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How Spring Cleaning Became An Act Of Self-Love For Me

Why wait until spring, mid-spring, or even summer to declutter your life?

Inspiration

Why wait until spring, mid-spring, or even summer to declutter your life? Spring is slowly but surely approaching, the time is NOW to do early spring cleaning! I did something this month for the first time in a long time. Instead of waiting until spring like most of people do, I took accountability for the clutter in my life in the here and now. And guess what? I haven't felt this light, liberated, or in control of my life in a very long time.

During the clearing out process, I got really emotional. I realized that I was holding onto a lot of things that were hindering my growth and blocking prosperity. Some items made me feel like, "One woman's trash is another woman's treasure." Other items made me feel like, "Out with the old and in with the new."

Breakdown

I finally threw away old pairs of stripper heels that I still felt the need to hold on to. Some odd years ago, literally, I used to be an exotic dancer before finding myself through self-love and spirituality. During the time period that I was dancing, I left home due to verbal and physical abuse and looked to the strip club as a "safe haven" and place to become "independent." It turned out to be anything but that, but that's a whole 'nother story.

I held on to those old stripper heels because I thought I needed a reminder of my strength and how far I've come from my past.

Throwing them away was the most empowering and bravest thing that I've ever done. I proved to myself that I don't have to hold on to a rough past in order to heal, it's better to release and let go! From there, I ended up with five other huge garbage bags to throw away and a big bag of clothing to give away, good karma.

Next, I hired a professional carpet cleaner to bring my carpet back to life. Lastly, I burned sage and cleared the energy of my whole entire living space.

I say all of this to say, don't wait any longer and start today. Challenge yourself while cleaning and decluttering your life. Don't do a half ass job, really get it done. Start by asking yourself is there anything that I'm still holding onto that needs to be released? What baggage in my life do I need to let go of? Does this item make me happy? Does this imagery bring back good memories? Does this person deserve to continue to be a part of my life journey?

Breakthrough

Anyone or anything that you that you do NOT want to carry into spring, release it and let it go. Anything or anyone that should have been left in 2017… or maybe even 2016 or 2015, the time is NOW to have trust and faith in yourself and the Universe enough to bravely move forward! You owe it to yourself to live a life of peace, joy, and abundance.

Don't let negative energy or energy that no longer serves who you are right now get in the way of what this life has in store for you!

You will instantly notice a change in your life and in the world when you start with self. Decluttering your mind, your home, your car, your phone, etc. are all acts of self-love. Never allow anyone to make you feel bad for having self-preservation, that's the biggest act of self-love. If you can't love and nurture your own self, then you can't do provide that to anyone else.

Put yourself first unapologetically by doing some SPRING CLEANING in an area of your life that needs it most.

Today.

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