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What In The World Is 'Prostate Milking'? And Chile, How Do You Do It?

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Whew. OK. I'm already gonna tell y'all that some of you have men who are gonna shut this entire conversation down, the very moment that you dare to bring it up. The reason why is because, there are some guys who struggle with anything that has to do with their anal region being toyed with (even though they'll find a way to be all up in ours, if/when we let them) — and that's kind of unfortunate. The reason why I say that is because, when it comes to them experiencing an orgasm that is truly on a whole 'nother level, giving their prostate some attention is going to be required.


As a lot of us learned in anatomy class, the prostate is a walnut-sized gland that is located below your bladder and right in front of your rectum, although it should go on record that a woman's prostate is typically referred to as the Skene's glands (they're what help to lubricate your urethra, produce antimicrobial substances to prevent UTIs and secrete mucus-containing fluids to your genital region so that sexual intercourse is more pleasurable). For men, the prostate produces fluid that supports and transports sperm and semen. For both men and women, at the end of the day, the prostate is where our G-spot is housed. And you know what that means, right? #wink

Now that we've gotten the science of the prostate out of the way, let's touch on what it means to milk it, why every man should be open to trying it (at least once), and how you should go about doing it. Take a deep breath. Ready?

What Is Prostate Milking?

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Something tells me that some of you were already able to figure out what prostate milking was, just from the intro alone.

The bottom line is prostate milking is what happens when you intentionally massage a man's prostate gland until some milky fluid is produced from that particular part of his body. Back in the day (the 19th century), physicians used to do it in order to treat an inflamed prostate. These days, it's seen as a way to encourage men to have a more pleasurable sexual experience.

Something that's pretty fascinating about prostate milking is, just like men can ejaculate and not have an orgasm (it's amazing how many men and women don't seem to know this), there is actually a difference between prostate fluid and semen as well. See, when a man ejaculates, what he's releasing is a combination of sperm, prostate fluid and other fluid that helps to serve as a lubricant (it can help to neutralize your vagina's acidic levels).

On the other hand, prostate milking simply releases the fluids that are housed within his prostate. This is important to keep in mind because 1) prostate milking isn't the same as ejaculate and 2) not all men ejaculate during the prostate milking process. Truth be told, not all of them have an orgasm with the milking process either, especially when they are first trying it out; however, prostate milking certainly ups the ante of them having a really powerful one which brings me to my next point.

Why Does Every Man Need It?

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OK, so why does every man need to experience prostate milking, at least once in their life? Again, for an unbelievable orgasm! And here's why. Did you know that approximately 1 in 4 men fake orgasms? Did you also know that only 10 percent of men in their 20s and seven percent of men in their 30s and over never experience multiple orgasms? So yes, while men do typically orgasm more than we do, that doesn't mean that they couldn't stand to have more and better ones and possibly even a few multiples along the way.

Prostate milking helps to make that possible.

Prostate Milking: How Do You Actually Do It?

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So, what if you're super curious about prostate milking and you're somehow actually able to convince your partner to give it a shot? How do you go about doing it? Good question.

First, take a shower together. Oftentimes, knowing that there won't be any, well, surprises down there can ease the stress/tension/overthinking for both you and your partner. It can also make you both more relaxed and put you into a sensual mood.

Create the right ambiance. If this is your partner's first time, they're not going to want to feel like they are experiencing a routine prostate exam. Dim the lights. Play some nice music. Light a scented soy candle. Toss back a couple of drinks. Even have some light conversation to get their mind off of things. Because there continues to be such a stigma with anal pleasure when it comes to straight men, you need to help him to loosen up.

Have some lube nearby. Lube makes things wetter and easier which always makes things better in the long run — for all parties involved.

Encourage him to get into a position that he's comfortable in. For a lot of men, this is while they are on their side with a pillow in between their legs. Being on their back with their legs propped up can sometimes cause them to feel incredibly self-conscious. Either way, encourage him to do whatever feels the least uncomfortable.

Prepare for light insertion. With lube generously applied to his anal area and your finger (watch those nails), gently caress his anus. As his sphincter begins to relax, try inserting the tip of your finger. Then make it go into small circles, slightly pulling back and then re-entering, only as your partner becomes more comfortable with you doing so.

Pay attention to when you've hit your "mark". And just how will you know when you've gone deep enough? His prostate should be no more than 2-3" inside of his anus. One way to get his mind off of the fact that you are going further in is to either manually stimulate his penis or to get him into a position where you can massage his prostate and perform fellatio at the same time.

Once you feel "the walnut", stop stimulating his penis and become more intentional about massaging his prostate. One of the most effective ways to do it is by signaling "come here" with your index finger, again, ever so gently. If you continue to do this while kissing or dirty talking, it can send waves throughout him that will culminate in a very intense orgasm — sometimes multiple ones — and quite a bit of prostate fluid and, at the end, ejaculate.

Some say that it can be double the amount of ejaculate that a man normally has, so definitely be prepared for that. He might pull a Marcus (from Boomerang when he got turned out by Jacqueline), so definitely be prepared for that too. #doublewink

So, there you have it. Like I said in the beginning, it's kind of an acquired taste yet it would be a shame of your partner missed out on some really excellent sexual stimulation simply because prostate milking was never introduced into the conversation. So, why not bring it up? The worst he can say is "no". Oh, but if he's down…it could be somewhat life changing. And how dope is that?

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