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What Is A Vaginal Moisturizing Melt? (And Why You Should Try It)

Here's a trend that could take cunnilingus to new heights. Real talk.

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So, how many of y'all were sad when the Vine app came to a close a few years back? Shoot, I can't tell that it's gone because it seems like everyone and their grandma is on, what I personally consider to be the "new Vine"—TikTok. Lawd, the stuff that folks put on there, I honestly don't have the time or mental capacity to even touch on how buck some of the content can get! Today, I'll just address a particular set of videos that went viral at the top of this year; ones that were a literal shout-out to vaginal moisturizing melts (you can check out one of 'em here). And just what the heck are those? Let me give you a quick rundown, OK?

What Exactly Is a Vaginal Moisturizing Melt?

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For the most part, a vaginal moisturizing melt is another way to say vaginal suppository. If you've never used a suppository before, they are pretty popular when it comes to things like treating a yeast infection. That's because, if you want to avoid all of the messiness that can come with putting a medicinal cream into your vagina, a suppository is a like a small, solid, oil-based tube that you can insert into your vagina that slowly melts over time (it's usually best to use a suppository at night to avoid a ton of leaking). Suppositories are cool because they're a convenient way to get medication into your system faster, again, without creating a lot of mess in the process. Well, a vaginal moisturizing melt is also a suppository; only, it's not for medicinal purposes. It's actually to make your va-jay-jay smell and taste—I don't wanna say "better"; let's go with "different".

The company that the TikTok-ers actually shouted out is Femallay. While they carry all kinds of vaginal goodies including menstrual cups and wellness teas, something else that they've got on tap are vaginal suppositories—ones that come in flavors like (chile) blueberry, peach, wild cherry, pineapple and chocolate. If you just read that and said to yourself, "Does this mean what I think it means?", my response to you is, "1000 percent". These suppositories are specifically designed to relieve vaginal dryness, promote vaginal elasticity and yes—cause your vagina to literally smell and taste like the flavor that you chose.
And just how much can you trust this almost-too-good-to-be-true product? Well, it's marketed to be 100 percent organic with ingredients like cocoa butter, Vitamin E, apricot kernel oil, nut butter, jojoba seed oil and organic flavor oil in it. So yeah, if you're looking for a way to bring more lube into your life while also making "kisses down low" extra sweet for your partner, a vaginal moisturizing melt may be just what you've been looking for.

Are Vaginal Moisturizing Suppository Melts Safe?

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OK, before you pull out your credit or debit card so that you can make a purchase, let me make sure that I cover all of the bases on this. For starters, how healthy are vaginal moisturizing melts and is Femallay safe? Those are excellent questions. When it comes to Femallay specifically, because they do profess to be organic—this includes being soy, gluten, hormone, glycerin and paraben-free—they aren't harmful. That's great news. At the same time, vaginas are extremely sensitive. For instance, the pH balance of one is slightly on the acidic side of between 3.8-4.5. Whenever something throws the balance off—douching, too much bacteria, not enough probiotics in our system, semen, antibiotics, etc.—that can lead to a vaginal infection of some sort.

That said, another great thing about Femallay is its suppositories are designed to maintain a pH level of "4". Still, it's never a bad idea to know what the pH level of your vagina is (there are at-home tests that you can purchase at an affordable price) and it can also never hurt to run the desire to put a vaginal moisturizing melt into your body by your doctor, just to see if there are any concerns that they might have.

So, what's my take on them? I mean, as someone who's used chocolate syrup, honey and even popsicles myself (not in my vagina but on my vulva), I personally say, "If you're down, go for it!"

Only, I do think it should go on record that while it's cool that there's something out in the world that can make your vagina taste like a peach (cue Novel's "Peach"), I tend to see this neat little invention, kind of like I do make-up. While it's nice to have the option, it shouldn't be something that we feel like we can't live without. Because really, y'all—if the Most High wanted us to taste like a Hershey's kiss or pina colada, he definitely could've made that happen. He didn't. So, your natural scent and taste are just fine.

Therefore, please make sure that you're at peace with knowing that and that your partner doesn't pressure you to change your mind. Yet with that PSA out of the way, something that can make you wetter and sweeter, that is au naturale too? At the very least, it's the kind of thing that you can say that you tried and either you and yours liked it or—you didn't.

One more thing. If you're wondering if Femallay is the only company that makes (flavored) vaginal moisturizing melts, I highly doubt it. However, the research that I did on that one—research that included hot takes from medical professionals—is the only brand that I'm comfortable referring on this platform. But if you happen upon some others, please drop the names in the comments.

Until then, perhaps this was your something new for the day. A way to spice things up a bit by making your vagina a little sweeter. How sexy—and orgasm-triggering—is that?

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You may not know her by Elisabeth Ovesen – writer and host of the love, sex and relationships advice podcast Asking for a Friend. But you definitely know her other alter ego, Karrine Steffans, the New York Times best-selling author who lit up the literary and entertainment world when she released what she called a “tell some” memoir, Confessions of a Video Vixen.

Her 2005 barn-burning book gave an inside look at the seemingly glamorous world of being a video vixen in the ‘90s and early 2000s, and exposed the industry’s culture of abuse, intimidation, and misogyny years before the Me Too Movement hit the mainstream. Her follow-up books, The Vixen Diaries (2007) and The Vixen Manual: How To Find, Seduce And Keep The Man You Want (2009) all topped the New York Times best-seller list. After a long social media break, she's back. xoNecole caught up with Ovesen about the impact of her groundbreaking book, what life is like for her now, and why she was never “before her time”– everyone else was just late to the revolution.

xoNecole: Tell me about your new podcast Asking for a Friend with Elisabeth Ovesen and how that came about.

Elisabeth Ovesen: I have a friend who is over [at Blavity] and he just asked me if I wanted to do something with him. And that's just kinda how it happened. It wasn't like some big master plan. Somebody over there was like, “Hey, we need content. We want to do this podcast. Can you do it?” And I was like, “Sure.” And that's that. That was around the holidays and so we started working on it.

xoNecole: Your life and work seem incredibly different from when you first broke out on the scene. Can you talk a bit about the change in your career and how your life is now?

EO: Not that different. I mean my life is very different, of course, but my work isn't really that different. My life is different, of course, because I'm 43. My career started when I was in my 20s, so we're looking at almost 20 years since the beginning of my career. So, naturally life has changed a lot since then.

I don’t think my career has changed a whole lot – not as far as my writing is concerned, and my stream of consciousness with my writing, and my concerns and the subject matter hasn’t changed much. I've always written about interpersonal relationships, sexual shame, male ego fragility, respectability politics – things like that. I always put myself in the center of that to make those points, which I think were greatly missed when I first started writing. I think that society has changed quite a bit. People are more aware. People tell me a lot that I have always been “before my time.” I was writing about things before other people were talking about that; I was concerned about things before my generation seemed to be concerned about things. I wasn't “before my time.” I think it just seems that way to people who are late to the revolution, you know what I mean?

I retired from publishing in 2015, which was always the plan to do 10 years and retire. I was retired from my pen name and just from the business in general in 2015, I could focus on my business, my education and other things, my family. I came back to writing in 2020 over at Medium. The same friend that got me into the podcast, actually as the vice president of content over at Medium and was like, “Hey, we need some content.” I guess I’m his go-to content creator.

xoNecole: Can you expound on why you went back to your birth name versus your stage name?

EO: No, it was nothing to expound upon. I mean, writers have pen names. That’s like asking Diddy, why did he go by Sean? I didn't go back. I've always used that. Nobody was paying attention. I've never not been myself. Karrine Steffans wrote a certain kind of book for a certain kind of audience. She was invented for the urban audience, particularly. She was never meant to live more than 10 years. I have other pen names as well. I write under several names. So, the other ones are just nobody's business right now. Different pen names write different things. And Elisabeth isn’t my real name either. So you'll never know who I really am and you’ll never know what my real name is, because part of being a writer is, for me at least, keeping some sort of anonymity. Anything I do in entertainment is going to amass quite a bit because who I am as a person in my private life isn't the same a lot of times as who I am publicly.

xoNecole: I want to go back to when you published Confessions of a Video Vixen. We are now in this time where people are reevaluating how the media mistreated women in the spotlight in the 2000s, namely women like Britney Spears. So I’d be interested to hear how you feel about that period of your life and how you were treated by the media?

EO: What I said earlier. I think that much of society has evolved quite a bit. When you look back at that time, it was actually shocking how old-fashioned the thinking still was. How women were still treated and how they're still treated now. I mean, it hasn't changed completely. I think that especially for the audience, I think it was shocking for them to see a woman – a woman of color – not be sexually ashamed.

I hate being like other people. I don't want to do what anyone else is doing. I can't conform. I will not conform. I think in 2005 when Confessions was published, that attitude, especially about sex, was very upsetting. Number one, it was upsetting to the men, especially within urban and hip-hop culture, which is built on misogyny and thrives off of it to this day. And the women who protect these men, I think, you know, addressing a demographic that is rooted in trauma that is rooted in sexual shame, trauma, slavery of all kinds, including slavery of the mind – I think it triggered a lot of people to see a Black woman be free in this way.

I think it said a lot about the people who were upset by it. And then there were some in “crossover media,” a lot of white folks were upset too, not gonna lie. But to see it from Black women – Tyra Banks was really upset [when she interviewed me about Confessions in 2005]. Oprah wasn't mad [when she interviewed me]. As long as Oprah wasn’t mad, I was good. I didn't care what anybody else had to say. Oprah was amazing. So, watching Black women defend men, and Black women who had a platform, defend the sexual blackmailing of men: “If you don't do this with me, you won't get this job”; “If you don't do this in my trailer, you're going to have to leave the set”– these are things that I dealt with.

I just happened to be the kind of woman who, because I was a single mother raising my child all by myself and never got any help at all – which I still don't. Like, I'm 24 in college – not a cheap college either – one of the best colleges in the country, and I'm still taking care of him all by myself as a 21-year-old, 20-year-old, young, single mother with no family and no support – I wasn’t about to say no to something that could help me feed my son for a month or two or three.

xoNecole: We are in this post-Me Too climate where women in Hollywood have come forward to talk about the powerful men who have abused them. In the music industry in particular, it seems nearly impossible for any substantive change or movement to take place within music. It's only now after three decades of allegations that R. Kelly has finally been convicted and other men like Russell Simmons continue to roam free despite the multiple allegations against him. Why do you think it's hard for the music industry to face its reckoning?

EO: That's not the music industry, that's urban music. That’s just Black folks who make music and nobody cares about that. That's the thing; nobody cares...Nobody cares. It's not the music industry. It's just an "urban" thing. And when I say "urban," I say that in quotations. Literally, it’s a Black thing, where nobody gives a shit what Black people do to Black people. And Russell didn't go on unchecked, he just had enough money to keep it quiet. But you know, anytime you're dealing with Black women being disrespected, especially by Black men, nobody gives a shit.

And Black people don't police themselves so it doesn't matter. Why should anybody care? And Black women don't care. They'll buy an R. Kelly album right now. They’ll stream that shit right now. They don’t care. So, nobody cares. Nobody cares. And if you're not going to police yourself, then nobody's ever going to care.

xoNecole: Do you have any regrets about anything you wrote or perhaps something you may have omitted?

EO: Absolutely not. No. There's nothing that I wish I would've gone back and said to myself, no. I don’t think at 20-something years old, I'm supposed to understand every little thing. I don't think the 20-something-year-old woman is supposed to understand the world and know exactly what she's doing. I think that one of my biggest regrets, which isn't my regret, but a regret, is that I didn't have better parents. Because a 20-something only knows what she knows based on what she’s seen and what she’s been taught and what she’s told. I had shitty parents and a horrible family. Just terrible. These people had no business having children. None of them. And a lot of our families are like that. And we may pass down those familial curses.

*This interview has been edited and condensed

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