Lizzo Says Money Doesn't Buy Happiness: "You Have To Do The Inner Work"
I don't know who needs to hear this, but money can't buy you happiness like it can help you pay bills. And while your quality of life can increase by the extra dollars or the M's that line your bank account, it is not the end all be all when it comes to your overall well-being, especially your mental and emotional health. A celebrity who recently took us to church with that truth is the reigning twerk queen herself, Lizzo.
The singer/rapper has lit up the scene since her breakout hit "Truth Hurts". Lizzo has reaped the rewards of seeds sown through years of hard work and racked up her fair share of accolades all the while showing the world the power of showing up as your most authentic self. Her latest revelation to the public is no different. Lizzo took to TikTok to share that fame and money is cool, but it doesn't replace the need to do the inner work, especially in the pursuit of happiness.
"You can be the coolest, most richest person ever and it doesn't buy you fucking happiness. Money doesn't buy you happiness. Fame only puts a magnifying glass on the shit that you already have. And if that shit is fucked up, you're just going to have even more magnified fucked up shit in situations where it doesn't even seem valid or like you're even supposed to feel that way so it fucks you up even more because you feel so unfucking grateful."
Misery doesn't discriminate, and it damn sure doesn't care if you have wealth or fame to your name. When it comes to happiness, a lot of us love to erroneously believe that the cause of it are things outside of us. In reality, our unhappiness has little do with money and everything to do with our lack of putting in the necessary work to cultivate happiness within ourselves for ourselves.
Self-help might be the wave, but a part of shedding old skin is also healing what's within. Quitting that job you hate, leaving that circle of friends that drain you, establishing boundaries with toxic family members, scheduling a d*ck appointment, or moving to a new city to start a new life won't do anything for you if you haven't addressed the real problem in your life. Nine times out of ten, it's the one person you can never get away from: you.
"Anyone who has like internal issues or has any type of self-problems that they need to work out, work [it] out now because money, fame or success, or even getting older doesn't really fix that shit. You need to just do it. Do the inner work. Do the inner work because no matter where you are, it's always going to haunt you like a fucking ghost.
"And I'm working on it too, but today is just not a good day. I just want everybody to know that it's OK not to have a good day even when it seems like you should."
While the self-love advocate can typically be heard asking us to 'scuse her while she feels herself (gratuitous butt pics on her Instagram included), she also serves as a reminder that sometimes you aren't feeling yourself and that's OK.
Happiness is a journey after all, not a destination.
Featured image by Instagram/Lizzobeeating
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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Rihanna Talks Shedding Expectations And Finding Balance As A Mother
Since becoming a mother in 2022, Rihanna has defined parenthood by her terms and hopes to pass that sense of autonomy on to her children.
For Vogue China’s April cover story, Rihanna shared her perspective on raising her two sons with A$AP Rocky, and how she hopes to preserve her children’s uniqueness, devoid of societal expectations.
"The most beautiful thing...is that [children] come into the world with their own individuality and sincerity, without any logic or conformity,” she told the publication. “Which usually makes you feel that you must fit into a certain group."
The “Work” artist, known for her trendsetting style and captivating persona, expressed her desire to support children in fully embracing their individuality and encouraging them to be whoever they want to be. "It's really beautiful to see and I want to continue to help them navigate that and make sure that they know they can be whoever they want to be,” she says.
She continues, “They should embrace it completely, because it's beautiful, and it's unique. I love them just that way."
From shattering music charts to shaking up the beauty industry, Rihanna has forged a path that has since created the “dream” life we see today. One that she says has made her parents proud of.
“I’m living my dream,” she continued. “My parents were very proud of that because they just wanted me to be happy and successful. So, I think the key thing is to find some kind of balance. Yes, balance is important. Do this and you get the best of both worlds. You can write your own life the way you want, and it will be beautiful. Sometimes, you just need to let go of everyone’s expectations and start living your own story.”
Rihanna, who shares sons, RZA, 23 months, and Riot, 8 months, with rapper A$AP Rocky, recently shared her vision for expanding her family in the future in Interview Magazine.
When stylist Mel Ottenberg asked about the number of additional children she hoped to have, Rihanna replied, "As many as God wants me to have.”
"I don't know what God wants, but I would go for more than two. I would try for my girl,” she adds. “But of course, if it's another boy, it's another boy."
Featured image by Neil MockfordWireImage
