Having a case of the blahs at work from time to time is one thing, but a consistent feeling of demotivation or sluggishness could be a sign you're either headed to burnout or are already there. And if you're bored at work, you're apparently not alone: Research has found that Gen Z and millennials are the most susceptible to experience burnout, with 48% of those ages 18 to 29 and 40% of professionals 30-plus affected---and 46% being women.
So what do you do if you're feeling bored at work, in a complete rut, and headed toward being a hot professional mess? Try a few of these tips:
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1. Get clear on what's triggering those feelings.
I've been a journalist for more than 20 years, and I can't lie, there have been times when the work is tedious or just doesn't motivate me to push for more. I've found that a major trigger for me is when I feel like my creativity is being stifled (whether by company culture, unnecessary red tape to get approvals or pursue stories, or toxic environments.) I'm not one to quiet quit, as I think that's a waste of my time and quite debilitating to my mental health, so when those feelings of boredom and burnout would set in, I'd sit down and get clear on my triggers. I'd then try to figure out solutions (i.e., volunteer for more challenging or creative projects, try out other coverage areas within a company, or quit altogether to pursue a different route that further nourishes the writer and editor in me.)
For you, the triggers could be you're dealing with a micromanaging or a careless boss, doing work that you're just no longer passionate about, or you're in an industry that's just not growing at a pace that matches your career development goals.
Whatever's feeding the feelings of boredom must be written down and dealt with. Get honest with yourself, even if you have to just do a brain dump, take a deep breath, and come back to unpack the feelings later.
It's also a good idea to get help from a coach, therapist, or mentor. Boredom doesn't necessarily mean you no longer want to pursue the career you're in. You just might need to make a few shifts in how you see work, how you operate within a company, or advocate for changes in your department.
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2. Take action to address the triggers of boredom and burnout.
And this doesn't necessarily mean just quitting a job. It means evaluating all courses of action to combat the boredom. Maybe your job is just a money-maker to fund a side hustle or future business that you should transfer mental energy into planning for. Maybe you can request a transfer to a different department or location that requires more creative skills, pushes you to use that problem-solving savvy, provides a much-needed change of scenery, or offers hands-on work that gets you out of the office.
Maybe there's a service project outside of work that you can throw your passions into. Boredom doesn't always mean your job or company is terrible.
But if it is, you need to go heavy on the exit planning. What are your career dreams or goals? What are your current financial responsibilities? What does your quality of life look like? What are the dealbreakers when it comes to company culture or job duties? What can you do to reach your dreams while taking care of yourself and/or your family? Map out a plan so that you can have something positive to focus on versus being bored. (Again, tap into a coach, counselor, or other trusted sources to help you answer these questions and take some of the pressure off of figuring out things yourself. Sis, we're not super-human, and help is available.)
If it's a deeper issue, such as something related to mental or physical health--as sometimes feelings of demotivation can be linked to depression or a physical ailment---work with your healthcare provider to get to the bottom of things. Find support among your family, friends, church, sorority, or other networks so that you can navigate through solutions and emotionally sustain the transitions you're going through.
3. Do things that tap into joy and play whether at work or not.
If you can make your meetings more fun, take your team outdoors for breakout sessions, or even coordinate fun team-building activities (like sports activities, happy hours, or game nights) with your peers at work, do it. If it's against company policy or if your work life just ain't that type of party, schedule something joyful to do during your day and treat it like an important appointment.
If your schedule at work is too packed for all of that, reevaluate how you're spending your day, and find out what might be inefficiently draining your time. Even if it's as little as a 30-minute dance session, a 15-minute walk listening to your favorite upbeat playlist, or a quiet puzzle-completion session, make the time to do something that makes you smile and tap into the kid in you.
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Also, when you tap into a bit of fun, it can help reignite your creative juices, boost ideas and dreams, and really help you to kickstart a path out of boredom. You'll be able to free your mind to figure out new initiatives, new ways of thinking about your job or your career, and how you can approach working with purpose and fulfillment. You can offer yourself grace, take things one step--one day--at a time, and really get to the core of what makes you happy in the work that you do.
We all experience boredom on our career paths, especially when you spend five, 10, and 20 years building, but with a bit of reflection, deliberate action, humility, and outreach, you can beat those feelings to reach your ultimate life and career.
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Although this might seem like a heavy way to intro this particular topic, because the O Method is an orgasm-achieving technique that centers around housing energy, embracing the mental practice of manifestation, and the attempt to achieve the best climaxes ever — it all works together pretty well if you ask me. If you want to take your orgasms to the next level, it’s important that you get out of yourself (to a certain extent), that you see the spiritual role that manifestation plays, and that you are open to trying new things. No doubt about it.
So, let’s learn more about what the O Method is all about and how it very well could be just what you’ve been looking for…even if you didn’t know it.
What Is the “O Method” All About?
GiphyQuestion: When’s the last time you’ve had an orgasm? Not just any orgasm — I mean a really mind-blowing one (I’ll give you a second to think about it). Now, what if you could manifest that experience to the point where it wasn’t a rare occurrence but something that happened almost every time that you and your partner had sex with each other? How absolutely awesome would that be?
That is pretty much what the O Method is all about — helping you achieve the kind of orgasms (and sexual pleasure, in general) that you desire through the practice of manifestation. And since your biggest sex organ is your brain, it would make perfect sense that even with all of the tips and techniques that you might learn to do as far as your body is concerned, honing in on what you think about is super imperative to sexual fulfillment, too. And that’s just where manifestation comes in.
What If You’ve Never “Manifested” Anything Before?
GiphyBefore we get into a quick lesson on manifestation, I think it’s important to mention two things. One, for the cynics, there is a lot of truth in the fact that it’s got some solid spiritual basis to it because even the Good Book says that as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he (Proverbs 23:7). At the same time, that same Good Book tells us that faith without works is dead (James 2:14-26). So, while it is always a good idea to focus on good, positive, and productive thoughts, just thinking about them isn’t enough — at some point, you’ve also gotta get out here and DO something (bookmark that).
Okay, with that mini-sermon out of the way, whether it’s in the bedroom or not, manifestation is basically about focusing on something tangible that you desire, harnessing your energy in such a way that your words and actions are directed towards that longing until what you want, well, manifests. For the record, aside from this having a spiritual backing to it, in many ways, science cosigns on manifesting, too. There is actually a scientific process known as neuroplasticity that consists of reframing your mind so that your actions ultimately end up aligning with your goals — and that is another way to look at manifestation.
So, what if you’re someone who has never set out to do a manifestation practice before? No worries. Something that’s awesome about it is there are several different approaches that you can take.
Some people manifest what they want in their lives via:
- Journaling
- Visualization/Creating vision boards
- Writing down their desires before going to bed (so that they can “download” them into their dream state)
- Creating mantras and affirmations
- Applying the 369 Manifestation Method (you can learn more about that here)
- Meditating
- Learning more about what you want to manifest (which brings forth clarity)
This is important to keep in mind because, when it comes to manifesting the types of orgasms that you want to have, as you can see, you can try different manifestation methods until you find one (or ones) that you are truly comfortable with. One that can ease you into the entire process rather smoothly is something known as sex journaling.
How Sex Journaling Can Actually Help You to Have an Orgasm
GiphyAs a writer, I’m a big fan of journaling. Mostly because it’s a way to get out some of your deepest thoughts and feelings so that you’re able to really process what is happening inside of you in a private setting. And when it comes to sex journaling, specifically, it’s all about centering yourself on the things sexually that you want to “unpack,” get clarity on or come to some revelations about. For instance, if there’s only been one partner from your past who’s been able to help you achieve the type of orgasms that you wish to manifest, journaling about what makes him different from the other guys can provide you with some solid ah-ha moments.
Or if you need help getting as specific as possible about the sexual experiences that you’re after, journaling can help to make that happen for you — because one thing that manifesting reminds us all to do is be as specific as possible.
Yeah, simply saying, “I want to have better sex” isn’t detailed enough when you want to get your energy to match with your desires — instead, describe how all of your senses should feel in the experience, along with why, that can get you so much closer to achieving your goal. Once those things are documented, you can segue into creating mantras and/or meditation that are based on them. Yeah, sex journaling really is an underrated superpower on a lot of levels (check out “The Art Of Sex Journaling (And Why You Should Do It)”).
5 Tips for Making the O Method Work for You
GiphyNow that you know more about what the O Method is and how manifestation plays a direct role in its process, let’s talk about five ways to make the O Method truly effective in your own (sex) life.
1. Focus, FULLY, on your feminine energy. What do rose quartz, amethyst, moonstone (which is a Gemini birthstone as well; yes, I’m a Gemini), selenite, and rhodonite all have in common? They’re crystals that help you to go deeper into your divine feminine energy. Traits that are associated with this include compassion, creativity, kindness, gentleness, and sensuality (feminine energy is also accepting and forgiving). If you were to study energy from a biological standpoint, it’s about producing change, responding to stimuli, and having the ability to do what needs to be done (work). So, when it comes to manifesting the kind of orgasms or sexual experiences that you want, using things like your creativity and gentleness in your thoughts and actions can play a role in bringing balance to your partner’s masculinity, which can create a profound sense of pleasure — after all, opposites do attract.
2. Don’t hold back on what it is that you desire. Whenever I interview sex therapists, something that they all say is, a huge mistake that people make as far as sexual satisfaction is concerned is, they have walls up — not just with their partners but even within themselves. Sometimes, there is intimidation, fear, or even shame around what they really want to happen during sex to the point where they aren’t able to channel their energy fully in those directions in order to manifest what they want. For the O Method to work, you can’t let those types of negative emotions hinder you; the more you are able to articulate what you want and how you want it, the better chance you have of making it happen. So yes, get graphic. As graphic as possible.
3. Make manifestation a daily practice. Repetition is important when it comes to manifestation. That’s because the more you declare what you desire (a mantra), get still and think on it (meditation), or look at the “art” that you’ve created surrounding it (visualization), the quicker it becomes a part of you. So yes, make manifestation a daily practice. For instance, if one of your mantras is, “I am going to have intensely passionate orgasms, one right after the other,” don’t just state that 15 minutes before sex is going to happen. Wake up and declare it. Then say it on your lunch break. And again before turning in. The more your thoughts are “streamlined” in this way, the easier it will be for your body to follow suit.
4. Share this practice with your partner. If you were to do even more research on the O Method, one thing that most of the articles will mention is it’s a practice that you can do alone or with your partner. Indeed. However, I just want to make sure that you get into your psyche that great sex is, in part, about good communication. And so, the more comfortable you are sharing with your partner what you are doing as far as the O Method is concerned and what you ultimately want to happen as a result of the practice, the easier it will be for him to “match your energy” — both in and out of the bedroom. And when your partner is on the same page as you? That definitely increases the chances of attaining your sexual desires — exponentially so.
5. Stay in the moment. While I was reading one article on manifestation, I really appreciated something that the author said: manifestation isn’t some supernatural power. In other words, while it can be beneficial, it’s not like you can just think of something, and it instantly appears out of nowhere. Manifesting is a discipline, and it must be accompanied by action, consistency, and patience — this means that you must also practice mindfulness. Meaning, now that you know better what you’re looking to achieve as far as sex is concerned, every time that it transpires, maintain a level of positive energy, remember what your end goal is, and then determine in your mind to enjoy the moments as they come. Remember, manifestation isn’t to add stress…it’s to cultivate clarity.
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At the end of the day, the O Method is simply a way of reminding you that your mind plays a huge role in your sexual pleasure, and when you channel it and your energy exactly where you want them both to go, you’ll be amazed what your body is capable of doing…and accomplishing.
So, what kind of orgasm are you wanting to achieve? You’ve got a tool to get you there. USE IT.
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