Kenya Moore Reveals She Went On Her Anniversary Trip Alone
In September, Kenya and Marc Daly announced their separation after two years of marriage, but on a recent episode of The Real Housewives of Atlanta, Kenya revealed to her co-star, Kandi Burruss, that her and Marc's marital problems date back to shortly after their wedding.
Although the couple appeared to be happily married in an intimate ceremony in St. Lucia, the reality star revealed that she spent her honeymoon without her husband after an argument about whether or not to bring their nanny on the trip. Kenya explained that her desire for intimacy and alone time are nearly two years in the making, alleging that Marc wasn't too fond of her growing baby bump, and she eventually began to wonder if the dry spell in their marriage would ever end.
"That was heartbreaking to me. He is in love with Brooklyn, there's no doubt about that. As much as I want that, being a mom and seeing my husband bond with the baby, I'm left on the sideline a lot of the time. When are we going to be intimate? When are we going to have time for ourselves?"
Kenya went on to explain that although many of their arguments tend to be petty, they signify a deeper problem that exists within their dynamic:
"He'll admit, 'I am a fighter. I like to fight.' But there are issues, underlying issues in our marriage that we are not dealing with. It's like, you're fighting about the glass on the table but that's not what you're fighting about. You're fighting about the glass on the table, and you're just not talking about it. And I feel like a lot of that is going on."
While Kenya considered herself to be non-confrontational when it comes to relationships, she feels that her husband favors a different approach, making it even harder to find common ground.
"I just feel a lot of times stuck, 'cause I don't want a conversation to elevate to a full-blown argument because he doesn't compromise. I'm not a fighter [in relationships], I want peace. I like to resolve issues. I don't want to be fighting with my husband like this. I want to be like we were."
Although there are characteristics about her estranged spouse that Kenya is still in love with, she broke down in tears when describing how tumultuous her marriage has come.
"When he's upset, it's like he's no holds barred. He can be funny and smart and helpful and supportive but then when he gets mad, it's like an alter-ego comes in from the depths of hell."
Despite her current marital issues, Kenya told People that she "didn't get married to quit" and is still very much in love with the father of her one-year-old daughter, Brooklyn:
"I love my husband. I don't doubt that he loves me. Let me be clear, I took my vows seriously. I believe in for better and for worse and I believe in trying it all before you walk away, especially when we do have a child and we are a family."
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Another season of Love Is Blind has come to a close, and almost two months later we’re still unpacking the drama that is Clay and AD. The finale, reunion, and post-interviews with Clay and AD after season six of Love Is Blind left millions of people wondering - why couldn’t AD see the signs? Clay told her he had a fear of marriage, his parents experienced infidelity, and he seemed to have many doubts about saying, "I do."
After changing his mind at the altar and hearing AD question why she feels like she’s never enough, I was finished watching. I didn’t need to hear anything else because, at that moment, I realized this wasn’t about Clay; this was about AD feeling inadequate before she ever met Clay.
If I’m honest, I don’t watch much dating television. TikTok keeps me updated with the clips that I need to see in order to be kept in the loop, but it’s difficult for me to watch an entire season of dating TV because seeing Black women settle for less and questioning their beauty is a trigger for me. In many ways, there were points in my life where I was AD, settling and ignoring red flags because I wanted to be loved.
Now, on the other side, it doesn’t feel good to see Black women lower their standards on national television. There have been many hot takes on this couple and who was in the wrong. Did Clay play in AD’s face or did she not listen to the truth of what he told her from day one? Was his reason for joining the show to promote his business and not to find the one?
We’ll never know the truth, but what we can do is learn tactics to better our self-worth. Founder and CEO of The Self Love Organization Denise Francis shared her expertise with xoNecole on what tangible steps to take to improve feelings of worthiness. “Self-love blooms in a garden where self-worth is planted, nourished, and whole. However, when your self-worth is challenged, displaced, or broken, it could be difficult to rebuild," Denise explains.
How To Rebuild Self-Worth
During her self-love coaching sessions, Denise likes to walk her clients through the cornerstones of rebuilding self-worth: grace and self-compassion. To her, self-worth is never lost, it's only displaced, so practicing self-compassion and giving yourself grace is a must. "We tend to place our self-worth in entities and people of ourselves such as relationship status, physical appearance, material possessions, social media followings, what others think of us, and more. Self-worth is not something to be measured by anyone or anything outside of ourselves because we all innately hold value and worth.
"Self-worth is not something to be measured by anyone or anything outside of ourselves because we all innately hold value and worth."
"When we place our value into people or things, we tend to feel that we are not enough, worth it, special, or important when relationship status, job titles, friendships, and physical appearances are lost or changed. We then tend to feel lost within ourselves because we’ve placed our value outside of ourselves. Using grace and compassion, you can rebuild your self-worth by returning home to who you are at your core," she concludes.
How To Return Home To Yourself
Denise advises taking a step back and using self-reflection through journaling by answering the following journaling prompts:
First, ask yourself, "What do you tend to attach your self-worth to and why?"
Is it your relationships, your job title, your finances, your appearance, etc.? Why do you think you place so much emphasis on external status? How does it make you feel when you are defining yourself through these entities and/or people outside of yourself?
Then, ask yourself, "Without these things, who am I?"
Once you have your answers, show yourself kindness, remove the shame, and, as Denise says, "Redefine yourself by detaching your value from the things and people you have no control over and no longer serve you. Challenge yourself to define yourself outside of titles and societal values."
"By returning home to your core, you find value in who you are as a person. You begin to find value in the way you love instead of your relationship status, your compassion instead of your popularity, your drive instead of your income/job title, and your heart instead of your physical appearance," she adds.
"By returning home to your core, you find value in who you are as a person."
"Be intentional with healing your self-worth by leaning into the people and things that nourish your core values. Surround yourself with the people who love and cherish you, they will always remind you just how valuable you truly are."
It all goes back to self-compassion and grace. As Denise explains, leading with those two things as you heal and rebuild your self-worth allows you to reduce negative self-talk that might come up for you. "This weakens thoughts like, 'I am not enough... why am I never enough?'" she shares, "And 'I don't deserve this while strengthening thoughts like 'I deserve better,' 'I am enough,' and 'I am worth it.'"
Denise continues, "Once you return home and remember the irreplaceable person you are, you can rebuild your self-worth by placing it back where it belongs. It belongs to you."
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