
There's nothing in this world that a good Tedx Talk can't fix. Feeling yourself spiraling into chronic depression? Try a Tedx Talk. Want to learn how to have better sex with your partner? Try a Tedx Talk. On a quest to master the Art of The Hustle? Karen Civil's latest Tedx Talk has you covered, sis.
Over the past decade, Karen has risen to prominence as a go-to digital marketing strategist to the stars and was formerly dubbed by XXL as the Oprah Winfrey of hip hop. Along with being an author, philanthropist, producer, and professional badass, Karen also finds time to drop gems on how to make our own visions come to fruition. This 32-year-old Brooklyn-born, Jersey-raised go-getter recently slid through our YouTube feed with a whole word about the steps you need to take to become a full-time CEO, and xoNecole has all the details.
Here's are 6 essential business tips from Karen that every mogul in the making should have:
Use What You Have To Get What You Want
You have everything you need to be successful.
I'll run that back just in case you didn't hear me the first time. You don't need more time, money, or resources to be successful, you just need to use what you have. According to Karen, that's exactly how she became one of the most sought after media professionals in the game. Along with using an AOL disc to jumpstart her career in the industry, Karen also used her ingenuity in other ways to get ahead:
"I would do an interview for my site and I would gift them to the talent, and I would have them take funny pictures or use them for the studio, and I ended up sending these pictures to Beats because I saw that their Facebook was in dire need of content. This led to the Marketing Executive, Omar Johnson, reaching out to me and one conversation later, I was moving to Los Angeles with a new position within the company. That was 9 years ago to this day."
Take The Time To Celebrate Each Victory
A 10,000-mile journey starts with one step and truly bossing up starts with taking the time to celebrate your small wins. Karen explained that while being your own boss can be satisfying, it can also be scary AF:
"When you work in a traditional job, there's the glass ceiling. You're trying to break milestones, you can track your way up like any employee of the month, promotions, etcetera. But when you're an entrepreneur, there's no ceiling. There's not even a floor, just walls that will close in on you if you doubt yourself."
Your Insecurities Are Excuses
Let me tell you something. The self-sabotage struggle is real; but at some point, you realize that there's only one person stopping you from becoming the woman of you dreams. It's you, sis. You're that person.
Your weight, your bank account, your age, and your gender are not the determining factors in you achieving your goals, how you see yourself is. According to Karen, getting to the root of her insecurities was key when it came to building her empire:
"There are three reasons for not achieving anything and those are: giving up, failing to gain momentum, and becoming distractions. I had to learn to categorize all my insecurities and process all of the obstacles in as nothing more than an excuse that I was doing nothing but sabotaging myself."
Be Proactive
When you're not early, you're late, and this principle should also apply when it comes to your work ethic because an early bird may get the worm, and a proactive woman secures the bag.
In order to design the life of your dreams, you first need a blueprint, and Karen said that started with eliminating any and everything in her life that didn't align with her vision.
"When you fail to plan, all your plans fail. My journey to walking my purpose and building my brand has its ups and downs but I've always wanted to be the master of my own life and not a victim of circumstance or chance. So I put in the long hours and could control my day-to-day and could continue turning my ideas into a fruitful reality."
Your Mind Is A Muscle, Work It Sis
In Karen's Tedx Talk, she shared that in China, work ethic is valued more than talent and no matter how good you are at what you do, you can always get outworked. According to her, much like muscles, our minds are instruments of the body that must be trained and conditioned to be successful. One way to pump the iron is by setting attainable goals:
"Setting goals and achieving them will always keep you motivated. The actual act of achievement is something that can be learned over time. You need to treat it as if it's a muscle, and once you learn to properly work it out and condition it, there is no end to what you can accomplish in your life."
Play The Long Game
In the words of the great African-American poet T.I., I was looking through my rearview at all the times I had, sh*t seems a lot clearer after time had passed, and boy, isn't that always the case? Hindsight is 20/20, and Karen revealed that insight is the most valuable thing you can have when it comes to being an entrepreneur. The CEO stressed the importance of being a star player when it comes to preparing for the long game:
"It's easy to get caught up in the day-by-day challenges of running a business, but you literally have to carve out time at least once a week to take stock of what you're doing for the long-term health of your business. Do you have an exit strategy? Do you plan to just wake up one morning and close shop? Are you looking to be bought out by a bigger corporation? Do you plan to transition your brand into something different down the line?"
Watch the full video below!
Visionary: Forging Your Own Path Forward | Karen Civil | TEDxBethesdawww.youtube.com
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Exclusive: Viral It Girl Kayla Nicole Is Reclaiming The Mic—And The Narrative
It’s nice to have a podcast when you’re constantly trending online. One week after setting timelines ablaze on Halloween, Kayla Nicole released an episode of her Dear Media pop culture podcast, The Pre-Game, where she took listeners behind the scenes of her viral costume.
The 34-year-old had been torn between dressing up as Beyoncé or Toni Braxton, she says in the episode. She couldn’t decide which version of Bey she’d be, though. Two days before the holiday, she locked in her choice, filming a short recreation of Braxton’s “He Wasn’t Man Enough for Me” music video that has since garnered nearly 6.5M views on TikTok.
Kayla Nicole says she wore a dress that was once worn by Braxton herself for the Halloween costume. “It’s not a secret Toni is more on the petite side. I’m obsessed with all 5’2” of her,” she tells xoNecole via email. “But I’m 5’10'' and not missing any meals, honey, so to my surprise, when I got the dress and it actually fit, I knew it was destiny.”
The episode was the perfect way for the multihyphenate to take control of her own narrative. By addressing the viral moment on her own platform, she was able to stir the conversation and keep the focus on her adoration for Braxton, an artist she says she grew up listening to and who still makes her most-played playlist every year. Elsewhere, she likely would’ve received questions about whether or not the costume was a subliminal aimed at her ex-boyfriend and his pop star fiancée. “I think that people will try to project their own narratives, right?” she said, hinting at this in the episode. “But, for me personally – I think it’s very important to say this in this moment – I’m not in the business of tearing other women down. I’m in the business of celebrating them.”
Kayla Nicole is among xoNecole’s It Girl 100 Class of 2025, powered by SheaMoisture, recognized in the Viral Voices category for her work in media and the trends she sets on our timelines, all while prioritizing her own mental and physical health. As she puts it: “Yes, I’m curating conversations on my podcast The Pre-Game, and cultivating community with my wellness brand Tribe Therepē.”
Despite being the frequent topic of conversation online, Kayla Nicole says she’s learning to take advantage of her growing social media platform without becoming consumed by it. “I refuse to let the internet consume me. It’s supposed to be a resource and tool for connection, so if it becomes anything beyond that I will log out,” she says.
On The Pre-Game, which launched earlier this year, she has positioned herself as listeners “homegirl.” “There’s definitely a delicate dance between being genuine and oversharing, and I’ve had to learn that the hard way. Now I share from a place of reflection, not reaction,” she says. “If it can help someone feel seen or less alone, I’ll talk about it within reason. But I’ve certainly learned to protect parts of my life that I cherish most. I share what serves connection but doesn’t cost me peace.
"I refuse to let the internet consume me. It’s supposed to be a resource and tool for connection, so if it becomes anything beyond that I will log out."

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Throughout each episode, she sips a cocktail and addresses trending topics (even when they involve herself). It’s a platform the Pepperdine University alumnus has been preparing to have since she graduated with a degree in broadcast journalism, with a concentration in political science.
“I just knew I was going to end up on a local news network at the head anchor table, breaking high speed chases, and tossing it to the weather girl,” she says. Instead, she ended up working as an assistant at TMZ before covering sports as a freelance reporter. (She’s said she didn’t work for ESPN, despite previous reports saying otherwise.) The Pre-Game combines her love for pop culture and sports in a way that once felt inaccessible to her in traditional media.
She’s not just a podcaster, though. When she’s not behind the mic, taking acting classes or making her New York Fashion Week debut, Kayla Nicole is also busy elevating her wellness brand Tribe Therepē, where she shares her workouts and the workout equipment that helps her look chic while staying fit. She says the brand will add apparel to its line up in early 2026.
“Tribe Therepē has evolved into exactly what I have always envisioned. A community of women who care about being fit not just for the aesthetic, but for their mental and emotional well-being too. It’s grounded. It’s feminine. It’s strong,” she says. “And honestly, it's a reflection of where I am in my life right now. I feel so damn good - mentally, emotionally, and physically. And I am grateful to be in a space where I can pour that love and light back into the community that continues to pour into me.”
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There is a very specific reason why I decided to write this article before the holiday season officially gets underway. It’s because I once read a study that said it’s quite common for most Americans to double the amount of alcohol that they consume between Thanksgiving and New Year’s Day.
It makes sense when you stop to think about all of the holiday parties, time off, and moments spent with loved ones that transpire around this time of year. And while there is certainly nothing wrong with enjoying some mulled wine, real-deal eggnog, or peppermint martinis, because your health is something that never “takes a vacation,” I thought it was important to share with you some of the benefits (pros) and challenges (cons) that can arise from alcohol consumption.
My main motive? Mostly, I hope that it will serve as a solid reminder to embrace all of the things that you adore about this time of year, so long as you do it in moderation and you weigh the costs.
Especially as far as drinking alcohol is concerned.
PRO: Manages Blood Sugar Levels
GiphyHere’s something that you may have never seen coming. Were you aware of the fact that alcohol can actually help to stabilize your blood sugar? Yep, according to the American Diabetes Association, so long as you leave it to no more than 1-2 cocktails a day, alcohol may be able to lower your A1C levels. Pretty cool, right?
CON: It’s a Carcinogen
GiphyAlcohol is a carcinogen. The reason why this should somewhat alarm you is because carcinogens are things (like tobacco, UV rays, processed meats, etc.) that can increase your chances of being diagnosed with cancer (especially mouth, throat, esophagus, stomach and breast cancer). There are various ways this happens including the fact that alcohol, specifically, can hinder your body from breaking down certain nutrients, it can cause your estrogen levels to spike and alcohol can also cause certain toxins to damage your DNA and certain bodily proteins over time.
PRO: Cultivates Euphoric Feelings
GiphyIf you find yourself feeling more euphoric while you’re enjoying a drink, it’s not all up in your head. Although, for the more part, alcohol is considered to be a depressant, when consumed in small amounts, it can provide a stimulant effect. This happens due to the fact that when you first start to consume alcohol, it causes the production of the feel-good hormone known as dopamine to increase — and since dopamine makes us all feel more relaxed and confident while heightening our senses of pleasure too…well, there you have it.
CON: May Increase Anxiety/Depression
GiphyAs they say, “what goes up, most come down” at some point — and that is what you have to be careful of when it comes to alcohol consumption. For instance, when you drink alcohol, although it tends to initially cause your dopamine levels to uptick, because it is a temporary bodily response, sometimes the dips are lower than the rises…and that is when anxiety starts to kick in. A similar point is made with depression because oftentimes, people with depression-related symptoms, will use alcohol as a way to deflect from what’s really going on with them — and that can make them feel even worse than ever once the buzz of alcohol starts to wear off.
PRO: Has Some Heart-Related Benefits
GiphyWhen it comes to your heart, there are interesting findings surrounding its relationship to alcohol. For instance, some research states that, so long as the consumption is moderate, alcohol can actually help to increase the good cholesterol in your system while also breaking down proteins that can potentially lead to blood clots; both of these factors alone can reduce your chances of dying from heart disease.
CON: Packs on Pounds
GiphyIt’s no secret that alcohol tends to contain quite a few calories. That’s why, it’s not uncommon for people who’ve lost weight to mention “I’ve stopped drinking” as one of the causes for the shed pounds. That’s not to say that there aren’t some alcoholic beverages that have less calories than others including vodka (133 calories per serving), white wine (148 calories per serving) and tequila (99 calories per shot). Just keep in mind that the more you drink, the more calories get into your system and the more weight you stand to gain.
PRO: Lowers Inhibitions
GiphyAlthough you really should only be uninhibited around people who you absolutely trust, if that person is your partner and you’re looking to have a pretty — eh hem — active evening, alcohol can certainly help to make that happen. The science of it all is the prefrontal cortex of your brain is what regulates your inhibitions and levels of self-control. Meanwhile, alcohol suppresses your inhibitions which can cause you to be more spontaneous and open to trying things that you might not immediately do if you were sober. And with the right individual, that can be sexually beneficial (emphasis on “right person”).
CON: Makes It Harder to Orgasm
GiphyOn the other hand, as odd as it may seem (in light of what I just said), if you have too much alcohol in your system, it could make climaxing difficult. That’s because orgasms happen, in part, due to your nervous system being stimulated — and since alcohol is technically a depressant…well, it could reduce nerve sensitivity (especially as far as your clitoris goes) for you while making it challenging for your partner to remain erect or have consistent stamina. And yeah, that sucks.
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‘Tis the season. And with that, if some wassails or hot buttered rums are in your immediate future — hey, don’t let me stop you — not even a lil’ bit.
All I’m saying is now that you know what alcoholic drinks have to offer (both ways), you can know exactly how to incorporate them into your holiday plans. Enjoy!
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