Mary J. Blige Says That During Tough Times She Listens To A Lot Of...Mary J. Blige
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Mary J. Blige Says That During Tough Times She Listens To A Lot Of...Mary J. Blige

Same, sis.

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Mary J. Blige. There's none other like her. She is the queen of the bounce back and reinventing herself for the next level that she's manifested. She's been in the music industry for a whopping 30 years, and she still resonates just as full. We can't get enough of her triumph, therefore she's celebrated at all times.

Nothing less.

Another major component to Mary's brand, is how she's gotten to to level of peace that she has, because it's no secret that she didn't always exist the headspace that she has now. Mostly because she has been, seen, and done it all--three times. But lately, although our sis has chosen happiness, during those times where it's gotten tough (like in this panorama), she has sought comfort in her damn self.

And honestly, that's the level of peace we ALL should want for ourselves.

She told Garage Magazine:

"I don't like to reflect on negativity through my work, but I tend to go into hiding when something is not feeling correct or there's some moments that are, like you said, trials and tribulations. I think that that is a time of reflection, and I love to look at what I need. When I look back—because lately I've been listening to a lot of my material, just to get me through the pandemic. I don't know why. I've just been playing a lot of Mary J. Blige."

Same sis, same. She continued:

"And what I learned is that I was stronger than I even thought I was. When I listen to the song 'My Life', when it comes to the lyrics, this little girl was lost. She was traumatized, she was drinking her pain away, she was doing drugs till she couldn't do them no more. She was depressed, she was dark, she was all these things.
"But she was writing these songs that resonate with this Mary J. Blige. So when I listen to those songs, it just gives me the chills, because they minister back to me. They inspire me again."

Whew, a whole word for the congregation!

Mary has also welcomed being a part of history. When the Vice President, Kamala Harris famously strutted to her song (which admittedly took her by surprise), during her historic campaign win, Mary knew then that her life had aligned with the space she has so gracefully entered at the age of 50.

"I was just writing the things I didn't have, and I was writing from a place of lows, when now, when I look at those words, those places were high. And I looked into the 'Growing Pains' album the other day, because Kamala [Harris] made me think about the song 'Work That'. I listened to those lyrics and said, 'Oh, my gosh. I was really stronger and smarter than I thought I was.'"

Yes, you are, queen. We love it when a Black woman witnesses her full circle of life. *throws on My Life to get me through this week*

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