

The Virgo's perfectionist tendencies serve them well in the bedroom, making them one of the best lovers of the zodiac. This earth sign knows the importance of sensuality, physical touch, and pleasure, and everything Virgo does in bed is intentional. There is seemingly a different side of Virgo that comes out behind closed doors, and it’s not the prude that people tend to consider this sign as. A Virgo’s sex life is an area of their life where they feel they can really live in the moment, feel alive, and be more spontaneous than usual.
Virgo Sex: Why Are Virgos So Good In Bed?
When it comes to Virgos in bed, this is a thoughtful zodiac sign, and you can be sure they are going to think of you and consider your pleasure. A Virgo is going to cover all bases and make sure everyone is happy and taken care of. Especially if they have been with you for a while, they will know all of your pleasure points, what is going to turn you on, and what you need- and they will do just that. Virgo’s sexuality runs deep, and there is something ethereal and sensual about this earth sign.
Virgo Sexual Compatibility: Here's Why Virgos Are Some of the Best Lovers in the Zodiac
Virgo And The Virgin
The origin of Virgo’s name, Virgin, depicts a different meaning than meets the eye for these Maidens. In those times, a Virgin didn’t mean what it does now and actually meant freedom, self-sufficiency, and wholeness. What does that mean for Virgo and their sex life? It means they know what they want and what they don’t, and they have no problem expressing it. They also have no problem doing the job themselves if it is not up to par with the Virgo standards.
Virgo sees their sexuality as something that cannot be taken away and instead as an expression of self and the power of their sovereignty.
Virgos Are Open Sexually
If you are in bed with Virgo, you have already passed all of their tests, requirements, and a long list of high standards- and you are considered someone they can open up with. They will begin to show this other side of them that is notorious when it comes to sex, and a more kinky version of Virgo comes to the surface. This control freak likes to play with different submissive/dominant kinks, role play, and more.
Virgo is a mutable sign, making them up for experimenting in the bedroom, being flexible, and trying different things out with their partners. If Virgo thinks something or someone is going to benefit or teach them something, they will try just about anything at least once. Virgo wants to explore your body and wants you to have this same type of energy with them as well.
Virgos And Acts Of Service
A Virgo’s love language is an act of service, and this serves their partners well in the bedroom. Virgos are often unforgettable, and once you are involved with one, it’s something you don’t stop thinking about. Virgos tend to your needs and have fun doing so. They feel a sense of love and empowerment in seeing their partners genuinely pleased, and you don’t have to worry about taking scores in the bedroom with a Virgo. Virgos are the type to go above and beyond.
Who Is Virgo Best Sexually Compatible With?
Virgo and Taurus
Virgo and Taurus have great chemistry in the bedroom. Two earth signs coming together is a match made in heaven, and these two are both high in sensuality. This pairing is filled with a lot of physical touch, taking things slow, and learning each other’s bodies. A Taurus is focused on pleasure, and a Virgo is focused on pleasing, so this is a good match for both of them.
Virgo and Scorpio
Virgo and Scorpio have a fun, kinky sex life. This is the type of pairing to do it often and anywhere, and this relationship is one where they both feel the passion and desire for one another. Virgo and Scorpio have high sexual compatibility, which is why this pairing is so common in Astrology. These two are both some of the most talked about in bed, so why not have the best of the best come together?
Virgo and Gemini
Virgo and Gemini are an experimental couple with high sexual chemistry. Being both mutable signs, they are always up for trying something new, and they are both open-minded people. They want to explore each other’s bodies, learn from each other, and create an environment where they can be themselves or maybe even someone else for a while.
Overview: Is a Virgo Good in Bed?
A Virgo’s sex life is often very different from their personal one. They are all business in public and more wild in private. So much of Virgos' personal life is controlled that this is an area of their life where they feel comfortable to let loose. Virgos are good partners to have in relationships and when it comes to something less serious. If they are looking for a committed partner, they will be open about that, and if they are looking for a short-term fling, you will have an f-buddy who is going to keep it real with you.
Although Virgo will be cleaning up, washing sheets, and making the bedroom look like nothing ever happened after the act is done, they are still a very fun partner to have in the bedroom. Virgos are so good in bed because they are the type who, once they decide they want to do something, will do it- and be the best at it.
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'Sistas' Star Skyh Black On The Power Of Hypnotherapy & Emotional Vulnerability For Men
In this insightful episode of the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker talked with Sistas star Skyh Black, as he opened up about his journey of emotional growth, resilience, and self-discovery. The episode touches on emotional availability, self-worth, masculinity, and the importance of therapy in overcoming personal struggles.
Skyh Black on Emotional Availability & Love
On Emotional Availability & Vulnerability
“My wife and I wouldn't be where we are today if both of us weren't emotionally available,” he shared about his wife and Sistas co-star KJ Smith, highlighting the value of vulnerability and emotional openness in a relationship. His approach to masculinity stands in contrast to the traditional, stoic ideals. Skyh is not afraid to embrace softness as part of his emotional expression.
On Overcoming Self-Doubt & Worthiness Issues
Skyh reflected on the self-doubt and worthiness issues that he struggled with, especially early in his career. He opens up about his time in Los Angeles, living what he calls the “LA struggle story”—in a one-bedroom with three roommates—and being homeless three times over the span of 16 years. “I always had this self-sabotaging thought process,” Skyh said. “For me, I feel therapy is essential, period. I have a regular therapist and I go to a hypnotherapist.”
How Therapy Helped Him Heal From Self-Doubt
On Hypnotherapy & Empowering Self-Acceptance
Skyh’s journey is a testament to the power of tapping into self-development despite life’s struggles and being open to growth. “I had to submit to the fact that God was doing good in my life, and that I'm worthy of it. I had a worthiness issue and I did not realize that. So, that’s what the hypnotherapy did. It brought me back to the core. What is wrong so that I can fix it?”
Watch the full podcast episode below:
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Pack A Travel Case With These 12 Items For Amazing 'Summer Vacation Sex'
It’s kind of funny that while I’m literally in the process of writing this article, the Los Angeles Times published “How to get lucky on your family vacation” hours prior. LOL. Although this year marks a bit of a dip in the amount of Americans who plan on taking a summer vacation (because this administration ain’t making coin-keeping easy, y’all) — it’s still being reported that around 53 percent will do so in the name of rest, relaxation and spending quality time with their loved ones.
And for many, the loved ones category absolutely includes their bae. And if that is the case, that probably means that sex is somewhere on the menu.
Yep. I actually read one survey (that consisted of 2,000 people) that said folks tend to have twice as much sex while they are on vacation than they do when they’re at home. It makes sense too when you factor in that you have less to do (unless you’re traveling with those folks who act like you need an itinerary for every damn thing — and we all know one…SMDH), which makes you less stressed out, which makes it easier to feel sexy and to want to get sexual.
And so, in the spirit of that indeed being the case, I want to make sure that you carve out a corner of your suitcase or carry-on to include at least half of the following 12 things that are on this list — things that can help to make “summer vacation sex”…that much hotter, y’all.
1. Edible-Grade Sunscreen
It can’t be said enough that, no matter how melanated you may be, your skin needs sunscreen. Not only to protect yourself from the risk of skin cancer (which 1 in 5 Americans will get in their lifetime) but from premature aging that can come from sun damage too. That said, if the urge arises to have sex outside somewhere, I did find some edible-grade sunscreen, in case you’re either worried about what sex in the sun will do to your skin or how all of the chemicals in sunscreen will affect your (digestive) system. The company is called Sky & Sol and you can read up on them here.
2. Flavored Lip Balm
If you’ve ever wondered why your lips are so susceptible to being chapped, it’s because they don’t contain any oil glans to keep them moisturized. This is especially important to keep in mind when the weather is extremely cold or hot because that can do a real number on the sensitive skin that your lips are made out of. That’s why it’s essential to stay well-hydrated and to also keep some lip balm in tow. Lip balm is especially designed to moisturize your lips, reduce chapping, exfoliate, soothe irritation and protect your lips from UV damage. As a bonus, lip balm will also help to keep your lips super soft and kissable; especially if you get the flavored kind. #wink
3. Condoms
I’m still out here, literally shaking my damn head, that reportedly, only one-third of men and one-fourth of women use condoms (and even many of those folks don’t do it consistently). It can’t be said enough that if you’re not in a monogamous (married) or exclusive (dating) relationship where you both are getting regularly tested and are on some other form of birth control (unless you want to get pregnant) — you absolutely should be using condoms and, as a woman, you should not solely rely on your partner to have some that are ready and available.
Not just because you should be responsible for your body and health but because not all condoms are made equal, so you should bring along some that you prefer/enjoy. If you’d like a lil’ help picking those out, check out “These Are The Kinds Of Condoms Your Vagina Would Actually Prefer.”
4. Crotchless Swimsuit
Packing some sexy lingerie? I certainly hope that goes without saying. If you’ve got a hot tub around, though and you want to “get it in” without getting totally naked (so that nosey people won’t see every damn thing), you do know that there are some crotchless swimsuits out in these streets, right? An example of one is here. Of course, you can always do what Beyoncé said in “Drunk in Love” and just move ish over to the side but…I’m just giving you another creative option…if you wanted one.
5. Blindfolds
If you’d like to cultivate an atmosphere of mystery or anticipation, a simple blindfold will do the trick. There is another reason why I think they are great for summer vacation (sex) trips, though — if your hotel room doesn’t come with blackout curtains and you want to have a quickie or two without the room being so bright, putting on a blindfold can solve that “problem” too.
6. Waterproof Sex Toys
Who said that you have to wait until you get to your hotel room to engage in some foreplay? If you bring a couple of sex toys around, you can tease each other practically anywhere — and if they are waterproof, that includes in the ocean or pool. Some, you can pair up with your smartphone in order to stimulate your partner from just about anywhere. Whew, chile.
7. Homemade Sex Toys Too
Speaking of sex toys, you’d probably be amazed at how many things in your house can double up as one. A spatula or wooden spoon is great for spanking. A necktie, some tights and a pair of clothespins work well for BDSM (use your imagination, sis). An electronic toothbrush is its own vibrator. A string of (lubricated) pearls in between your thighs? Girrrl…GIRL. Oh, and cop a silicone ice tray that comes in different shapes.
When you are rubbing ice in the shape of fruit, flowers or even animals over each other’s bodies, you’ll be surprised by how the combination of the cold with the texture of the space of the ice will stimulate you (make the ice out of juice instead of water for an extra sweet treat!).
8. Portable Charger
I don’t know what took me so long to get a damn portable charger but it’s one of the best things that ever happened to me. What I personally purchased is the ANKER Zolo Power Bank, 20,000mAh 30W High-Speed Portable Charger. I can throw it in my purse, it charges fast, I can use more than once before needing to recharge it; plus, it complements most devices. A great thing to keep in mind, so that your sex toys don’t end up going out on you while you’re…wherever you are.
9. Massage Oil Candle
Going through security at the airport can be a HEADACHE. And while, how long it can take, oftentimes varies on the airport you’re at and the time you are traveling (you can read more about that here), the process is going to be especially annoying if they have to go through your bags. Since you can currently only pack a quarter-sized bag of liquid products on your carry-on, my two cents would be to leave the massage oil at home and pack a massage oil candle instead.
That way, you can still engage in some temperature play (check out “Hot Sex: 10 Super Sultry Reasons To Bring Wax Play Into Your Bedroom”) while you’re on the road without going through any security hassle hang-ups. Some edible massage oil candles are located right here.
10. Wine Cooler Sleeve
Say that you end up going on a wine tasting tour while you’re on vacation and you end up purchasing a bottle or you simply want to toast with some champagne but you’re not sure how to store the bottle. Did you know that there are wine cooler sleeves that are lightweight, portable and will help to keep your bottles cold without condensation for hours on end? A brand that comes highly recommended is here.
11. Rose Petals
I think there are a few reasons why rose petals are oftentimes used to create a sexy mood. Red symbolizes love and passion. Rose petals are soft to the touch. The scent of them is considered to be an aphrodisiac as well. For all of these reasons, bring along some fresh rose petals for your hotel bed. If you put a damp paper towel in something like a small Tupperware container and then place the rose petals inside of that, they won’t dry out quickly which will make them feel great once you’re ready to start rolling around in them (you can also keep them in your hotel room’s fridge to further extend their shelf life).
12. Mints
Morning sex. Outdoor sex. Whatever kind of sex — it’s always going to be better when your breath and his smell good. And just so you don’t have to lug around a big bottle of mouthwash, pack some mints. Altoids are always going to be my number one draft pick — yet go with whatever are your personal faves. They’re the perfect hack for unbelievable summer vacation sex. Wouldn’t you agree? Enjoy!
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