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The truth is, a lot of us are not OK.

With death, depression, and uncertainty running rampant through the country, our mental health is fragile and a government-mandated request to stay away from the ones we love isn't making sh*t any easier.


While social distancing has made Sunday brunches and girls' nights a thing of the past, checking in on your homegirls for a weekly FaceTime call might be what you both need to get your spirits all the way together.

And while I think that this is the message that Tia Mowry attempted to relay on social media, unfortunately, it wasn't well received. In a since-deleted tweet she wrote:

"During this pandemic, you really see who your real friends are. Who's checking up on you? Making sure are okay? Remember that when all this is over?"

While Tia's message was well-intended, some users thought that her tweet was insensitive and noted that under our current circumstances, many of our friends may not even be emotionally equipped to communicate with us and tbh, I felt that. Madame Noire reported that one user wrote:

"During this pandemic check on your friends, family, colleagues. Everyone is going through tough times and this is not the time to test who is checking up on you. People are worried about jobs, incomes, kids, health, and least one can do is simply set aside self and check others."

Earlier this month, Tia said that although the social distancing order has really taken a toll on her emotionally, she's coping and staying connected by making FaceTime calls mandatory.

"Of course, I get to see my family, my husband and my children but—oh no, I'm about to cry. But not being able to see my dad, my brothers and my sister has been pretty hard because we're all pretty close. But we handle it pretty well with FaceTiming each other."

During this time, it's important to feel loved, but it's even more important to share love and Tia stressed the importance of checking-in with the ones you love, even if it's just to see what they cooked for dinner:

"It's crazy how we're getting excited about the simple things, like, 'Look what I made for dinner. I'm constantly checking up on [my brother's] well being, like, 'How are you doing emotionally?' Especially with my dad and my mom because they're older."

This time may or may not show us who are real friends are, but it is an excellent opportunity to be a real friend.

Featured image by Instagram/@tiamowry.

 

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