The internet is a strangely beautiful place. It's the kind of "beautiful" that's subjective, where you have to tilt your head a little to the side in order to truly appreciate its hidden appeal. With the right social media post, you could be on your way to your next opportunity, meeting the love of your life, or even making a new friend.
Have you ever visited someone's page and read her point of view on something, or maybe she posted a flawless #OOTD post and you think to yourself, Dang, we could totally be friends?Well, I'm convinced that some of us are still without our best friends because we're too afraid to make the first move. The worst that could happen is she leaves your DM on "seen", but that doesn't mean all hope is lost for you.
When I think about all the recent connections I've made over this last year, all credit is due to the internet. Whether it was through apps like "Hey Vina" or a simple, "Let's grab a coffee sometime," message, the interwebs have been the perfect matchmaker for friend connections.
Let's be clear: there is a certain protocol to follow when engaging in the shallow water of internet friendships. And I'm here to help:
1.Don't Be a Creep
There is a way to slide in someone's DM's without being a creep about it. Don't just flat-out say: "We should be friends!" in hopes that sparks fly. This may work in some cases, but it may come off as too thirsty. Start slow.
Send her a compliment. Comment on her new blog post. Inquire about her wash and go routine. Allow the conversation to take its natural course, and then when the window opens to exchange contacts, jump through it! But remember: there's no rush.
*Article originally published on aleyarion.com
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xoNecole sat down with Luke James to talk about his latest series and all the complexity surrounding it—from the challenges taking on this out-of-the-box role to the show's depiction of the perplexing history of the relationship between Black Americans and police. When describing the opportunity to bring Edmund's character to life, Luke was overjoyed to show the audience yet another level of his masterful acting talents.
"It was like bathing in the sun," he said. "I was like, thank you! Another opportunity for me to be great—for me to expand my territory. I'm just elated to be a part of it and to see myself in a different light, something I didn't think I could do." He continued, "There are parts of you that says, 'Go for it because this is what you do.' But then also that's why it's a challenge because you're like, 'um, I don't know if I'm as free as I need to be to be able to do this.' Little Marvin just created such a safe space for me to be able to do this, and I'm grateful for everything I've been able to do to lead to this."
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Them: The Scare, like the first season, shines a light on the plight of Black Americans in the United States. This time, the story is taking place in the 1990s, at the height of the Rodney King riots in Los Angeles. While the series presents many underlying themes, one that stands out is Black people and the complicated relationship with the police. "For the audience, I think it sets the tone for the era that we're in and the amount of chaos that's in the air in Los Angeles and around the country from this heinous incident. And I say it just sets the tone of the anxiety and anxiousness that everybody is feeling in their own households."
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Luke continued, "His life was taken from him. I resonate with his spirit and his words...through all the struggle and the pain he still found it in him to say, 'I love you and I forgive you.' And that's who we are as people—to our own detriment sometimes. He's someone I don't want people to forget. I have yet to remove his face from my world because I have yet to let go of his voice, let go of that being [because] there's so many people we have lost in our history that so often get forgotten."
He concluded, "I think that's the importance of such artwork that moves us to think and talk about it. Yes, it's entertaining. We get to come together and be spooked together. But then we come together and we think, 'Damn, Edmund needed someone to talk to. Edmund needed help... a lot [of] things could have been different. Edmund could have been saved.'
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