xoGift Guide 2019: Gifts For The Tech Guru In Your Life
For this rendention of our xoNecole Gift Guide, this list is comprised of some of the hottest technology out right now. It doesn't matter if you're the tech lover or you're in love with one, there's a contraption to catch your attention. Please don't be intimidated by all of the options out there. We tried to narrow down the catalog with some feasible, entertaining alternatives.
From self-rolling yoga mats to digital pens, you don't want to miss out on these shockingly fabulous products.
MotoChic Rose Keychain With Charging Cords
This is for the friend who loves technology but always needs a charger. We love when an item is fashionable and functional. Whether you decide to hang it on your work tote or simply use it as a keychain, you'll be styling and profiling.
Eone Bradley Mesh Black 36mm
Eone
Time is of the essence and so is this watch. There are still some souls who prefer not to have a digital watch. The most impressive feature on this watch is the raised markers that allow you to feel the time by touch. It includes a triangular marker for twelve, elongated line segments for three, six, and nine, and shorter line segments for the other markers.
Tile Mate (2020) - 1 Pack
Amazon
We all have that one friend that loses everything. They would lose their head if it weren't attached to their body. Tiles were specifically made for them. They can use their smartphone to make the Tile ring when they misplace something within 200 feet.
NAPATEK Digital Photo Frame 1920x1080
Amazon
Make it last forever with this digital photo frame. Your favorite person or photographer will enjoy this gift with its customizable, easy plug and play features. When you give this gift, you could even load the frame with some photos of you and them for a sentimental touch.
NeoLab Smartpen M1 With Pink Hardcover Notebook
Amazon
When I found out that this pen has a built-in camera that captures your handwriting and converts it to digitized text, I was sold. It would be a match made in heaven for the artists or writers in your life because they will have a collection of their doodles, stories and so much more.
Fujifilm Instax Mini 9 Instant Camera - Ice Blue
Amazon
Nostalgia is a great holiday gift and we think gifting your tech master with an instant camera will fulfill that sentimentality. It snaps a perfect picture every time and we know that's no small feat. It also has a selfie mirror so you can get yourself together and capture the perfect selfie photo every time.
Backslash Fit Smart Yoga Mat
Amazon
The techie who also does trap yoga will live for this smart yoga mat. This mat just may be smarter than all of us. Powered by Women's Health, you can access bonus yoga routines using a smart speaker; it's self-rolling and it has a soft but silky and grippy texture.
Bandai Americia Pac-Man Connect and Play 12 Classic Games
Bandai Americia Pac-Man Connect and Play 12 Classic Games - Walmart.comGame lovers can fight til the death with this old-school joystick. Help them bring back their childhood with this gift. It can be paired with almost any TV.
Campark X20 4K Action Camera 20MP
Amazon
We live in a world where seizing the moment via forms of media is a must. That's why copping the Campark Action Camera is a great choice. With crystal clear resolution and an anti-shaking feature, you can take the perfect shot and create beautiful content.
Anova Culinary Sous Vide Precision Cooker
Amazon
Cooking has been made easier over this last decade and boy are we thankful. Treat your loved one with this nano precision cooker to cook like a pro. Word on the street is that it delivers perfect results every time. It makes it easy to cook, control, and keep track of your recipe from your mobile device with a super-fast Bluetooth connection.
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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