It seems like every time we scroll down our Instagram feeds, we are bombarded by pictures of melanated goddesses living their best lives abroad. London. Cuba. Dubai. Black girls are going everywhere – but what about for graduate school?
According to the National Center for Education, black women are graduating from college at an all time high and are America's most educated group. Of black students alone, black women have earned 66% of bachelor's degrees, 71% of master's degrees, and 65% of all doctorate degrees. So, I think it's safe to say that black women are killing it.
Early last fall, I made the decision to jump off the college to 9-to-5 assembly line and apply to various Master's degree programs in London, England. What started off as a fun and semi-sarcastic conversation-starter when people would ask the infamous, "What are you doing after graduation" question ultimately evolved into my true preferred course of action for this next chapter in my life. When I interned at the White House under the Obama administration, I interacted with a number of senior officials who had international degrees, but they were rarely women of color. We have the ambition, we have the travel bug, and clearly we have the educational prowess. So if they can do it, why can't I?
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Despite the shortage of women of color mentors to guide me on this journey, I was pleased to find a number of resources to guide me along my quest for a degree abroad. And, I would like to share them with you! Here are 4 quick tips to consider when taking your talents global.
1. Understand What Experience You Are Looking For
Are you willing to learn a new language? Are you particular about the prestigiousness of a certain graduate program? Are you here for a good time, not a long time? These are all factors that you will need to take into consideration as you first begin to research international degree programs. The world is a big place, and as expected, there are a lot of program options.
I narrowed down my choices by prestige, language, duration, and international access. Specifically, I limited my research to leading one-year international relations and public policy programs in the U.K. that were located nearby to airports and train stations, so I can easily travel to other destinations in Europe. Europe can just as easily be Asia, South America, or Africa and financial aid packages, networking opportunities, and name recognition vary by school, so start with a big framework and tailor down your schools from there.
2. Make A Timeline
After you have an idea of which school profiles you are interested in, I highly recommend making a comprehensive timeline, which outlines all of your application deadlines, funding deadlines, school login information, program requirements, etc. This is definitely the least glamorous part of the application process, but organization and proactivity are key. Life doesn't stop because you're applying to grad school, so do yourself a favor and make everything as easy to navigate as possible.
3. Be Proactive In Your Applications
In line with making a solid timeline, there are a number of mini-deadlines like external scholarship deadlines and visa applications that can pop up within the overall deadline. Most programs require academic and/or professional recommendation letters and there is nothing worse than having everything ready to go, but you cannot submit your application until your recommender submits their component. That being said, start early. Give yourself time to write several drafts of your personal statement and program-specific essays (if applicable) and reach out to at least double the number of required recommenders. This is especially true for post-grad applicants whose preferred professors may have left the school or are on sabbatical. Many schools have rolling deadlines, but a 3-4 month cushion to get everything in order gives you the opportunity to put your best foot forward.
4. Look Into Different Funding Streams
But actually, look into different funding streams. For many students, myself very much included, I was not born with a silver spoon in my mouth and the first question my dad asked me after receiving my acceptance was, "So, who's paying for this?" Depending on your desired program and academic track record, there are a number of prestigious programs that fully fund international graduate degree programs in select countries like the Fulbright Program, Rhodes Scholarship, Marshall Scholarship, and Schwarzman Scholars. These programs aside, tuition fees at foreign universities are often much lower than their U.S. counterparts.
For an example, graduate tuition fees at École Polytechnique (ParisTech) are €15000 per year around $19,000 USD whereas similar degrees from California Institute of Technology (Caltech) are $48,000 per year. Furthermore, some institutions offer specific merit-based scholarships on a rolling basis or are even virtually free for U.S. students (excluding relocation, housing, and visa fees). So again, be proactive and do your research!
There's a whole world waiting for you if you decide to take a chance and pave your own path. Bon voyage!
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My problem is I will oftentimes go “overboard” with my daytime zzz’s. What I mean by that is, in order to get the most out of a nap, they say thatyou shouldn’t sleep for longer than 25 minutes or so; otherwise, you could wake up feeling sluggish (I don’t but…). Also, it can make resting, soundly, at night a bit of a struggle.
So, what are you saying, Shellie? We should get quickies in? Yeah. And it’s funny that the word “quickie” would come up because just like a sex quickie can do wonders for you (and it can — check out “12 Super Solid Reasons To Have A Quickie Every Single Day”), it’s a full-circle moment when I say that something that can improve the quality of your sex life is to have a power nap (a nap that lasts between 10-30 minutes).
Wanna know how the two things correlate? Honestly, it’s no secret that sleep and sex work together to optimize both (check out “6 Fascinating Ways Sex And Sleep Definitely Go Hand In Hand”). Today, though, we’re going to tap into how a nap, specifically, can have you partaking in some of the best sex that you’ve experienced in a minute. I’ll explain.
Naps Reduce Stress
GiphyIf you’re feeling super stressed out right now, you are not alone. There is plenty of data out here that says that most of us are stressed for at least a couple of reasons at a time — and that can impact your sexual health on a few levels. For one thing, it can bring about feelings of depression and/or anxiety. Stress can also throw your hormone levels off (including your cycle) which can weaken your libido. Stress can make you want to put distance between you and your partner (yes, literally).
Stress can also make it challenging to get aroused or to have an orgasm. And just what can help to decrease stress? Taking a nap. Since sleep has a way of helping you to “get off of the clock” and relax a bit, that can lower your stress levels and “reset” your body so that you are calmer — and that, in turn, can do wonders for your sex drive and ultimately your sex life.
Naps Improve Your Mood
GiphyThere is one person in my life, and fairly 80 percent of the time, she’s in a super good mood. Oh, but let that girl go without sleep, and…who is this woman? LOL. There’s research behind why this happens. When a person is sleep-deprived, it messes with their brain chemicals, and that can amplify emotions like anger, restlessness and sadness. In fact, one study revealed that people who had their sleep disrupted throughout the night, they ended up having their positive outlook on life reduced by about 30 percent.
And geeze, who wants to have sex when they’re not feeling very good? Anyway, since serotonin is a neurotransmitter that helps to regulate your moods, your sleep patterns, and your libido and sleep is what helps to keep it in balance — by taking a nap, not only can it help you to feel better, it can also increase your desire for sex (it can also build up your endurance which is also…sexually beneficial).
Naps Increase Your Focus and Concentration
GiphySomething that some of my clients bring up is how, when it comes to having sex, sometimes the flesh is willing while the spirit is weak because, although the desire for intimacy is there, so much is going on that they aren’t able to get still enough to focus on experiencing copulation with their partner. This also tracks because, when you don’t have enough rest, your brain finds itself not working in harmony and that can make it hard to do everything from approaching life with a sense of flexibility to making necessary decisions.
Certain data also reveal that a lack of rest can cause you to have a really poor attention span and not process things in context (the more you know). So, if you really want to get some yet it’s hard for you to focus long enough to make it happen, ask your bae to lie down with you and take a nap. Between the sleep and the snuggling (check out “Fall's Coming: 8 Wonderful Health Benefits Of Cuddling”) — you may wake up with your mind and body totally on the same page. #wink
Naps Can Make You Feel Better About Your Body
GiphyEven if, overall, you feel really good about your body, I think that we all have moments when we feel less attractive than others — and who wants to have sex when they don’t really feel…very sexy? Well, something else that sleep, in general, can do is increase your confidence in your body.
For one thing, if you want to lose a few pounds, sleep can actually make that happen by helping your body metabolize the glucose (sugar) that’s in it so that you can better manage your appetite. Other studies go on to share that since sleep deprivation can impact one’s mental health and emotional stability in a negative way, of course, getting enough rest would increase body positivity.
Shoot, science even goes so far as to say that insomnia can cause people to have an elevated level of dissatisfaction when it comes to their body image. Don’t take their word for it, though. Look in the mirror before a nap. Then look in a mirror after waking up from me. Do you feel better? I’d be surprised if you don’t.
Makes Your Brain Bigger…Which Could Make Your Orgasms Better
GiphyI saved the best for last by design. Now if you’re wondering how in the world a nap can improve (and possibly increase) your orgasms — oh, there is a method to the madness…trust. For starters, the saying that your biggest sex organ is your brain? That isn’t a myth. Long story less long, the brain is what houses your central nervous system and that is what controls how men and women sexually function (yes, literally).
And since the brain also releases feel-good chemicals like dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin during sex and brain activity significantly increases in women during sexual activity (especially right before she orgasms) — well, would it trip you out to know that when you take a nap, your brain actually expands? A bigger brain (that’s healthy) can potentially intensify your sexual experiences (and your climaxes) — and who doesn’t want that to go down?
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Like I said earlier, I never have to be convinced to get a nap in. However, if your sex life has been a bit stagnant lately, you’ve been feeling a little sluggish and you’re not sure what to do — I’m hoping that a nap can get you right.
There’s enough science to prove that it can. All you need to do is give it a shot.
Now where’s your pillow and sleep mask, chile?
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