

Sonya Curry On Losing Her Identity & Finding New Purpose In Life
Sonya Curry has been in the headlines as of late after it was announced that she and Dell Curry were getting a divorce after 33 years of marriage. They share three kids together, Stephen Curry, Seth Curry, and Sydel Curry. While their divorce has been plagued with cheating rumors, Sonya is choosing to focus on herself and her new endeavors.
At 55 years old, she is finally stepping out of the shadows of her estranged husband who also played in the NBA, and her famous children to show the world who Sonya really is. The educator was interviewed on the Jemele Hill is Unbothered podcast about her memoir Fierce Love and she opened up about her spirituality and experiencing an identity crisis. Being a young mom and an NBA wife, she went through a period where she felt like she was losing herself and turned to worldly things.
“One day at church I was just sitting there–the pastor just seemed like he’s talking to you,” she said. “There could be 10,000 people in the room and he’s like you. And he talked about if you’re tired of doing the same ole same ole, just give Jesus a try.” She continued, “And I just got up, went to the front and it was just like I can’t do this. I don’t want this anymore so Lord I’ma try you. You’ve said all that you are, let’s see. I’ma go for it.”
She also spoke about going through a depression after Sydel, her youngest child had graduated from school. During that time, Sonya had also retired from the education field. In 1995, she co-founded the Christian Montessori School of Lake Norman in North Carolina with her ex.
“There was a period where I had retired from my school, Sydel had transitioned, graduated and it was just like oh, Lord, now what?” She said. Sonya explained that she didn’t realize that she was depressed and didn’t believe her doctor at first when he suggested it. “They say there are seven things in your life you go through that are really, really tough and life-altering and one of them is retirement.”
She felt like she no longer had a purpose after teaching and raising kids for so long. Everything had come to an end and there was nothing else to look forward to doing next. “I was in my 40s then and a little bit of that mid-life crisis coming in and no more children in the house, Dell and I figuring out this thing as well of just the silence in the house,” she said. “We had grandbabies coming but they got their own stuff with that. It was just Sonya, what’s gonna be your next purpose and mission and project? It was an end of something versus the beginning of something.”
When it comes to her new book, she said that her children are very supportive of her venture. She credited Sydel especially for encouraging her to keep going.
Sonya Curry on Battling a Level of Depression and Writing her Memoir "Fierce Love"
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This $15 Handheld Fan From Amazon Will Be Your New BFF For The Rest Of Summer
As someone who has spent the larger part of her life in the South, I have never felt heat and humidity quite like New Orleans, Louisiana.
Last year, I visited ESSENCE Fest for the first time, and with little context as to what the weekend of events would entail, one thing I did know — for a fact — was that I would be sweating from head to toe. While prepping for the trip, I was advised by a festival expert that if I was going to make it through Bourbon St. and beyond, one item I needed by my side was a compact, handheld fan to serve as my personal central air, on hand. And with two summers down, it’s been my greatest cooling companion ever since.
The JISULIFE Handheld Fan has guaranteed my personal cooling experience, and I can’t help but stan this fan.
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The device boasts an impressive amount of endurance, delivering a remarkable 46 hours of battery life at speed one, 35 hours at speed two, and 13 hours at speed three, and might I add that’s all on a mere 3-4 hours of full charging. It provides micro wind power that’s sure to make this fan your ultimate BFF in the battle against heat.
Not only is this fan adorable in its design, but it’s also compact enough to fit in your clutches and pocketbooks that meet bag size restrictions at concerts or for when you want to drop it in your bag or pocket while making moves this summer.
It’s whisper-quiet, and as if its design wasn't already impressive, it comes with a built-in flashlight, that activates with a simple long press of the power button when the fan is stationary. I wasn’t kidding when I said it truly has it all.
I’ve personally found my JISULIFE Handheld Fan to have the extra perk of being a conversation starter when I’m out running errands through the city or keeping the sweat at bay while at a summer night function.
I recently attended a party that attracted a noticeably large crowd and an even more notable layer of heat in the midst of all the dancing. Being quick on my feet, I remembered that I had packed my handheld fan along with me and pulled it out to come to my rescue. When my little pink propellers started twirling in the dim club, I soon began to get requests from suitors looking to bask in my personal cooling experience.
I obliged some for a moment and politely declined the request to share with others, but in both cases, it was fun to see my little cooling BFF work overtime as my ventilation system and party trick for the night.
Now, I’m not forcing you to open your purse and add another item to your Amazon wishlist, but if by chance you had the time and coin to spare, I can assure you it would be $15 well spent. So if you’re looking to upgrade your self-comfort and keep that good air flowing while you’re out and about, I highly recommend grabbing this fan for the rest of this summer and the next.
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