The It List: LA’s Most Stylish Women Are Buying These Items This Summer
Summer is here and I'm excited to have finally returned to living in some sense of normalcy. Now that we've fully resumed our everyday lives, there's so many places to be this summer which means so many looks to come up with. With such a joyous occasion as outside being fully open, my excitement fades when facing the reality of also having absolutely nothing fun to wear. As we reunite with the world, I want my outfits to match my energy with each look giving everything it's supposed to give.
I'm eager to fill in the gaps of the missing pieces needed to complete my feel-good outfits. Whether basics or statements, I'm on the hunt for effortless pieces to take my summer style to the next level.
I decided to get word from the most stylish women I know to dish out what items are worthy of attention this year. Whether dressed up or casually, these fashion forward women are not only wearing the hottest looks but know how to make each piece her own. Sharing their must-have summer items, scroll to check out what these LA "It Girls" are adding to their looks this season.
1. Bold & Colorful Accessories
Chanise (@chanise.chanise)
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Boutique Owner of The Style Animal
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"My must-have items currently for the summer are bold and colorful accessories."
Known as "candy rings," colorful acrylic jewels are stacked everywhere. Reminiscent of the early 2000's, big bold statement rings are making a strong comeback. This quirky style created with a bubble looking effect is a fun trend I'm definitely adding to cart. Keep the color going by adding bold yet complementary pieces to your look with the full set to match.
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Candy Rings: The Style Animal
Bag: GCDS
Leggings (similar): Farfetch
2. The Satin Dress
You can never go wrong with a satin mini dress. With unlimited colors and prints, it's only a matter of finding the one that speaks to you. Paired with a sandal or a sneaker, You can't go wrong with this classic summer dress.
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Dress: Macy's
3. Colored Sunglasses
Courtesy of Amira
Celebrity Stylist
Colorful sunglasses are back on the most-wanted list this season but how do you know which will stand the test of time? While it's tempting to get an assortment of colored frames, it's about style and strategy when avoiding buyer's remorse during the next big eyewear trend. Stylist Amira Vee suggests a classical red squared designer frame as a chic must-have designer eyewear for everyone.
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Sunglasses: Farfetch
4. Asymmetrical Everything
Victoria (@v.styl)
Courtesy of Victoria
Celebrity Stylist
If you haven't hopped on the asymmetrical trend by now, you have a lot of catching up to do. Super modern and chic, asymmetrical designs can take a basic piece to all new heights. One of the most stylish trends for summer, this look is universally complementary on all body types.
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Top: Line by K
Skirt: Zara
5. A Portable Fan
Sandra Jay (@sandra_jay)
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Professional Fashionista
"Besides the Tom Ford Disco Platform Silver heels that cost an arm and three legs, a must-have summer item for me would be a portable fan," Sandra Jay explained. "LA summers can get hot, and what better way to be a Hot Girl while in these streets with a portable fan. I literally can't leave my house without my FanC fan paired with a cute pair of shades."
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Portable Fan: FanC
6. Sky High Platforms
BT (@btmarie)
Courtesy of BT
Celebrity Stylist
Wardrobe Stylist, BT, names sky high platforms as the summer 2021 trend she's excited to wear. The major height and sleek style of these modern day slides are a fashion girl's dream. With a colorful assortment of styles and heights, there are so many fashionable options to slip into this season.
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Platforms: Simon Miller
7. Nike Air Force 1’s
Genevive
Courtesy of Genevive
"This is my first time wearing Air Force 1's as an adult. I was geeked to start rocking them for the summer."
Stylist
Air Force 1's are a classic that should be in everyone's closet. Paired with just about anything this summer, this is the ultimate must have sneaker.
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Shoes: Nordstrom
8. Babydoll Dress
Londyn (@londyndouglas)
Courtesy of Londyn
Wardrobe Stylist
This year, Target is collaborating with emerging design brands and the Christopher John Rogers collection is by far a favorite. This super chic babydoll dress is the perfect dose of fashion and femininity we all need this summer. The black chunky sandals adorned with emerald stones is a naturally stylish touch to accentuate this warm weather look.
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Dress: McMullen (similar), Zara (similar)
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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