Being in a relationship with an Aquarius is like having a best friend and a lover in one. You can count on them to support you in all ways and make you feel like you are special. They love the individuality of others and there is nothing too weird or too unusual to the eye of an Aquarius, making the people in a relationship with them feel comfortable to be themselves. They have no problem finding a love match, but will only fully commit to the right one. They value consistency and loyalty, but will not restrict or dedicate themselves without being 100% completely sure about it.
Aquarius in Love & Relationships
Love for Aquarius is about making sense. This sign is ruled by Saturn and Uranus, and people often forget about the Saturn part. They are adventurous, rebellious souls, but they do so with purpose, intent, and in a structured way. They also expect this type of balance between freedom and commitment within their relationships. They are looking for a partner who can bring something different to the table and that isn’t like anyone else they’ve ever met before. An Aquarius is like a unicorn in love looking for another unicorn.
Aquarius Love Compatibility: Best & Worst Love Matches in the Zodiac
Although it can be difficult to get close to an Aquarius and they only let a few people in, when you are in, an Aquarius will be there for you until the end. Read below to see how your sign matches with this air sign:
Who Are Aquariuses Most Compatible With?
Aquarius + Aries Love Compatibility
This couple is fun, adventurous, dynamic, and supportive of one another. Aquarius and Aries are often on the same wavelength and they also respect each other's differences rather than being turned off by them. Being that these are both highly independent individuals, they do need to make sure they are taking the time to meet in the middle and not create too many completely separate lives away from each other. Other than that, when it works it works, and these two have what it takes to go the distance if they are both committed to doing so.
Aquarius + Taurus Love Compatibility
This match isn’t the best of the best, and for obvious reasons. The Aquarius and Taurus live in different worlds and don’t often want to visit where each other is. Aquarius thinks and Taurus senses. Aquarius wants to talk it out, and Taurus wants to experience it. Aquarius also tends to be a few steps ahead of Taurus, as Taurus likes to go at their own pace and rushes their energy for nobody. These two may work if they have other prominent air and earth factors in the birth chart, other than that, there are a lot of disagreements and conflicts here.
Aquarius + Gemini Love Compatibility
Aquarius and Gemini are soulmates. Aquarius is one of the only signs in the zodiac that flows well with Gemini rather than fights against them. They see something special and unique about Gemini and vice versa. The conversation between these two signs is impeccable, and they can talk for hours. This is a fun relationship, where they both like to go out and spend time with friends, and there is a lightheartedness that they both crave within a relationship. Aquarius and Gemini are a meant-to-be type of love.
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Aquarius + Cancer Love Compatibility
The compatibility isn’t the best match for Aquarius, but it is not the worst either. If these two can understand that they have a lot to learn from each other and that their differences aren’t weaknesses but rather mirrors of each other, then this relationship can be successful. The only major challenge here is the emotional world of them both. Aquarius is at a 1 and Cancer is at a 100. However, Cancer’s energy can be good for Aquarius and help them be more vulnerable and open emotionally, which is beneficial to any relationship.
Aquarius + Leo Love Compatibility
Aquarius and Leo are where opposites attract. They are sister signs in Astrology, meaning that these two signs are on the exact opposite sides of the zodiac wheel. You can envision this as yin and yang coming together as one. An Aquarius and Leo relationship is full of main character energy, and they both hold themselves well. Leo is intrigued by Aquarius’ eccentric and quirky behavior and supports them in their self-expression. Egos can clash here from time to time, all in all, however, Aquarius can’t deny how much they adore their bold Leos.
Aquarius + Virgo Love Compatibility
Aquarius and Virgo are where intellect and respect meet. They have a lot in common, and both express themselves emotionally in similar ways. This connection is a hit or miss, as they may meet and immediately have a soulmate connection and a relationship full of inspiration, understanding, and grace. On the other hand, they may never get to that place and the relationship may stay stuck at the beginning stages of a connection. These two must be willing to dive deeper than good conversation to make it work.
Aquarius + Libra Love Compatibility
Libra is one of the only signs that can get Aquarius to the altar. Aquarius is ready to risk it all for Libra and vice versa. These two just get each other, and Libra opens up Aquarius’ emotional world in a way where they don’t feel forced. Aquarius and Libra are a fun couple with the best outfits and outgoing demeanors. There is a good give and take in this relationship and they both meet each other where the other is. This is one of the best matches for Aquarius and they tend to fall for each other quickly.
Aquarius + Scorpio Love Compatibility
Aquarius and Scorpio are an oddball couple. They don’t immediately seem like a great match to others, but when you dive a little deeper, you can see where the connection forms. Being both fixed signs, these two value loyalty, confidence, and stability in life. They know where each other stands and there is no second-guessing here. This, however, is another relationship though where egos may clash often and some mind games and power struggles may arise here. This relationship can work if both are in it for the right reasons.
Aquarius + Sagittarius Love Compatibility
Aquarius and Sagittarius are a couple that is all about experiencing life together and learning from each other. They are both explorers of the mind, and Sagittarius helps Aquarius get out of their shell more. There are plenty of positive adventures that these two have together, and this is a couple who are both lovers and best friends. The chemistry is impeccable between these two, and that includes in the bed. Overall, this relationship has all the necessary components to succeed, and it’s all about being at the right place and the right time in life for both of them.
Aquarius + Capricorn Love Compatibility
Aquarius and Capricorn are often fond and intrigued by each other. Being both ruled by Saturn, they have a common ground upon a relationship to be built upon. These two work on their relationship from the ground up and are both willing to put in the necessary time and patience needed for it to work. Over time, the relationship may go stale with the lack of emotional energy on both sides, and if they can learn to switch up the usual routine, go on frequent date nights, and spend time together, this relationship can be a successful one where they build a nice life together.
Aquarius + Aquarius Love Compatibility
An Aquarius and an Aquarius duo are not very common, but when they do meet they feel the magic. There is an instinctual knowing and connection that they have right away, but a lot of the time these two are better off as friends than lovers. See, Aquarius is the least common sign in the world, and they like their sense of individualism. Being in a relationship with someone more similar to them than anything is more of a turn-off for Aquarius as they like the fact that no one is like them. This relationship can work depending on the place in life Aquarius is in.
Aquarius + Pisces Love Compatibility
This is a sweet pairing and a sweet couple. Pisces may be the best water sign match for Aquarius, as Aquarius finds something endearing about emotional Pisces rather than disruptive. There is a very special connection here that often goes missing, and Aquarius gets to take a break from all the logical thinking and indulge in a little fantasy when in a relationship with Pisces. Pisces may not always receive what they are looking for with Aquarius however, as they need that emotional rapport, but if Aquarius is willing to open up and be a little more vulnerable, this relationship can be magic.
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