In the midst of a global pandemic and social unrest, we are experiencing a whole ass renaissance in the arts and entertainment industry and on behalf of Black creatives everywhere… you're welcome.
Now, more than ever, it is clear that Blackness isn't just a trend, issa whole culture that deserves all of the respect, and companies like Netflix are putting their money where their mouth is and giving us exactly that with September's lineup.
By including some of our favorite throwback shows and a few new originals, the streaming platform has not only filled up our weekend itinerary with hella Black AF binge-worthy content but given us the dose of nostalgia we didn't know we needed.
Scroll below for everything that's new and Black AF on Netflix this month!
Menace II Society (Sept. 1)
Menace II Society
Co-starring Jada Pinkett-Smith, Larenz Tate, and Samuel Jackson, this 1993 critically acclaimed film is available for streaming right now.
Set It Off (Sept.1)
Set It Off
I'm not gone lie, I cry real tears every time I see my girl Cleo go out like a g, and although Stony seemed to go on and live a nice, simple life, TiTi's departure never quite sat right with me and my homegirls. You can grab a box of tissues and tune into this '96 classic on Sept. 1.
Barbershop (Sept.1)
Barbershop
Before we move on, did we ever decide who drank Terri's apple juice? Starring Ice Cube, Cedric The Entertainer, Michael Ealy, Eve, and many more of our Black AF faves, Barbershop will give you a first-class trip to 2000s.
Bookmarks: Celebrating Black Voices (Sept. 1)
Jill Scott, Tiffany Haddish, Lupita Nyong'o, Grace Byers, and more of our favorites linked up to show love to the kids with Netflix's latest storybook original series, Bookmarks and we are here for all of it.
Glory (Sept. 1)
Glory
I was today-years-old when I realized that viral Denzel Washington crying meme came from this movie, only one of the many reasons this 1989 war film is classic AF.
Sister, Sister: Season 1-6 (Sept. 1)
Sister, Sister
Before The Real, The Game, and countless other projects in which Tia and Tamera Mowry had starring roles was Sister, Sister, the fan-favorite '90s sitcom that catapulted these sisters into the spotlight.
Anaconda (Sept. 1)
Anaconda
Am I the only one who can't say the word Anaconda without rapping a verse of Nicki Minaj's timeless bop? While this 1997 horror/thriller featuring Ice Cube and Jennifer Lopez may not have anything to do with Queen Barb, it's perfect for the old school horror film buff in your life.
Lakeview Terrace (Sept. 1)
Lakeview Terrace
Kerry Washington and Samuel L. Jackson star in this creepy thriller that will remind you to be cautious when you're buying a home that could possibly be next door to a murderer.
Greenleaf: Season 5 (Sept. 10)
OWN
The final season of OWN'S hit series Greenleaf is making its way onto the platform on Sept. 10 and I'm not crying, you are.
Girlfriends: Seasons 1-8 (Sept. 11)
Girlfriends
I was only 7-years-old when Joan, Toni, Lynn, and Maya first hit television, and twenty years later, I'm pleased to know that I can relive all the Black girl magic of the '99s and the 2000s. Last month, Netflix granted our wishes and gave us our entire lives by giving us unlimited access to every season of Moesha and The Game, and one of the latest throwback classic to hit the platform this month stars one of our favorite serial entrepreneurs and some of her best Girlfriends.
The Rap Game: Season 2 (Sept. 15)
Lifetime
Season 2 of Jermaine Dupri's reality rap competition show will be available to stream on Sept. 15.
GIMS: On the Record (Sept. 17)
Netflix
This Netflix original documentary gives an in-depth look at the rise of Congolese superstar Maître Gims.
A Love Song for Latasha (Sept. 21)
Black lives have always mattered and A Love Song for Latasha gives us an in-depth look at the life of a 15-year-old-girl whose murder reminded America of this fact more than 25 years ago.
Michelle Buteau: Welcome to Buteaupia (Sept. 29)
Netflix
Black women are funny AF and Michelle Buteau's latest stand-up special is no exception.
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The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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