I Do's And Dont's: A Wedding Planner Emailed Outrageous Guest Demands & The Internet Went Crazy

Human Interest

Ah, weddings: some love to attend them and some love to hate them. From black tie to completely casual, we've all attended at least one wedding and typically have a good understanding of proper wedding guest etiquette. Most of the time we leave relatively unscathed: basking in the love of the bride and groom, bellies full, perhaps a little (or a lot) tipsy, and ready to take off our high heels.

But what happens when you get invited to a wedding with a list of "demands" outside of the typical "please arrive early" or "child free reception" request? You might have heard of the "Unplugged Wedding" where guest we not allowed to take pictures with their devices. This pales in comparison to the bride who cancelled her wedding four days before the date when she didn't receive $1500 in cash from each guest to fund her "Kardashian-style" nuptials.

In another recent story that screams "Team Too Much", a Reddit user uploaded a "list" of demands from a wedding planner—which has now gone viral—that dragged the bride-to-be's outrageous requests.

The email screenshot—which has been upvoted nearly 11,000 times and has almost 1,300 comments and counting—starts off relatively mundane, with a call for a final head count.


"Good morning, my name is [REDACTED] and I am the wedding coordinator for [REDACTED] and [REDACTED]. I am reaching out to all confirmed guest to do a final head count and go over some rules and regulations of the wedding day."

But as you read on, the list goes from completely understandable—please arrive 15-30 minutes early—to utterly over the top—hairstyle demands and admission price included. Check out this list if you needed a good LOL today:


Rules and regulations:

  1. Please arrive 15-30 minutes early.
  2. Please DO NOT wear white, cream or ivory.
  3. Please do not wear anything other than a basic bob or ponytail.
  4. Please do not have a full face of makeup.
  5. Do not record during the seramony.
  6. Do not check in on FB until instructed.
  7. Use #[REDACTED] when posting all pictures.
  9. Everyone will toast with Rémy. No acceptance.
  10. Lastly must come with gift 75$ or more or you want be admitted.

"First of all" no white, cream or ivory attire: cool. But a bob or ponytail? So you want me to not only find a dress, shoes, accessories and transportation to your wedding, but I need to get a new wig, too? Oh, okay. And what exactly do you mean by a face full of makeup? Like, I don't even go to the grocery store without foundation, mascara and a lip, but you need me at your wedding barefaced doing the #NoMakeupChallenge? And what even is a "seramony"?


The one that really took me all the way out was the "DO NOT TALK TO THE BRIDE AT ALL" part. Does this include everyone or just the email recipients, because I'm gonna need for you to make this make sense. As one Reddit poster put it, this overzealous wedding coordinator is liable to do the absolute most:

@HelloTiredImDad: And do you Mrs. Smith take...



It is understandable that as a wedding coordinator you want to make sure that all ducks are in a row and that there will be no upstaging the bride.

However, this "rules and regulations" list sounds like it's either coming from a delusional and petty bride herself, or the wedding coordinator is secretly living out her own "dream" wedding scenario, quickly turning it into everyone else's nightmare. I'm not the only one that thinks it might be bridezilla gone full dragon, as LadyBarclay points out:

"I can't believe any wedding coordinator - meaning a professional one - would be so rude, tacky, or in such poor command of the English language. That this post is instead from the bride, or a close friend she roped into helping her, thinking she sneakily found a way to dictate how her guests will behave/perform without being labelled a bridezilla? THAT sounds more likely."

Had I received this email, I would have quickly thrown my invitation AND the friendship in the trash. It's one thing to ensure a head count or to even kindly request a cash gift, but to tell me what to give, how to present myself and exactly what to drink is too much. You don't know what my financial status is nor are you privy to whether or not I have an allergy to your drink of choice or if I'm even drinking at all.

I admit, I had a Bridezilla experience at my own wedding. I was completely frustrated when my own family hijacked my plans of getting eloped with just a few guests and turned it into a full-on party with over 30 people, none of whom we had invited. I was fuming!

But ladies, this long list of unreasonable demands is on a whole new level.

What's the craziest wedding request you've heard of or made yourself? Let us know in the comments.

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