The Vegan Skincare Line This Content Strategist Swears By
In About Face, xoNecole gets the 411 on IGers who give us #skincaregoals on the daily. Here they break down their beauty routines on the inside and out, as well as the highly coveted products that grace their shelves and their skin.
There's a point in every woman's life where she has to go deep-diving into the endless sea of skincare products to find what works best for their routine, but social media marketing maven Destiny Taylor has a beauty tip that will help you save a few coins and keep bad skin at bay.
Less is more, and this is especially true when it comes to your skin, and according to Destiny, bombarding your face with expensive, medical-grade products may be doing your acne more harm than good. She explained, "My most significant beauty lesson was learning that when someone has acne, they don't necessarily need products formulated to treat acne. I've done significant damage to my sensitive skin in the past by using potent salicylic and glycolic acid products."
For this Cali-based creative, skincare isn't a routine, issa lifestyle—one that she aligned with early-on. "My relationship with beauty and skincare strengthened when I entered middle school. Puberty had me feeling myself, and I wanted to look as good on the outside as I felt inside."
As an adult, Destiny has learned that skincare is synonymous with self-care and is intentional AF about boffum. Along with eating healthy and working out, the 24-year-old content creator says that spiritual work is the essence of true beauty. "I used to only feel beautiful when I had a beat face and a bomb outfit. That was how I saw beauty in others, as well. Now, I feel most beautiful when my skin is soft and radiant, and when I feel grounded."
In this month's About Face, we sat down with Destiny to talk more about her favorite skincare products, radical self-care, and how she keeps her beauty in bloom all damn year. Here's what we learned:
My morning routine looks like...
"My typical morning looks like waking up at 5:45am, throwing on some gym clothes, and rushing out the door to pilates. Once I get home, I clean myself up and light some Frankincense. Then I'll grab my journal and express what I need to. I close my morning routine by meditating to some binaural beats until I doze off. My alarm wakes me up at 9am to get ready for work and head into the office quickly."
For my skincare routine in the AM...
"I keep things 'simple' with my morning skincare routine. I quickly cleanse with my Dermalogica Special Cleansing Gel––this helps control my breakouts and calms inflammation. I tone with my Nolaskinsentials Witches Brew Toner––it's just a fancy witch hazel that helps control breakouts. I finish by hydrating with my Hydra Face Creme by Nolaskinsentials. I love an ultra-hydrating moisturizer that makes my skin soft and radiant––this gives me that and a little bit more."
For my skincare routine in the PM...
"At night, I use my Dermalogica Special Cleansing Gel and Nolaskinsentials Witches Brew Toner and introduce some night-specific products. After cleansing, I exfoliate with my Dermalogica Daily Microfoliant, which is one of my favorite products. It brings dull skin to life and eliminates inflammation. I may or may not go in with a mask. Right now, my faves are Nola's Pumpkin Enzyme Mask and Dermalogica's Charcoal Rescue Mask. The charcoal mask actively helps with cell turnover and is my go-to when I have acne scarring. I finish my routine with Nola's Glycolic Night Cream. Glycolic acid and neem oil are listed in the first five ingredients, so it's excellent for clearing acne-prone skin. Oh, and I can't forget my eye cream."
How the seasons change my skin and routine...
"My skin be bringing new energy every season, so I have to go with the flow and cater to it. The main difference between my fall/winter and spring/summer routines is the level of oil control my products offer. I like to be radiant all year long! In the warmer months, I want to use products that will draw out my natural oils because they are usually excessive during that time. In the colder months, I let my oils live since my skin is drier."
My go-to makeup look consists of...
"I wear makeup one to two times per week. I prefer sexy, fresh-faced looks and will add drama with lashes and my lippie from time to time. Brows are essential––they must be soft yet bold. I'll do a concealer, powder foundation, bronzer and highlighting concealer to achieve the perfect base. Plenty of warm gold highlighter. A dab of color on the cheeks, and a soft red gloss on the lips."
How I approach beauty from the inside-out...
"I feel most beautiful inside when I'm kind and helpful to others."
What self-care looks like to me...
"Something that makes me feel sexy––especially for my fellow single ladies! Going to pole dancing classes and dressing in sexy lingerie are my things. Something that makes me feel grounded––sage, incense, a journal, and a personalized alter fulfill this for me. Something that makes me feel alive––giving myself time to explore different interests is essential to me."
For more Destiny, follow her on Instagram @DestinyTaylorxo!
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Taylor "Pretty" Honore is a spiritually centered and equally provocative rapper from Baton Rouge, Louisiana with a love for people and storytelling. You can probably find me planting herbs in your local community garden, blasting "Back That Thang Up" from my mini speaker. Let's get to know each other: @prettyhonore.
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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