Have You Ever Made Your Man Cry From Sex? Adrienne Houghton Has.
There are so many pivotal moments in life that will make you cry genuine tears of joy: a beautiful wedding, the birth of your first child, an emotional episode of Grey's Anatomy, and according to science, even some really bomb sex. In an intimate discussion about intimacy on yesterday's episode of The Real, the hosts confirmed that if you've ever shed a tear because the D was so bomb, you're not alone, sis.
Although Jeannie Mai said she couldn't relate, Tamera Mowry-Housley and Adrienne Houghton said they have no shame in their crying game during sex. In the past, Adrienne has been candid about the thrills of married sex with her husband, Israel Houghton, revealing that they don't go more than 12 hours without banging it out, but yesterday, she filled us in on how real it can really get. Although it's not a Viola Davis-style breakdown in the bedroom, it is a reflection of the pure joy and bliss you're experiencing with your partner. Adrienne explained:
"Literally a tear just comes out of your eye. It's not emotional."
Adrienne admitted that she's not the only one who's been so overcome with joy in the bedroom that their tear ducts couldn't take it. She's revealed that she's also seen her man cry after sex:
"They're just overwhelmed with how much they love you or how bomb you were…they're just like 'that was amazing!'"
While shedding a tear or two while getting your freak on may feel weird at first, both sexperts and scientists say that it's totally normal.
In fact, sex psychotherapist Sarah Nasserzadeh, Ph.D. says that crying during or after sex is just "emotional sweating". Good sex can be hella relaxing, and that level of comfort can cause all kinds of emotions to run up and through you. While sometimes, sadness after sex can also be an indicator of a deeper, underlying issue like post-coital dysphoria, or PCD, (which requires serious, professional attention), according to Adrienne, crying isn't always a sign of sadness.
In the same way that you would cry during a deep yoga session or a massage, your tears just serve as a form of emotional release, and those emotions aren't all necessarily negative. Experiencing a deep connection with a partner during a sexual experience causes the release of oxytocin, which increases your level of bonding, empathy, and trust, and crying can be a genuine sign of gratitude or appreciation.
So if you ever see your man's eyes sweating with tears of joy after an intense romping session, rest assured, those ain't allergies. You just put it down.
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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6 Spring Events To Boost Your Professional And Social Networks
When spring arrives, we all want to be outside, looking fabulous, and back to socializing. And now is the perfect time to add a few great events to your calendar to get you through the quarter in order to make new friends, build new partnerships, and talk new opportunities to level up.
Spring is a high season for networking and social events for Black women, with many organizations and event entrepreneurs booking prime locations and offering dynamic experiences that you can maximize in whatever way possible. Write down your goals, and get out there. Start with a few of these events between now and the start of summer:
New Orleans Jazz And Heritage Festival, April 23 - May 3
The New Orleans Jazz And Heritage Festival is a 10-day event held over two weekends, bringing together thousands of musicians, craftspeople, and food lovers to share in common threads of culture in the heart of New Orleans. You'll get to enjoy works by artisans local to Louisiana as well as from across the U.S. and around the world.
Black Food Truck Festival, April 26-28
Hosted in Charleston, S.C., the Black Food Truck Festival includes an opening party, access to more than two dozen food truck vendors, and a time to workout with other attendees. Charleston has long been known as a Southern foodie destination, with global recognition due to James Beard-awarded chefs heading popular restaurants there and a renewed focus on Gullah and Geechee culture and food in the region. And what better conversation ice-breaker than to talk about food with a new acquaintance?
Black Women's Mental Health Conference, May 4
Hosted by New York University, this is a one-day event to tackle issues of mental wellness and health that uniquely affect Black women and girls. The keynote speaker for this year is Kim Young, MSW, LCSW, founder of Dope Black Social Worker® and host of the podcast Revolutionary Hoodrat, and leading licensed professionals in the field will offer their insights and share their experiences. And, of course, no college-led event is without time blocked specifically for networking.
Strength of a Woman Festival, May 11-12
Anything with Mary J. Blige headlining or leading is a win, especially if we're talking about women's empowerment and enjoyment. This event will be held in New York City, and beyond the performances from some of our favorites like Muni Long, Jill Scott, and The Clark Sisters, there will be a Gospel Brunch. And even if you're not able to attend or concerts aren't your thing, just being in the city during that time will mean you're bound to run into plenty of other women to network with at local bars and restaurants nearby.
Carefree Black Girl Cookout, May 4
Held in the Queen City, Charlotte, N.C., this is a day festival amplifying the voices and brands of Black women entrepreneurs, artists, and creatives. There will be vendors, glam and beauty bars, and complimentary meals for the first hour (according to the platform's website). They're hosting another cookout in Philadelphia on May 25.
Black Women Leading Live, May 13-16
Touted as an “intimate retreat + conference,” this Virginia Beach, VA event will be held on a resort and is offering a professional development experience led by Laura Knights, founder of the Black Woman Leading® program and podcast. It’s an ideal fit if you’re a mid-level or senior professional, as the topics and approach are set to cater to those levels of career experience, with coaches and speakers pouring into attendees with a holistic approach.
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