K. Michelle Believes Men Aren't Good People & We Need To Talk, Sis
Recently, a clip of K. Michelle's interview with V-103's The Morning Culturewent viral after she made a controversial statement that many Black women felt in their spirit.
Since entering the entertainment industry a decade ago, K. Michelle has made a name for herself as a spicy reality star and phenomenal performer, but it's the singer's views on her past romantic relationships that have dominated headlines for the past few days. During the interview, K. Michelle was asked about the biggest trauma and her response was relatable AF. According to her, most of her pain in her life has come as a result of the men she has been involved with romantically. She told the hosts:
"I don't think men are good people. The reason for that is for men to do things that they consider small in the flesh like cheating. You know that that's going to destroy your partner but you do it anyway. That's not a mistake."
In the past, K. Michelle has been involved in a number of high-profile relationships that were followed by very public breakups. The 34-year-old singer says that although she is in a healthy relationship and expecting twins via surrogate now, the emotional wounds left by her previous partners have been too deep to recover from.
"We've watched the same story over and over again and just because I am a woman, I'm supposed to accept your betrayal. You're taking advantage of my love for you and I'm supposed to be the one behind you riding or dying. I'm not dying with nobody."
The "Can't Raise A Man" singer says that along with the tragic and disgusting stories that she's heard from the fans that confide in her, her own experience has taught her that playing around with the wrong partner can leave you in last place:
"They tell me the most disgusting of stories that I couldn't even believe. Sometimes men, the wrong men, will stunt your growth as a woman."
Despite the backlash she's gotten, K. Michelle says she stands behind her comments and I hear you, sis. While I can't agree with all of Kim's sentiments, honey was preaching. The wrong men can stunt your growth, so it's up to us to get some professional help and learn how to choose the right ones.
There are men who are liars, cheaters, and frauds, but there are also men that are not. In the interview, K. Michelle mentioned that her father and grandfather have been shining examples of manhood throughout her life, proving that all men aren't trash. It's just the ones we've been choosing.
Generalizations are no fun. Generalizations hurt someone. As soon as the words "never," "always," and "all" enter your vocabulary, your mind is closed down to every other possibility. I believe in the power of the tongue, and I speak a good man over the lives of K. Michelle and every woman reading this, damn it.
While I can feel where K. Michelle is coming from on a spiritual level, I'm also here for accountability and the freedom to choose. Although none of us have "chosen" the emotional, physical, and spiritual abuse that has been imposed on us by less than worthy partners, we can choose to not settle for them.
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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You've Never Seen Luke James In A Role Quite Like This
Over the years, we've watched Luke James play countless characters we'd deem sex symbols, movie stars, and even his complicated character in Lena Waithe's The Chi. For the first time in his career, the New Orleans-born actor has taken on a role where his signature good looks take a backseat as he transforms into Edmund in Them: The Scare—a mentally deranged character in the second installment of the horror anthology series that you won't be able to take your eyes off.
Trust us, Edmund will literally make you do a double take.
xoNecole sat down with Luke James to talk about his latest series and all the complexity surrounding it—from the challenges taking on this out-of-the-box role to the show's depiction of the perplexing history of the relationship between Black Americans and police. When describing the opportunity to bring Edmund's character to life, Luke was overjoyed to show the audience yet another level of his masterful acting talents.
"It was like bathing in the sun," he said. "I was like, thank you! Another opportunity for me to be great—for me to expand my territory. I'm just elated to be a part of it and to see myself in a different light, something I didn't think I could do." He continued, "There are parts of you that says, 'Go for it because this is what you do.' But then also that's why it's a challenge because you're like, 'um, I don't know if I'm as free as I need to be to be able to do this.' Little Marvin just created such a safe space for me to be able to do this, and I'm grateful for everything I've been able to do to lead to this."
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Them: The Scare, like the first season, shines a light on the plight of Black Americans in the United States. This time, the story is taking place in the 1990s, at the height of the Rodney King riots in Los Angeles. While the series presents many underlying themes, one that stands out is Black people and the complicated relationship with the police. "For the audience, I think it sets the tone for the era that we're in and the amount of chaos that's in the air in Los Angeles and around the country from this heinous incident. And I say it just sets the tone of the anxiety and anxiousness that everybody is feeling in their own households."
James has been a longtime advocate against police brutality himself. He has even featured Elijah McClain, the 23-year-old Colorado man who died after being forcibly detained by officers, as his Instagram avatar for the past five years. So, as you can imagine, this script was close to his heart. "Elijah was a soft-loving oddball. Different than anyone but loving and a musical genius. He was just open and wanted to be loved and seen."
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Luke continued, "His life was taken from him. I resonate with his spirit and his words...through all the struggle and the pain he still found it in him to say, 'I love you and I forgive you.' And that's who we are as people—to our own detriment sometimes. He's someone I don't want people to forget. I have yet to remove his face from my world because I have yet to let go of his voice, let go of that being [because] there's so many people we have lost in our history that so often get forgotten."
He concluded, "I think that's the importance of such artwork that moves us to think and talk about it. Yes, it's entertaining. We get to come together and be spooked together. But then we come together and we think, 'Damn, Edmund needed someone to talk to. Edmund needed help... a lot [of] things could have been different. Edmund could have been saved.'
Check out the full interview below.
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