Tisha Campbell On Her Fear Of Dating & Being Happily Single For The First Time In 22 Years
Duane Martin and Tisha Campbell filed for divorce and a slew of messy headlines ensued. From restraining orders to financial misappropriation allegations, the estranged couple has made it clear that after 22 years of marriage, they're ready to close one chapter and begin another.
And in a recent interview with Hollywood Unlocked, Tisha revealed that after enduring her messy split, she may have had 99 problems but a d*ck ain't one. The actress, who has rarely talked about the tumultuous divorce publicly, opened up about being "happily single" after more than two decades. She explained:
"I am but I'm not looking for anybody right now. This is the first time in 22 years that I've been—and I'm scared. I think I'm scared."
Although Tisha may have lost a partner over the last year, she gained a newfound perspective. Tisha explained that because she married young and moved in with her husband immediately after moving out of her mother's home, her divorce has been the first time she's ever had a chance to stand on her own two feet:
"I know that I'm smart. That's what I see. I had to learn a lot in the last couple of years and I'm smart. You gotta understand, I went straight from my mom's house to my husband's house."
While Tisha and Duane's divorce may have gotten pretty nasty, one thing that hasn't is Tisha Campbell's bedroom. The 51-year-old actress explained that although she's happily single, she isn't quite ready to mingle. As a single woman for the first time in 22 years, Tisha says dipping her big toe in the dating pool isn't a dive she's willing to take anytime soon:
"You know what's funny? I can't even be that. Still. Me and my friend had a conversation about the responsibility of who I am. She said, 'You can't even have consensual nothing because you're going to play yourself out.' And I said, 'That's not fair.' It's a different day and age. When I look at millennials, they're more fluid and I'm not even talking about with their sexuality. I'm talking about with them just being able to—in my day, in the nineties, we were looked down upon for just embracing our own sensuality."
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Tisha says that while her previous marriage proved unsuccessful, she's not quite ready to give up on love yet. The entertain says more than anything, she's grateful for the "beautiful devastation" that acted as a catalyst for her growth.
"I think that when you go through things, unexpected it is a beautiful devastation. This person told me embrace the pain, every tear because you're growing from that and you're going to be a different person. You're going to be a phoenix. And in the moment, you don't believe it. It sounds so cliché and you don't want to hear that shit. But it's f*ckin true."
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Tisha Campbell on Martin, Being Single & Reuniting with Sister on Hollywood Unlocked [UNCENSORED]youtu.be
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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Sheila Rashid's Androgynous Approach To Unisex Clothing Is A Lesson In Embracing Individuality
The ItGirl 100 List is a celebration of 100 Black women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table.
For Sheila Rashid, it all started with some free-hand drawings and a few strokes of paint.
The Chicago-based clothing designer and creative director of Sheila Rashid Brand recalls using her spare time in high school to hand paint designs on t-shirts and distressed hoodies, distributing them to classmates as walking billboards for her art.
Rashid sought to pursue fashion design at Columbia College in Chicago but eventually took the self-taught route to build upon her knack for crafting one-of-a-kind, androgynous pieces.
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Thanks to the mentorship of local designers taking her under their wings, Rashid was able to gain valuable experience in putting together collections and creating patterns; equipping her with them with the necessary skills to pursue her own collections.
After two years of living in New York, Rashid returned home to the Chi and uncovered the unique flair she could offer the city. “I moved to New York after that because I wanted to be in the fashion capital world,” she tells xoNecole. “That's when I really got a leg up. I found myself when I moved back to Chicago after moving to New York.”
For the Midwest native, inspiration comes from her time around creative peers and the city’s notorious winters — known to be a main character in many Chicagoans stories. “It's a different perspective and mindset when I'm making stuff because of the weather here,” she explains. “When we get summer, it’s ‘Summertime Chi’ — it's amazing. It's beautiful. Still, I find myself always making clothes that cater to the winter.”
"I moved to New York after that because I wanted to be in the fashion capital world. That's when I really got a leg up. I found myself when I moved back to Chicago after moving to New York.”
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Many designers have a signature aesthetic or theme in their creations. In Rashid’s design story, dancing between the lines of femininity and masculinity is how she’s been able to distinguish herself within the industry. Her androgynous clothing has garnered the eye of celebrities like Zendaya, Chance the Rapper, WNBA star Sydney Colson, and more — showing her range and approach to designs with inclusivity in mind.
“I think I do reflect my own style,” she says. “When I do make pieces, I'm very tomboyish, androgynous. My work is unisex because I feel like everybody can wear it. I cater to everybody and that's how I try to approach my clothes.” From denim to overalls, and color-drenched outerwear, Rashid has mastered the structure of statement pieces that tell a story.
“Each collection, I never know what's going to be the thing I'm going to focus on. I try to reflect my own style and have fun with the storytelling,” she shares. “I look at it more like it's my art in this small way of expressing myself, so it's not that calculated.”
"My work is unisex because I feel like everybody can wear it. I cater to everybody and that's how I try to approach my clothes."
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Still, if you were able to add up all the moments within Rashid’s 20-year career in design, one theme that has multiplied her into becoming an “ItGirl” is her confidence to take up space within the fashion industry as a queer, Black woman. “Being an ItGirl is about being yourself, loving what you do, finding your niche, and mastering that,” she says.
No matter where you are on your ItGirl journey, Rashid says to always remain persistent and never hesitate to share your art with the world. “Don’t give up. Even if it's something small, finish it and don't be afraid to put it out,” she says, “It's about tackling your own fear of feeling like you have to please everybody, but just please yourself, and that's good enough.”
To learn more about the ItGirl 100 List, view the full list here.
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