

5 Reasons Why Teri From 'Soul Food' Was Not The Villain
“The family f—cked my husband,” were the iconic words Vanessa Williams said as her character Teri Joseph in the '90s classic family drama Soul Food. The line came after Teri witnessed her husband cheating on her, and moments before she would attempt to stab her husband with a kitchen knife.
But can you believe that 25 years after the film premiered, there are people who still think Teri is the villain? The number of villains in Soul Food is endless: Diabetes for taking out Big Mama; Mel Jackson for playing yet another havoc-wreaking light-skinned; Ahmad for being up in grown folk's business; whoever let Lem's ex into him and Bird’s wedding; Lem for dancing with his ex at his own wedding??
Teri however, is not one of them. And even if she was the villain (she’s not!!), xoNecole has compiled a list of reasons as to why she’s justified to be.
1. Maxine stole Teri’s boyfriend
From very early in the film, we learned that Teri’s sister Maxine (played by Vivica A. Fox) stole Teri’s boyfriend and later married him. Imagine having to spend every Sunday dinner for the rest of your life watching your ex-boyfriend and your sister peacefully smackin' on yams and collard greens and fried chicken after betraying you in such a way and the rest of the family going along with it. And to top it all off, Maxine had the nerve to have beef with her sister?
2. Teri's husband took $5k out of their joint savings
There’s perhaps nothing scarier than thinking you’re married to a handsome, successful, educated, well-adjusted man only for him to come home one day and say “honey, I’m pursuing a music career.” Mind you, this was before the internet when you could upload your music to Soundcloud or TikTok for a chance to go viral. But this was the reality Teri had to live with her husband, whose audacity led him to take $5,000 out of the couple’s savings account just to pay for studio time. Imagine if an actual emergency arose. Oh sorry, I can't pay for a new car battery because my husband wanted to play the keyboard at his ginormous age!
\u201cTeri from Soul Food had every right to be sour toward her family. She was the oldest, took all the pressure, paid everyone\u2019s way, and her man cheated on her with her cousin. I would be a Bitch too.\u201d— the writer formely known as LEX (@the writer formely known as LEX) 1647557954
3. Cousin Faith f—cked Teri’s husband
I mean where do we even begin with this one? Your jobless cousin comes into town unannounced, crashes at your place for free, and then you walk in on your husband with his booty butt cheeks out as he’s breaking your cousin’s back. I would’ve stabbed both of them then and there!
4. Family expected Teri to pay for everything
It should be stated that I probably wouldn’t have tried to sell Big Mama’s house, but I also wouldn’t expect my sister to pay for all the expenses on the house either, ESPECIALLY after how cruel I'd been to her.
5. Bird being rude after Teri got Bird’s husband out of jail
As far as I’m concerned, Teri is the only real b—tch in this entire film. She thinks her sister Bird has been abused by her husband and the first thing Teri does is send her goons after him to rough him up. Weeks after Bird’s husband ends up in jail for the altercation, Teri calls a friend at the DA office to drop the charges, and instead of saying THANK YOU, Bird and that triflin' husband of hers instead chastise Teri.
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Everything Kerry Washington Has Said About Her Husband Nnamdi Asomugha
Actress Kerry Washington and her relationship with her husband, actor Nnamdi Asomugha, is the perfect example of a winning team.
The pair became an item following a chance encounter in 2009, and many years later, on June 24, 2013, Washington and Asomugha would secretly tie the knot. Since then, the high-profile couple has expanded their blended family by welcoming two children, a daughter Isabelle Asomugha, 8, and a 6-year-old son Caleb Asomugha. Asomugha also has a daughter from a previous relationship.
Despite Washington and Asomugha choosing to live a relatively private life for the most part by not sharing images of their family on social media and occasionally attending events together. The rare glimpses they provide to the public showcase that Washington and Asomugha have much in common regarding essential topics.
For example, Washington is highly involved in politics and encourages others to participate by spreading information about various issues and how everyone would be affected.
As for Asomugha, the 41-year-old officially founded the Asomugha Foundation in 2010, years after doing other charity work in Nigeria. According to its site, the organization was created to help "disadvantaged youth and women by providing educational opportunities and mentorship."
Washington's public remarks regarding her relationship with Asomugha and their family may be rare, but when she does speak about their family, it's all positive.
Kerry On Why She Keeps Her Relationship Private
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In March 2016, the UnPrisioned actress revealed during a discussion panel at SXSW Festival that one of the reasons why she is adamant about remaining private about her union with Asomugha is because she doesn't want the public to make any narratives regarding her marriage.
At the time, it was reported that Washington and the former NFL player were experiencing marital troubles and were allegedly planning on getting a divorce. Washington would shut down those allegations by saying she hasn't and will not share any information about her private life.
"Social media has actually been great for [other celebrities'] relationships with the weeklies or the gossip sites because people say things and they say, 'That's not true!' So I'm thinking in some ways, it's been great because people are able to maintain their voice," she explained.
"It's a little different for me because I don't talk about my personal life. That means not only did I not tell you when I was getting married, it also means if somebody has rumors about what's going on in my marriage, I don't refute them, because I don't talk about my personal life."
Kerry On How She Met Nnamdi And What A Normal Day Looks Like for Their Family
Fast forward to October 2018, the Scandal star gave insight into how she met Asomugha and their family life. During an interview with Marie Claire, Washington shared that she and Asomugha met in 2009 while she was working on the Broadway play Race.
The mother of two told the publication that her life has "completely transformed" since their encounter. "The last time I did theater, it completely transformed my life. That's where I met my husband. I love being with my family. My days off look like homework, reading, and watching stuff. Just hanging out, doing things we love to do," she stated.
Kerry On Nnamdi's Accomplishment
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But as time progressed, Washington began speaking a little more openly about her man. In October 2022, Washington gushed over Asomugha and his Netflix project, The Good Nurse, which came out around the same time her film, The School for Good and Evil, was released. While talking to Entertainment Tonight, the star expressed how "proud" she was of her husband.
"I'm really proud of him, I think he's doing amazing work. I'm really excited for his film, The Good Nurse," she said. "It's really exciting to both have really important films at Netflix right now, we feel really blessed.”
Kerry On Why Nnamdi Is Her Soulmate
Washington shared how her love with Asomugha goes beyond the surface after spending over a decade together.
In a March 2023 interview with Marie Claire, Washington explained that she and Asomugha are perfectly aligned because she's allowed to be her authentic self with him.
"I'm in my immediate truth with [him]," Washington said. "Those mirrors are important because they help me get back to myself."
Kerry On The Couple's Upcoming 10-Year Wedding Anniversary
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That same month, Washington expressed that in addition to the many years the couple has been together, and their personal and professional accomplishments, she still finds Asomugha "incredible."
Washington shared this revelation while promoting her latest project, UnPrisioned, in an Entertainment Tonight interview.
"I do have an incredible husband," the actress told ET host Kevin Frazier as she disclosed little to no details about their upcoming plans for their tenth wedding anniversary. "Do you remember how secret my wedding was? How private and secretive it was? That's how the anniversary is gonna be too!"
Kerry On Why She Thinks Nnamdi And Their Children Are A Gift From God
Washington's love and admiration for Asomugha and their family grow increasingly each day, so much so that she uses it as inspiration to share positive messages with her fans.
The 46-year-old revealed during a panel with Al Sharpton at National Action Network Convention on April 12 that she sees her husband and their children as "proof" that God exists and loves her because of the great joy they bring to her life.
"Well, you've met my husband, my husband's amazing. I got a good one. We have three beautiful children. And I think, you know, when I look at my marriage, and I look at my kids, fundamentally, they are proof of God to me,” she said. "Because I know that God loves me to have put those people in my life. And that sense of like, knowing that God loves me. That, to me, is so much of how I make the decisions about the activism that I do and the content that I make."
Regardless of what the public may think about Washington and Asomugha's private union, they are proving with each moment that love can conquer all.
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