMS, on grocery carts, on your keys, and in your purse and wallet. That's why it's so important to keep your hands clean as much as possible.
One way to do that is to wash them. Another way is to use antibacterial wipes. Since more and more research is revealing that regular soap is about as effective as the antibacterial kind, if you want to use an antibacterial wipe that has as little unnecessary chemicals as possible, why not try your hand at DIY'ing it? All you basically need is some vinegar, detergent and lavender essential oil and you're basically good to go. (You can get step-by-step instructions by going here.)
7. Apply Some Citrus Essential Oils
Personally, I'm a huge fan of essential oils, so I had to make sure that I gave some of them a shout-out. If you don't already have some citrus essential oils in your collection, now would be the time to get 'em. Ones like orange, lemon, lime, grapefruit and bergamot are ideal for cold and flu season for a myriad of reasons. They contain antioxidant properties that fight off free radicals. They are able to clear out germs while boosting your immune system. And, if you need to suppress a cough, lime essential oil is especially able to do just that.
As far as the best ways to apply citrus essential oils, you can do one of the following—pour some of the oil into a diffuser in order to purify the air, put some oil into a spray bottle for quite the immunity (and energy) pick me up, or you can combine citrus oils with a carrier oil (like grapeseed, avocado or sweet almond oil), warm the combo up and give yourself a soothing chest and back massage. Don't be afraid to mix some of the oils up too. The more the merrier when you're trying to prevent a cold from coming on.
8. Also Drink Some Horehound Tea
Although it's not a type of tea that you hear about on a daily basis, this is the time of year when you should definitely store up on some horehound tea (or horehound tea leaves). Not only is it a tea that contains iron, potassium, vitamins A, B-complex, C and E, horehound tea also has the powerful medicinal properties that are found in the bitter marrubiin plant. All of these things work together in order to keep your digestive tract healthy, lower blood sugar and cholesterol levels and even ease menstrual cramps. Plus, if you feel the onset of a cold coming on, the properties in horehound tea will thin out the mucus in your lungs, soothe your sore throat, ease congestion in your nose, act as an expectorant, and also reduce inflammation throughout your body. Get the tea here. Get some of the loose leaves here.
9. Use a Dehumidifier
One of the reasons why a lot of us are more susceptible to colds is because we're indoors a lot more and there can be as much as 10 times more air pollution inside than outside. One way to keep indoor air pollution to a minimum is to invest in a dehumidifier.
The reason why this is such a good idea is because dehumidifiers are designed to pull moisture out of the air. As a result, less germs and allergens that could get you sick are floating around. Some other bonuses are they help to keep mold out of your clothes, odors out of the air and dust from irritating your respiratory system and collecting on your furniture.
10. Exercise
Depending on how you look at it, I saved the best for last. I say that because something else that can reduce your chances of getting a cold is exercise. Even though the cold weather may tempt you to not be as consistent when it comes to your exercise routine, if you don't want to catch a cold, this is actually when you should be working out more than usual. When you exercise, you increase the circulation throughout your body. When that happens, antibodies are able to flow throughout your bloodstream quicker, making it possible for your immune system to work harder and more effectively.
So, even if it means spending more time at home on your treadmill or with your exercise ball, make sure to devote 30-45 minutes, three days a week to doing some cardio (and a little weight training). Your body will love you for it. Cold germs will hate you for it. And all will be right with the world.
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Thing is, with the divorce rate still being higher than it ever should be (for the record, a husband is not a boyfriend, and a wife is not a girlfriend; a marriage is serious business, y’all) and acting married being praised (or at least acknowledged) more than actually being married seems to be — folks who 1) are married and are looking for some hacks that will help with relational longevity or 2) want to be married someday and want insight on how to make their future marriage last are constantly seeking truly beneficial material.
Can you Google articles with random bullet points? Sure. And I’m not discouraging it. Every little bit of wisdom that you can pull, I fully support. However, the reason why I like to do articles like this one from time to time is there is something to be said from hearing real talk from multiple sources on the same topic who have some solid wisdom and knowledge on a particular topic.
Today? 11 married couples who were willing to talk about how they’ve been able to make it to several wedding anniversaries with a smile on their face and no regrets for choosing who they chose. Let’s all sit at their feet for just a moment.
*Middle names are always used in my content that’s like this so that people can speak freely*
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1. Kyle and Adrienne. Married 12 Years.
Kyle: “Some of your readers aren’t going to want to hear this but it’s worked for my marriage: people need to lower their expectations sometimes; I mean, men and women. We go into marriage with stuff that movies told us, social media told us, friends who are always single told us about what we should expect from someone, and then want to fault the person when they’re not what we made up in our head. Everyone should have standards but if you’re expecting your spouse to be some living version of a fairy tale character, you’re going to be disappointed almost every day of your life. Drop those expectations some and watch your relationship be a lot less stressful.”
Adrienne: “Talk to people who respect your man about your marriage. I’ve never believed that you shouldn’t ever go to anyone when you need some support. Even the Bible says that there is safety in wise counsel [Proverbs 11:4]. Too many women talk to women who don’t respect men, in general, let alone their husbands, and so that’s where things go left. Sometimes, you need an ‘outside in’ perspective. But if that woman is always taking shots at men, doesn’t respect marriage, or isn’t someone who holds your man in high regard, don’t ask her for advice. Really, you should ask yourself why you’re friends with her at all.”
Shellie here: I’m big on engaged and married couples having a “village” of sorts for their relationship, too. Check out “Why Every Engaged Couple Needs A 'Marriage Registry'” to get a good idea of what I mean.
2. Levi and Paulette. Married for 15 Years.
Levi: “Some of you have probably heard of the 7-7-7 rule. It’s where couples go on a date every seven days, have a weekend getaway every seven weeks, and go on a romantic trip of some sort every seven months. My wife and I do the 2-2-2 rule instead because sometimes our schedule and budget make ‘7’ difficult. It has gotten easier since Shellie told us about the sex jar. Bottom line, if you’re waiting for time to just open up to be with your spouse, that ain’t gonna happen. Schedule intimacy, including sex. Prioritizing it is better than saying you’re gonna be spontaneous and…never are.”
Paulette: “Initiate sex, dammit. When Shellie told us that men initiate sex most of the time, and then I thought about how often I used to push my husband away whenever he did it — I never really thought about how that made him feel until I put myself in his shoes. We’ve got to stop having all of this understanding for why women cheat when it comes to them not feeling desired or not getting attention when we’re the same way to our husbands. Your marriage isn’t ‘Young and the Restless’, where you’re just supposed to wait for your man to make the move. If you want to feel wanted, do the same thing for him.”
Shellie here: What’s a sex jar, you ask? You can read more about it via “5 Reasons Why Every Married Couple Needs A Sex Jar.”
3. Matthew and Gaia. Married for 17 Years.
Matthew: “Reenact some of your favorite times together. My wife and I do that semi-often. We’ll go back to where we had our first date, or we’ll go back to the hotel where we had some of the best sex before. Bringing back memories of when you felt the best together can give you the motivation to stay together to create some new memories to ‘play out’ later on.”
Gaia: “If you want to ‘mom your husband,’ you need to have kids — or at least get a dog! I didn’t realize how bossy I was until I got married. It’s because I saw my mom be that way with my dad. In my eyes, I thought that’s what love looked like until I watched how my in-laws were. They don’t try to change each other, and they definitely don’t make any demands. They’re very polite. I think a lot of married people are rude to their partner. Don’t be that.”
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4. Joseph and Carletta. Married for 10 Years.
Joseph: “Go to therapy for your childhood. I’m dead serious. No one is going to show you yourself like your wife will, and I realized that a lot of my hang-ups came from unhealed childhood stuff. It’s hard to be an adult in your marriage when you’re still emotionally a kid in a lot of ways. If you’re at the point where you think therapy is needed, go alone and deal with your childhood first. It did miracles for me and mine.”
"No one is going to show you yourself like your wife will, and I realized that a lot of my hang-ups came from unhealed childhood stuff. It’s hard to be an adult in your marriage when you’re still emotionally a kid in a lot of ways."
Carletta: “Meditate together once a day. Even if it’s just for 5-10 minutes, you need to carve out a moment to be mindful, focus on each other, and slow the world down. [Joseph and I] have been doing it for a couple of years now; it’s totally changed the way we communicate. Meditation reminds us to put each other first; that if we’re focused on each other, we can take on…whatever.”
5. Zeke and Rachelle. Married for 12 Years.
Zeke: “An argument is not a fight and a debate is not an argument. Learn that and you’re home-free. That’s all I got.”
Rachelle: “That advice that you just got? That sums up what it’s like to live with my husband. He’s very cut-and-dry, direct, and not wordy. That used to bug the hell out of me until I realized how wordy I was and then accepted that I wouldn’t want ‘two of me’ in the house [LOL]. He’s right. You can have a difference of opinion, and it be a debate. You can not find a middle ground on something and it turns into an argument. Neither of those is a red flag. It just comes with being with someone who is as much of an individual as you are.”
6. Taurus and Madison. Married for 22 Years.
Taurus: “Be prepared for your partner to change — not a couple of times, quite a bit. And when they change, that alters the relationship because now it’s not the person you stood with on your wedding day; it’s someone else. People get divorced so much because they are inflexible; they expect their spouse to never switch up and that’s just not how life is. If you’re rigid, controlling, or don’t know how to adjust, you don’t need to marry anybody. You’re gonna be miserable, and so will they.”
Madison: “Pray before sex. Before my husband and I got married, we had quite a bit of sexual history that caused us to do some comparing, and that led to resentment. In marriage, we had to adjust to how it’s more than just what we’re getting from another person. Married sex comes with so much more spirituality and responsibility. Prayer before sex reminds us to see it from a spiritual lens — and that makes the experience more intense and sacred. It might sound weird at first. Just try it. I don’t think you’ll regret it at all.”
"Married sex comes with so much more spirituality and responsibility. Prayer before sex reminds us to see it from a spiritual lens — and that makes the experience more intense and sacred."
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7. Karl and LaTasha. Married for 9 Years.
Karl: “Check in with your partner twice a day. In the morning before leaving the house and at night before going to sleep. If you work outside of the home, a lot can happen during the course of one day, so you shouldn’t assume that the person you left in the morning is who you are coming home to. I don’t mean sharing each other’s schedules or to-do lists. I mean, asking your spouse, ‘How are you doing? How are you really doing?’. It’s a smart way to take note of their mood and needs so that you are never blindsided.”
LaTasha: “Give each other some privacy. I have never been the kind of woman to go through a man’s phone, and I won’t start. If you think that you have to be a detective in your relationship, why are you in it in the first place? I know that Karl would give me codes and passwords if I wanted them because we’ve talked about it all before. Knowing that he would is enough for me. Marriage is an institution, but damn, it shouldn’t feel like jail.”
8. Thomas and Wynter. Married for 15 Years.
Thomas: “Ask your partner what their sexual needs are. Never assume that they haven’t changed because if we all agree that we are constantly growing and evolving as people, why would sex be exempt? Don’t personalize what they say about it either. All of us have sexual fantasies and interests that we keep to ourselves because we don’t know what our partner will think or ‘cause we think that they will create stories in their head about what made us think that way. I’ve learned that intimacy is feeling okay with sharing the deep stuff. The more comfortable a man, especially, is with doing that, the better the sex will be for everyone because talking about stuff like that is like taking down some walls.”
Wynter: “It’s okay to take one vacation a year with your girls and one by yourself. Just don’t go with people who don’t have the same standards as you, and as far as your solo venture, it doesn’t need to be longer than a long weekend. One thing that they don’t tell you about marriage is how there are times when you will feel like it is monotonous because of the routine of everything. A girls’ trip reminds you to get back to you outside of being someone’s wife or mom, and the trip alone is when you can sit around and do whatever you have to negotiate most of them. And yes, your man should be given the same courtesy.”
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9. Allen and Yvette. Married for 11 Years.
Allen: “STOP. BRINGING. UP. OLD. SH-T. SH-T. Nothing creates walls in a marriage more than you telling someone that you forgave them, and then the minute something else happens, here you go with the rap sheet of wrongs. Forgiving someone means that you are pardoning them, and that’s not what you’re doing if you’re constantly holding stuff over their head. One thing that marriage will show you is how bad of a forgiver you are. Most people suck at it, if we’re gonna be real about it.”
Yvette: “I already know that some women are going to assume that my man must’ve done something to say all of that (LOL). He’s a much better forgiver than I am, believe it or not. The real plot twist is, what gets on his nerves more than anything, is when I bring up stuff that he’s forgiven me for. Allen is the kind of man [who] hates to live in the past. I’ve grown a lot because of that. I think my advice would be to stay focused on solutions and tomorrow instead of problems and yesterday.”
Allen: “Sh- t, that’s bars, babe!”
Shellie here: INDEED.
10. Brennton and Danyelle. Married for 16 Years.
Brennton: “Why anyone who is trash at forgiving would get married is beyond me. It’s delusional to the nth degree to think that you are worthy of forgiveness and others aren’t — or that what you do isn’t ‘as bad,’ and that’s why you deserve forgiveness and others don’t. My wife and I have a lot of time under our belts. I’m here to tell you that there will be something, daily, that you will need to forgive your partner for on some level. If you can’t see yourself being open to that, marriage simply isn’t for you.”
Danyelle: “I don’t know who taught so many of us that being passive-aggressive will get us what we want, but it’s a damn lie. If something is wrong, stop saying ‘nothing’ when your man asks you what’s up because, if you’ve got a man like mine, he’s gonna say ‘Okay’ and go on about his day. Brennton often says that my refusing to speak isn’t his responsibility, it’s mine. That used to piss me off because, deep down, I knew that he was right. Oh, and chill on the grudge-holding too. With guys, that’s not going to get you anywhere either.”
11. Christopher and Yvonne. Married for 26 Years.
Christopher: “Have more loyalty for your spouse than you do your closest friend. Too many people don’t think like that. If you’ve got a friend since college, you’ve been through some things and you’ve learned to forgive and move past it. If you can’t see your wife or husband in this way, why did you get married? You should never have more grace for someone who you didn’t take vows with; that’s ludicrous. Before anyone else, I’m going to prioritize reconciling with my wife. It’s because I value her more than anyone. That’s what marriage is.”
"Before anyone else, I'm going to prioritize reconciling with my wife. It's because I value her more than anyone. That's what marriage is."
Yvonne: “Even if you’re not about ‘traditional gender roles,’ discuss what the expectations are for the home. People don’t divorce over cheating as much as getting sick of beard clippings in the bathroom sink or cars that look like pocketbooks. When you sign up for marriage, you are doing daily life with another person. Articulate your expectations. Listen to theirs. Be flexible until you both can make it work. Do that, and you’ll look up, and it’s been 20 years already.”
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Gems. Pure gems, y’all.
You know, popular consultant Barbara De Angelis once said, “Marriage is not a noun; it’s a verb. It isn’t something you get. It’s something you do. It’s the way you love your partner every day.” And love? Love is a choice.
And so, whether you’re married, engaged, or simply desire marriage in the future, hopefully, these tips will help you to choose how you love your spouse (or future spouse)…better.
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