First and foremost, thank you for staying home to help flatten the curve. We are living in unprecedented times with the weight of the pandemic weighing heavily on every person in the world. Despite this momentous occurrence, life is still happening. Nails are lifting, wigs are shifting and hair is growing everywhere.
How you choose to groom or not to groom during self-isolation is between you and Jesus. But we know that many women relish in keeping a body free of unwanted hair, so it's our job to help you get it done. We checked in with wax guru and owner of Pretty Girls Get Waxed, Kejuana Curry, for some tips and tricks for grooming at home since all salons have closed due to COVID-19.
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Kejuana founded Pretty Girls Get Waxed when she felt there wasn't a trendy, professional and fun, full body waxing center in Memphis, TN. "We provide quality hair removal without the pain and hassle, featuring our very own Signature Hard Wax created by our founder. Our wax centers employee the best licensed professionals to not only deliver superb service but to educate our clients on proper skincare."
With that in mind, please be careful and safe because we ain't got time for burns, scars or injuries. The wax guru is sharing some hot tips ahead!
To Wax, Shave or Use Depillatory Cream - That Is The Question
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"If you have the guts to wax yourself and you're in need of a wax warmer, you can use a crock pot to heat your wax. If you don't have a crock pot, you can also use an essential oil plug in. (Recommended: Pretty Girls Get Waxed's Signature Hard Wax, for professional and non-professional use)
"If you want to shave, I highly recommend that you don't. Shaving is the worst way to remove hair from your body. Shaving can easily cause irritation, ingrown hairs, discoloration, and changes the texture of your hair to a more coarser state. Regrowth happens quickly, and because hair is cut off at the surface, regrown hair is blunt, not tapered, so hair will be thicker. Before you shave, I highly suggest you 'trim' with scissors ONLY!
"If you just have to use a depilatory cream (which I do not recommend) you'll be much better off stoping by Target and purchasing some hair removal wax strips like Flamingo Wax Strips. Again, this form of hair removal is much better than any other. Depilatory creams are heavily compacted with chemicals that can irritate the skin and burn the skin as well. Because they don't completely removal the hair from the root, you run the risk of ingrown hairs as well. Over time, the creams seep into your pores and cause inflammation and boils.
"'Quarantine Clean' isn't so bad if you know what to do. As an esthetician, I would never recommend anyone to use shaving or depilatory creams. They simply are not good for the health of your skin."
How To Wax At-Home
"If you're bold enough to wax yourself, there's a great easy-to-use hard wax on the market that is beginner-friendly. You can purchase a 2lb bag of wax and all the supplies you need to complete the task at prettygirlsgetwaxed.com. Waxing is going to be the healthiest form of hair removal. It removes the hair from the root so it grows back much slower. Because it is being pulled from the root, it thins the hair so when it does grow back in, it's finer and thinner.
"DIY waxing can be easy and very beneficial! Some great exfoliants are sugar, salt, coffee and baking soda. Mix it with your cleanser or water and apply the paste to your skin, rub it in and then rinse!"
Self-Grooming Hacks
Pretty Girls Get Waxed
"The most important thing to keep in mind when grooming yourself is yourself. Always do as much or as little as YOU feel comfortable with. Some people prefer having hair on them and that's OK. Groom yourself to your liking."
Brows
"One tip for grooming your brows is to brush the hairs up instead of brushing them horizontally. You get a better shape when you brush upward."
Bikini Line
"One tip for grooming your bikini line is more, more, more. Less is NOT more! More is best. Put on your underwear and gather them at the top, then remove all the hair that you can see. You always want to take off more just in case some [hair] tries to peak through!"
Legs
"One tip for grooming your legs is always do it! Silky smooth legs are always in! Wax your entire legs consistently and watch less and less hair grow each time!"
For more tips from Kei The Wax Guru, follow her on Instagram.
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Joce Blake is a womanist who loves fashion, Beyonce and Hot Cheetos. The sophistiratchet enthusiast is based in Brooklyn, NY but has southern belle roots as she was born and raised in Memphis, TN. Keep up with her on Instagram @joce_blake and on Twitter @SaraJessicaBee.
Exclusive: Melanie Fiona On Making High-Vibrational Music & Saying Yes To Partnership
Melanie Fiona is back! After taking a little more than a decade-long hiatus, she has officially made her return to music and blessed us with two singles, “Say Yes” and “I Choose You.” While both singles are very different from each other, they both reflect who she is today and the type of music she wants to make. In our conversation, the mom of two expressed what she learned during her time away.
“It's interesting, even when I said it is like coming back, I don't ever feel like I really left because I was always still performing. I've still been public. It's not like I went into being this recluse person or version of myself, but the thing that I really learned in this process is that I think things take time,” Melanie says in a xoNecole exclusive.
“I think often we're so caught up in it, being on the timing of demand or popularity, or, like, striking while the iron is hot and the thing that I've learned is that everything is on God's time. That's it. Every time I thought I would have been ready, or, like, things were taking too long, I had to reship some things, personally, professionally, in my life. I also gave myself permission to make a living, not just make a living, but make a life for myself.”
Making a life for herself included getting married to Grammy-nominated songwriter Jared Cotter, starting a family, and embracing new landscapes, such as podcasting as a co-host of The Mama’s Den podcast. She also began doing more spiritual work and self-care practices like meditation, sound healing, Reiki, acupuncture, and boundary setting, which allowed her to get in touch with her inner voice.
“I wasn't putting out music, and I wasn't experiencing a number one record, but I was being a number one mom,” she says.
“I was experiencing things that were allowing me to heal and get in touch with myself so that I could make new music from a space of joy and freedom, and excitement again because I definitely feel like I did lose some excitement because of just politics and industry and what it can do to your mental health and even your physical health. So giving myself the space to really just say, ‘Hey, it's okay. Everything's right on time.’”
The joy and excitement are felt in one of two new singles, “I Choose You,” which is more of a lovers rock vibe, a tribute to Melanie’s Caribbean roots. While the Grammy award-winner is known for ballads like “It Kills Me” and “Fool For You,” she is becoming more intentional about the music she makes, calling it high-vibrational music. She says her music is a “reflection of my life,” as it captures every facet, from hanging out with friends to riding around in her car.
“Say Yes” has the classic R&B vibe Melanie is known for. However, both songs are inspired by her relationship. Melanie and Jared got married in December 2020, and the Toronto-bred artist dished on their relationship. Fun fact: he is featured in the “Say Yes” music video.
“When we first started dating, I had come into that relationship post a lot of self-work. I had gotten out of a long-term relationship, I had a year and a half to date and be by myself and do a lot of work on myself alone. And when we met, I remember feeling like this has to be my person because I feel it,” she says.
“And so when we went into that relationship, and we started dating, I was very clear. I was like, I know what I want. I'm very clear on what I need, and I'm not going to withhold my truth about myself in this process because of pride or fear of rejection. I know you love me, but I'm coming with my heart in my hand to let you know that if we're gonna get there, we have to put fear aside and say yes. So that was kind of like my open letter to him, which is why the video is us having a conversation.”
Melanie also shares that saying yes to her partner has empowered her in many ways, including motherhood and showing up for herself. Her new EP, also titled Say Yes, will be available at the top of 2025.
Check out the full interview below.
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Entertaining Like Ayesha Curry: Expert Advice For Holidays Done Right
Be prepared to wow the crowd.
It’s officially the holiday season, which means parties and gatherings galore. Between Friendsgiving, Christmas, and New Year's Eve celebrations, many of us are preparing to host loved ones in our homes one or two times between now and the end of the year. No matter the occasion or season, hosting for family and friends is a labor of love. But we can also agree that entertaining can be overwhelming, especially for first-time hosts.
As a seasoned host and entertainer, Ayesha Curry knows something about creating a memorable event for loved ones. Whether preparing for an intimate dinner with your immediate family or hosting a larger crowd, your guests will think you are a pro this holiday season with her tips on everything from welcoming guests to setting a beautiful table.
Q: What is your top tip for hosting?
Ayesha Curry:Part of being a great host is spending time with your guests, which means you can’t be stuck in the kitchen. Prep is key! I usually serve wine with the meal, but a cocktail or mocktail is a great way to greet guests. I prep the garnish the night before and batch the drink just before guests arrive. When the party begins, I pull everything out of the fridge and am ready to serve.
Writer Note: If you would like to offer non-alcoholic beverages for your sober or sober-curious guests, I love Saint Viviana Cab. It maintains full-body cabernet and flavor; no one will ever guess it’s alcohol-free. You can easily create a signature mocktail using Bittermilk’s Smoked Honey Whiskey Sour mix.
Q: Do you suggest any prep for serving or cooking?
AC:I lay out all my serving dishes and utensils the night before with little post-it notes saying what goes where. That way, I’m not digging around for anything. For more elaborate menus, I lay out quarter sheet pans and label them with tape according to the dish. I prep and measure everything for each recipe and then load each sheet pan with everything needed to make the dish. I wrap each tray in saran or foil, stack them, and place them in the fridge. Pull out the sheet pan you need when cooking, and everything is ready. It’s something I learned at the restaurant that saves so much time.
Q: What’s one item that should always be on a dinner party menu?
AC: Bread or roll with butter is excellent for holding guests over if the kitchen is delayed.
Q: What’s one non-menu item you should always have on hand?
AC: For a non-menu item, wine!
Q: How do you decide on a theme or menu for a gathering?
AC: It all starts with the occasion and the guest list. If it’s a group that doesn’t know each other very well, I may get more elaborate with the theme to help break the ice. For a group of friends or family who don’t get to see each other very often, I usually keep it simple so the evening can be all about catching up. A great playlist, good wine, and a family-style menu are all you need.
Q: Should attendees be expected to bring a gift?
AC: If I’m hosting, I’m not expecting gifts. The gift is taking time to come over and enjoy a meal with me! But bringing something to enjoy at the gathering, like a bottle of wine, is always appreciated.
Q: What are three affordable gifts that guests can give a host?
AC:A bag of excellent coffee is a beautiful gift for a host. Sweet July’s House Blend Coffee is sourced from all-female co-ops, so it’s a gift I love to give to the women in my life. Whether it’s being served after dinner or just for the host to enjoy on their own, you can’t go wrong with a bag of high-end coffee.
Fresh flowers are great if you have a host who likes total control over the food and beverage menu. Go for something neutral in color that can work with any décor.
The Sweet July Olive Oil and Balsamic Vinegar set is my go-to host gift. Bottled in Napa, it’s a gift any foodie will appreciate - and use!
Q: What are some creative tablescape or decor ideas that you love?
AC: I like to keep my dinnerware neutral and classic (like this ceramic collection in nutmeg) and infuse color and texture through linens. For centerpieces, I want to use what I have in my yard. If it’s summer, it might be flowers or greenery, but interesting branches can also look architectural in tall, clear vases next to tapered candles in the colder months. There’s no need to spend a ton of money on flowers.
With Ayesha’s tips, you can create a holiday gathering that your family and friends will cherish forever.
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