
My mother says that the reason why she didn’t send us to the dentist as consistently as she should have was because she had her own fear of seeing them. Hmph. I think that her stuff ended up getting projected onto me because if there is one thing that I loathe, it’s making a dental appointment. Still, it really is an unnecessary evil, especially as you age, because the reality is that, over time, enamel gets thinner, teeth become weaker, and all kinds of oral-issue-hell can break loose if you’re not proactive about your oral health needs.
Okay, but what do you do if you know that you’ve been a bit more negligent when it comes to your teeth than you care to admit? Are there proven, all-natural things that you can do to restore your enamel, heal your cavities, and even remineralize your teeth?
Listen, you need to see your dentist on an annual basis; there’s no way around that. At the same time, the dental industry is still a business, so it’s important you know that there are things that you can do to make seeing your dentist less painful when it comes to your mouth and your wallet.
Read on for 10 ways that you can get your teeth back into the condition that you’d like with a bit of know-how, patience, and consistency.
1. Eat Calcium-Enriched Foods

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Something that you probably learned in elementary school is that if you want your teeth to remain healthy and strong, you need to get some calcium into your diet. However, what you may not be aware of is the fact that calcium is a nutrient that your body does not naturally produce, which is why you have to be proactive and intentional about getting it into your diet.
Otherwise, not only could the enamel of your teeth weaken, but you could also end up experiencing muscle aches and cramps, fatigue, brittle nails, extreme PMS, and depression symptoms. That’s why it’s a good idea to consume foods that are rich in calcium, like lentils, dark leafy greens, canned salmon (salmon croquettes, anyone?), yogurt, cheese, and chia seeds.
2. Consume Some Bone Broth Too

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Another food that I’ve been getting into more and more often over the past several years is bone broth. It’s pretty much what it sounds like broth made from meat bones that have simmered for many hours.
Some of the benefits that come from bone broth include its ability to promote gut health, boost immunity, reduce joint stiffness, and even promote a good night’s rest. Since bone broth also helps your system to produce more collagen and collagen not only fights signs of aging but also helps to prevent tooth decay — if you’ve never tried bone broth before, now is just as good a time as any, right?
By the way, if you happen to be vegan, there are alternative recipes like mushroom bone broth that you can try. One of them is here.
3. Drink Mineral-Rich Water

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If you’re looking for the kind of water that can help lower your blood pressure, prevent heart disease, and relieve constipation, mineral water can make that happen for you. Between the natural carbonation that it oftentimes provides (because mineral water typically comes from springs) and the minerals like calcium and fluoride that are in it, I’m pretty sure you get how it can help with your overall oral health and well-being.
In fact, there are studies to support that women who drink mineral water on a fairly consistent basis end up with higher bone mass density than those who don’t. Just something to think about next time you’re at the grocery store, and you’re considering picking up some sort of bottled water. Mineral water is beneficial on a few levels.
4. Also, Drink Juice Through a Straw

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Acids and teeth enamel are not exactly the best of friends — and that’s putting it mildly. The reality is that a lot of people end up experiencing tooth decay because they underestimate what the acidic levels of soda, coffee, and even juice can do to their teeth over time. Now, no one is saying that you should only drink water for the rest of your life. However, if you do want to get a leg up on keeping your enamel nice and strong, try to drink acidic stuff through a straw as much as possible. It’s a small move that can make a big difference over time.
5. Take a Vitamin D Supplement

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Vitamin D is essential to your overall health and well-being for a few different reasons and on a few different levels. It supports your immune system. It helps to regulate your moods. Studies reveal that those who struggle with weight loss tend to have less vitamin D in their system than they should. During cold and flu season, it can reduce your chances of coming down with either one. And as you probably already know, vitamin D helps to keep your bones healthy — as well as your teeth.
To take it a step further, the dentin that helps to support your teeth’s enamel can sometimes repair itself if you’ve got enough vitamin D in your body. So, since we, as Black women, tend to have a lower amount of vitamin D in our system than other demographics, aside from being intentional about eating vitamin D-rich foods like mushrooms, eggs, and fatty fish, it can never hurt to take a vitamin D supplement on the side too.
6. Brush with “Artificial Enamel”

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As far as toothpaste goes, the kind that seems to be gaining quite a bit of traction these days has the technical name of “biomimetic hydroxyapatite.” Its nickname? Artificial enamel. From what I’ve briefly read and researched, artificial enamel is slowly yet surely becoming a favorite over fluoride because it is able to “mimic” enamel which helps with strengthening weak teeth. If you’re interested in giving this type of toothpaste a shot, a brand that appears to be pretty well-liked on Amazon is Bioniq. You can look more into it here.
7. Or DIY a Remineralizing Toothpaste

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Your teeth have minerals like calcium and phosphate in them. However, as you eat and drink throughout the day and if you don’t take care of your teeth daily, that can cause your teeth to lose minerals — and that can ultimately lead to weakened enamel and tooth decay. That’s the bad news. The good news is you can actually remineralize your teeth. No, it doesn’t happen overnight, yet it can indeed happen with the help of eating less sugar, chewing more gum (saliva carries some of the minerals that your teeth need), drinking more water (to remove acid from your teeth), brushing and flossing consistently — and using a homemade remineralizing toothpaste. Two recipes that are relatively simple to follow are found here and here.
8. Do Some Oil Pulling

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If you’re familiar with the term “oil pulling,” yet you’ve always wondered where it came from, it’s most popular in Ayurvedic medicine. Basically, what you do is put some oil in your mouth and swish it around in order to “pull out toxins” from your teeth. Although coconut is probably the most popular oil that’s used, sesame, peppermint, and extra virgin olive oil are good options, too.
Simply put a teaspoon of the oil of your choice into your mouth and swish it around for 10-20 minutes. Then rinse. Even though you’ve been using an oil, you’ll be amazed by how squeaky clean your teeth feel once you are done with the oil pulling process.
9. Apply a Mixture of Pure Aloe Vera Gel and Tea Tree Oil

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Gingivitis is basically a common and mild form of gum disease. When plaque and tartar build-up get onto the teeth and gumline, it can lead to swollen and bleeding gums, bad breath, and gums that are darker than usual. That said, even though tea tree oil isn’t pleasing to the taste buds by any stretch, research reveals that if you use tea tree oil as a main ingredient for a DIY mouthwash (don’t swallow it), it is pretty darn effective at getting rid of gingivitis.
As far as aloe vera gel goes, it might be surprising to know that studies indicate that it contains properties that actually help to prevent the bacteria that lead to tooth decay from growing. That’s why it would make all the sense in the world that if you add a drop of tea tree oil to a teaspoon of 100 percent aloe vera gel and then apply it to your gum line, it could help to heal your gums and prevent gingivitis from increasing in your mouth.
10. Snack on Some Licorice Root

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It might not be something that you hear about every day, but listen here: if you’ve got digestive issues, get yourself some licorice root. Trying to get over a bacterial or viral infection, get yourself some licorice root. Menopause driving you up the wall, yep — licorice root to the rescue. Also, look into it if you’re trying to prevent or heal an ulcer or if you want to get some of your weight down.
As far as your oral health goes, licorice root is a wonder because its potent antioxidant, antimicrobial, and anti-inflammatory properties can help to reduce acid reflux (which can also play a role in damaging tooth enamel) as well as keep cavities from forming in the first place. So, take it in supplement form, sip on some licorice root tea, and suck on some licorice root sticks. It’s just one more all-natural way to get your teeth back into superior shape and condition. Enjoy!
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This Is How To Keep 'Holiday Season Stress' From Infecting Your Relationship
Hmph. Maybe it’s just me, but it seems like there is something really weird happening in the fall season air (because winter doesn’t officially begin until December 21) that cuddle season is in full swing while break-up season is as well. In fact, did you know that break-ups are so popular during the holiday season that December 11 is deemed Break-Up Day?
The reasons why relationships shift around this time vary; however, I did both roll my eyes and chuckle when I read that a very popular one is because it’s an easy way to get out of getting one’s significant other a Christmas present. SMDH.
Anyway, I personally think that the less shallow folks out here may contemplate calling things “quits” or they at least distance themselves a bit from their partner (and what I’m referring to is serious relationships) due to all of the stress and strain that oftentimes comes with the holidays whether it be financial, familial, due to their tight schedules or something else.
Listen, I would hate for you and your man to miss the fun and happiness of experiencing this time of year, all because you are so overwhelmed or irritated that you can’t really enjoy it. That’s why I have a few practical tips for how to avoid allowing the typical holiday season stress from INFECTING your relationship.
Manage Your Expectations
GiphyUnmanaged expectations. If there is a main reason why the holiday season tends to be so stress-filled for so many people, I’d bet good money that this is the cause. And when you’re in a long-term relationship, expectations can manifest themselves in all sorts of cryptic and/or unexpected ways. You might have relatives who assume that you are going to be with them for Thanksgiving or Christmas when you have other plans in mind. You might be thinking that you are going to spend one amount for presents while your man is thinking something totally different. When it comes to scheduling, your signals may be crossed.
And you know what? To all of these scenarios, this is where clear and consistent communication come in. Don’t assume anything. Don’t dictate anything either. From now until New Year’s, mutually decide to check in once a week, just to make sure that you are both on the same page as it relates to the holidays and what you both are thinking will come along with it. The less blindsided you both feel, the less stressed out you will be. Trust me on this.
Set (and Keep) a Budget
GiphyOkay, so I read that last year, 36 percent of Americans incurred some type of holiday-related debt. Hmph. Last year, there was still some sense of normalcy in this country, chile, so I can only imagine what finances are gonna look like over the next several weeks. That said, since I don’t know a lot of people who don’t find being broke stressful, make sure that you and your bae set a budget and then stick to it this year — no ifs, ands or buts.
Because really, y’all — it doesn’t make sense to deplete savings and/or max out credit cards for a few days of giggles only to be damn near losing your mind because you don’t know how to make ends meet come Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day.
And by the way, this tip doesn’t just speak to things like food and gifts; I also mean travel. If it doesn’t make a ton of sense (or cents) to be all over the place this year — DON’T BE.
Keep Matthew 5:37 at the Forefront
GiphyIf off the top of your head, you don’t know what Matthew 5:37 says, no worries, here ya go: “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.” That verse right there? Oh, it’s a boundaries lifesaver! I say that because do you see “maybe” or “I’ll think about it” in there? Nope. LOL. It says that you should tell people “yes” or “no” and leave it at that — and that complements Anne Lamott’s quote, “’No’ is a complete sentence” impeccably well. Yeah, you’ve got to remember that anything beyond a yes or no to a request is privileged information; you don’t owe anyone details or an explanation.
Besides, if you are really honest with yourself, when someone asks you something and you give a “Umm, let me think about it” kind of reply, more times than not, you already know what your answer is going to be — so why not let you both off of the hook? Give your response. Commit to that. And let everyone (including yourself) get on with their lives and schedules.
I promise you that when it comes to those holiday parties, you are pissing more folks off by not RSVP’ing or doing so and not showing up than just saying, “Thank you but not this year” off the rip.
Remember That Your Personal Space Is Privilege Not a Right
GiphyA friend of mine recently bought a new house and invited me over to come see it. He’s a single man with no children, so as I was taking in all of the space that he had, especially as I walked through his finished basement, I joked about relatives coming to live with him. “Hell no” and “absolutely not” were pretty much his immediate responses as he went on to say that some folks even had the nerve to be offended when he told them that he had no intentions on taking DNA in.
Ain’t it wild how people think that your stuff is their right? And yes, that brings me to my next point. Your home is your sanctuary space. If you want to host folks this year — cool. If not, ALSO COOL. Please don’t let folks (family included) guilt you into how they want you to act or even into what they would do if the shoe was on the other foot. You are not them — and as one of my favorite quotes states, “If two people were exactly alike, one of them would be unnecessary.” (A man by the name Larry Dixon said that.)
Hell, my friends? They know that I am good for sending them random things that they need or even want all throughout the year. Coming over to hang out at my pace, though. Uh-uh. Chalk it up to being a card-carrying member of the ambivert club yet I like keeping my living space personal — and I sleep like a baby, each and every night, for feeling that way.
Always remember that your space, your time, your resources, your energy and shoot, yourself period (including your relationship), are all things that are your own. You get to choose how, when and why you want to share them. The holiday season is certainly no exception.
Cultivate Some “You Two Only” Traditions
GiphyIt’s not uncommon for some couples to hit me up after the holiday season to “detox.” Sometimes it’s due to the financial drama (and sometimes trauma) that they experienced. Sometimes it’s because they allowed their relatives (especially in-laws) to get more into their personal business than they should’ve. More than anything, though, it tends to be because they didn’t get enough quality time together and so ended up feeling “disconnected.”
Please don’t let that happen. Listen, I’m not even a holidays kind of woman and yet, I will absolutely sit myself down with some hot chocolate and chocolate chip cookies to enjoy a Hallmark holiday film or two. Aside from the fact that most of them are lighthearted and sweet, I also like that they usually focus on couples loving on each other amidst all of the holiday beauty and ambiance — which is something that all couples should set aside some time to do.
Maybe it’s a vacation. Maybe it’s a staycation. Or maybe it’s my personal favorite, A SEXCATION. Whether it’s for a few days, the weekend or even overnight — don’t you let the holidays go by without setting aside time for you and your man to celebrate one another. Don’t you dare (check out “Are You Ready To Have Some Very Merry 'Christmas Sex'?”).
GET. SOME. REST.
GiphyI once read that 8 out of 10 people get stressed out over the holidays and 3 out of 10 lose sleep during to it — and when you’re stress-filled and sleep-deprived, that can absolutely lead to hypersensitivity, making mountains out of molehills and even not being in the mood for sex.
Your relationship can’t afford to go through any of this, so definitely make sure to prioritize rest. I don’t care how unrealistic it might seem during this time, sleep should never be seen as a luxury; it will always and forever be a great necessity.
That said, try to get no less than six hours of shut-eye in (check out “6 Fascinating Ways Sex And Sleep Definitely Go Hand In Hand”) and even ask your bae to take a nap with you sometimes (check out “Wanna Have Some Next-Level Sex? Take A Nap, Sis.”). Not only will sleep help to restore your mind, body and spirit but, when it’s with your partner, it’s an act of intimacy that can make you both feel super connected, even in the midst of what might feel like chaos.
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Holiday season stress is real. Still, never give it the permission or power to throw your relationship off. Put you and your man first and let the holidays be what they are gonna be, chile.
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It’s probably been over the past 2-3 years that I’ve become hyper-focused when it comes to applying certain chemical exfoliants known as acids to my skin. Personally, I’ve come to really appreciate ones like mandelic acid and hyaluronic acid because they have a way of softening my skin, brightening it up and really evening out my complexion overall.
In fact, on my skin, they have been so effective that they have caused me to wonder what would happen if I applied some of them to my hair too — and boy, was it an experiment that paid off big time!
If, while on your continual journey to get the best out of your own tresses, you’d like to learn how to get them healthier than it’s ever been, I’ve got seven acids that are typically known for skin use that can be just as beneficial to your hair as well.
1. Salicylic Acid
When it comes to your skin, salicylic acid is beta-hydroxy acid that is great for your skin if you’re looking for something that will exfoliate it, clear out your pores and dissolve dead skin cells. In fact, this is why it’s an acid that is quite popular when it comes to treating acne.
Your hair will enjoy salicylic acid because, if you’re looking to remove product build-up, you want to soothe an itchy or irritated scalp or you’ve got some dandruff flakes that are totally driving you up the wall, salicylic acid has the ability to treat all of this. Either purchasing a shampoo that contains this ingredient or adding it to your favorite scalp scrub is probably the most effective way to get the most out of it.
Just make sure that if your scalp is sensitive or dry that you approach with caution. In these instances, it could end up irritating your scalp more than helping it out, so use a very little bit in the beginning to make sure that it vibes with you.
2. Lactic Acid
Lactic acid is an alpha hydroxy acid that can help to even out your skin tone as well as slow down the signs of aging. The properties in it help to do this by reducing hyperpigmentation and boosting collagen production in your skin as well as keeping it hydrated.
Why is it great for your locks? For one thing, lactic acid is considered to be a humectant. This means that it pulls water from the air so that your hair is able to remain moisturized.
Another thing that makes it a winner is the fact that lactic acid breaks down dead skin cells on your scalp (so that your hair follicles are able to flourish), it can help to soften and detangle your hair (making it a helpful addition on your wash days) and it also helps to protect your tresses from heat styling tools and UV damage. Applying a hair rinse that’s made up of part lactic acid and part water can work wonderfully (so long as you apply it once a month, tops; more than that might be too “intense” for your hair strands).
3. Glycolic Acid
Glycolic acid is a water-soluble alpha hydroxy acid that is actually made from sugar. Your skin will adore it because it smooths the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles, improves the texture of your skin, gently exfoliates, clears your pores and brightens up your complexion overall.
The reasons why you should consider this acid for your hair is because it helps to keep your scalp youthful (and yes, there is such a thing; check out “Your Scalp Ages Six Times Faster Than Your Face. Why It Matters.”), removes excess sebum (that could be clogging up your hair follicles) and it helps to keep your hair moisturized. Your best bet here is to make it a part of your pre-shampooing ritual.
4. Succinic Acid
Succinic acid is an acid that is made from sugar cane and contains antimicrobial and anti-inflammatory properties. Although it doesn’t exactly exfoliate (like many of these other acids do), it can still be beneficial to your skin when it comes to reducing the kind of irritation that is associated with eczema, decreasing the bacteria that leads to breakouts and keeping your skin pretty hydrated.
As far as your hair goes, this is an acid that is worth trying out because it helps to balance the sebum that is on your scalp, remove dead skin and product build-up that can irritate your scalp and clog your hair follicles and, succinic acid is also beneficial when it comes to reducing dandruff and helping to prevent hair loss. Most people tend to apply this as a serum.
5. Hyaluronic Acid
I’ve officially sung the praises of hyaluronic acid on this platform before. One example is via the article, “Why Your Skin, Hair, And Nails Need Hyaluronic Acid Like...Yesterday.” On the skin tip, hyaluronic acid is great because it deeply hydrates your skin, contains anti-aging properties and can even bring relief to vaginal (including vulvar) dryness.
Your hair will adore this particular acid because it aids moisture to it (including your hair follicles), will help to improve your hair’s texture and it also soothes scalp dryness, nurtures the cuticles of your tresses and decreases frizz. Using a serum rich in this acid as a pre-poo or as a leave-in conditioner is recommended.
6. Azelaic Acid
If you’ve never heard of azelaic acid before, this is your lucky day. It’s a dicarboxylic acid that, when it comes to skincare (and hair care) products, is usually synthetic. Anyway, if you are looking for a way to reduce inflammation, even skin tone after a breakout or if you want to use an exfoliant that will improve the texture of your skin overtime, you might want to give this acid a shot.
This one makes the list as far as your hair is concerned because, if achieving more inches is your current focus, azelaic acid might come in handy. That’s because it is able to strengthen your hair, thicken your strands and also stimulate hair growth from within your hair follicles.
7. Glutamic Acid
Glutamic acid is actually a type of amino acid. Skin-wise, it’s great for deeply hydrating your skin as well as protecting it from pollutants and damaging UV rays. Also, if you’re looking for an acid that treats skin dryness or “tightness,” this could be the answer to your prayers.
Since glutamic acid is also considered to be a humectant, it’s another acid that can moisturize your hair. As a result, it can decrease breakage while helping your hair to feel smooth and look shiny.
BONUS: Amino Acids
Speaking of amino acids and hair, please try to keep some amino acids in your diet at all times. The reason why is because, since your hair is made up of mostly protein (keratin, to be exact), amino acids are pretty darn effective when it comes to helping you to maintain the overall health and well-being of your hair.
Ones to prioritize include proline (it boosts collagen so that your hair strands can maintain flexibility); arginine (it increases blood flow to your hair follicles so that they can receive the nutrients that they need); cysteine (it helps to keep your hair follicles healthy); alanine (it helps your system to produce more collagen), and isoleucine (it strengthens the tissues that help to make up your hair strands). All of these are available in supplement form or you can use Google to see which foods contain them.
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Although it might initially seem odd to apply acid to your hair, as you can see, certain ones will work miracles for it. So, test them out to see which one tickles your fancy.
Hell, since they work for your skin as well — it’s a two-for-one deal that is worth every penny!
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