

If there's one thing that I can promise you is consistent about my writing content, it's that I'm ever on the quest to have as many people have as much fulfilling sex, on a consistent basis, as absolutely possible. Today, it's all about some little things that can make a really big difference as it directly relates to sexual pleasure. Some are already in your house, some are up the street at your local grocery store and a few you'll have to order online. Just know that if you're willing to add, even five of these tips, you and your partner will be wondering what the hell took you so long to do just that. So, let's make sex even better with the following 15 things, shall we?
1. Pop Rocks
Wanna bring even more excitement to fellatio? When's the last time you put some Pop Rocks into your mouth beforehand? If you haven't thought about them since you were a kid, they're the candies that create a popping/sizzling sensation.
Between that and the flavor of your choice, Pop Rocks can make going down more appealing to your taste buds while offering up a totally indescribable "vibration" for your partner.
Oh, and if you have a hard time finding them at your local store, you can always get some Pop Rocks on its company website here.
2. Listerine
Speaking of creating cool sensations during oral sex, if you like the taste of mint, try gargling some Listerine and then keeping a little bit of it in your mouth before taking him into yours. It creates a cool menthol feel that also can make him go all the way in…if you know what I mean.
3. Ice Cream
While we're on the topic of creating amazing sensations on genital regions, when's the last time that you had some ice cream put onto your labia during oral sex? If it's your man's favorite flavor, he will be sure to eat it up (pun totally intended). Plus, the cool sensation of the ice cream along with the warmth of his mouth will easily have you climbing the walls. Just make sure to put down a towel or prepare to wash your sheets afterwards. This can make a mess, although it's the best kind of one.
4. Clit Pump
I know, right? You learn something new every day. Today, for me, it's clit pumps. If you've never heard of them before, they're basically mini vacuums that you place over your clitoris in order to increase blood circulation to it. The benefit? Well, the more sensitive your clitoris is, the easier it is to climax. Many women sing its praises because the combo of the vacuum and oral action happening simultaneously can create the most intense orgasm ever. Cop one here and then report back. #wink
5. Masturbation Sleeve (or Banana Peels)
Never heard of a masturbation sleeve before? That's OK. I'll break it down. Long story short, it's the kind of sex toy that a man puts his penis into that feels somewhat like a vagina or even a mouth. Some come with lube. Some vibrate. While it might initially sound like the kind of game only one can play, a lot of couples enjoy them because they say it's great when it comes to mutual masturbation or oral sex. Men's Health once did a feature on this entitled, "I Tried 6 Male Masturbation Sleeves, and This One Was Definitely the Best". It might be able to point you into the right direction of which masturbation sleeve to get.
On the other hand, if money is tight or sex gadgets aren't really your thing, some people are all about using banana peels as an alternative. Yep. Literally putting their package in between a peel. Hey, if the grapefruit trick worked, I don't see why a banana peel wouldn't.
6. Delay Spray
Whether your man struggles with premature ejaculation, it takes you a bit longer to "get there" or your stuff is just so good that he sometimes releases before either of you planned, something that he might want to try is Delay Spray. If you've never heard of it before, it's the kind of spray that relaxes the sensitive nerves in his penis so that he can go for a longer period of time. The key is to apply the spray 10-15 minutes prior to intercourse. And if you're wondering — it will not affect your vagina, you can use it even if oral sex is going to happen (after the spray is applied; just wait about 10 minutes) and it can go on a flaccid or erect penis. If it's piqued your interest, you can purchase a bottle by going here.
7. “Honey Oil”
A couple of years ago, when I wrote an article onfall-themed sex, one of the things that I shouted out was cinnamon oil. Chile…chile. It's sweet, it's warm and it's such a non-sticky way to enjoy "tongue-cleaning" — and getting cleaned. Along these same lines, adding a teaspoon of honey to one-third cup of sweet almond oil, zapping it into the microwave for 10 minutes and then applying it to each other's bodies and licking it off can be pure bliss. There's honestly no other way to put it.
8. Cuffies
If low-key bondage is totally your thing but handcuffs are uncomfortable as hell, there are some cool cuffs known as Cuffies. What makes them a standout item is they are super strong yet because they are made out of silicone, they are uber comfortable too.
The real bonus? They're only $18. Definitely worth having in one of your nightstands, if you ask me. If you're interested, you can cop a pair here.
9. Necktie
While you're waiting on your Cuffies to arrive in the mail, a more-than-fair substitute is a necktie. It's soft. It's sexy. And it can double up as a bondage tool or a blindfold. Preferably both.
10. CBD Oil
Last fall, I wrote an article for the platform entitled, "7 Proven Ways Weed Makes Sex So Much Better". One of the things that I shouted out in it is CBD lube; not only does it make things wetter, the properties in CBD can also heighten sensitivity in the genital region. Along these same lines, CBD oil is dope because it helps to relax your body's blood vessels, so that blood flow is able to increase and your orgasms can intensify. Using it as a warm massage oil is the perfect way to up the ante as far as foreplay goes. Not "maybe" — definitely.
11. Partial Clothing
Most of the men I know, when it comes between choosing lingerie or nudity, they are totally doing for Door #2. However, I think there is something that is really sexy about having sex while partially clothed. A dress with no undies underneath. Breasts that are exposed with the bra still on. Panties moved over to the side. To me, it sends the message of, "You're so damn hot that I don't want to waste any more time trying to get all of your clothes off." And sex that is full of that kind of passion? It never misses.
12. “Sex Gratitude”
Out of all of the things on this list, perhaps my favorite one is this particular tip. If you want to have some truly incredible sex, the more dopamine that's surging throughout your body, the better. That's because dopamine is a type of neurotransmitter that sends messages back and forth between your body cells.
On the sex tip, dopamine is great because it plays a significant role in why and how we feel pleasure. Well, keeping this in mind, did you know that something that naturally triggers dopamine in your system is gratitude? When we express it and hear it, our brain releases a bit of dopamine which causes us to feel really good. So, whether it's during the act of foreplay or sex itself, tell your partner what you appreciate about them, especially sexually. I'd be shocked if he didn't return the favor and that the words you both hear won't prove to be the ultimate turn-on.
13. Open Blinds
If you consider yourself to be a closet exhibitionist (you like to be watched) yet you've never been bold enough to do something along the lines of having sex outdoors, a happy medium could be to open up some blinds in a room in your house. Whether it's in the day when the neighbors could actually see what's going on or at night when not a soul is looking, it's a simple way to "scratch the itch" without taking a really big risk.
14. Memory Foam Mattress Cover
Whether you have a squeaky bed or a house full of kids (check out "How To Make Sex Easier (& More Fun) When You've Got Kids"), don't let either stop you from getting as buckwild as you wanna be. A very easy and affordable way to "quiet your bed down" is to put a memory foam mattress cover on top of your mattress. Also, if you've got some box springs or a metal frame, spray some WD-40 on it could get your bed to shut up so that you can turn up as well.
15. “Sex Rewards”
I'm pretty sure you've heard of sex coupons before. Sex rewards are similar in the sense that you literally find fun and creative ways to "reward" for your partner for a job well done. If he makes you cum three times in a row, he gets his favorite meal prepared the following day. If you get into his favorite position, he runs the errands for you that you hate. The objective here isn't to use sex as a form of manipulation so much as an incentive to get excited about things outside of the bedroom. After all, rewarding people is one of the most effective ways to get them to do even more for you — or in the case of sex, to you. And what could possibly be wrong with that? Exactly.
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It's kinda wild that, in 2025, my byline will have appeared on this platform for (what?!) seven years. And yeah, when I'm not waxing poetic on here about sex, relationships and then...more sex and relationships, I am working as a certified marriage life coach, helping to birth babies (as a doula) or penning for other places (oftentimes under pen names).
As some of you know, something that I've been "threatening" to do for a few years now is write another book. Welp, October 2024 was the month that I "gave birth" to my third one: 'Inside of Me 2.0: My Story. With a 20-Year Lens'. It's fitting considering I hit a milestone during the same year.
Beyond that, Pumas and lip gloss are still my faves along with sweatshirts and tees that have a pro-Black message on them. I've also started really getting into big ass unique handbags and I'm always gonna have a signature scent that ain't nobody's business but my own.
As far as where to find me, I continue to be MIA on the social media front and I honestly don't know if that will ever change. Still, if you need to hit me up about something *that has nothing to do with pitching on the site (I'm gonna start ignoring those emails because...boundaries)*, hit me up at missnosipho@gmail.com. I'll do what I can. ;)
Eva Marcille On Starring In 'Jason’s Lyric Live' & Being An Audacious Black Woman
Eva Marcille has taken her talents to the stage. The model-turned-actress is starring in her first play, Jason’s Lyric Live alongside Allen Payne, K. Michelle, Treach, and others.
The play, produced by Je’Caryous Johnson, is an adaptation of the film, which starred Allen Payne as Jason and Jada Pinkett Smith as Lyric. Allen reprised his role as Jason for the play and Eva plays Lyric.
While speaking to xoNecole, Eva shares that she’s a lot like the beloved 1994 character in many ways. “Lyric is so me. She's the odd flower. A flower nonetheless, but definitely not a peony,” she tells us.
“She's not the average flower you see presented, and so she reminds me of myself. I'm a sunflower, beautiful, but different. And what I loved about her character then, and even more so now, is that she was very sure of herself.
"Sure of what she wanted in life and okay to sacrifice her moments right now, to get what she knew she deserved later. And that is me. I'm not an instant gratification kind of a person. I am a long game. I'm not a sprinter, I'm a marathon.
America first fell in love with Eva when she graced our screens on cycle 3 of America’s Next Top Model in 2004, which she emerged as the winner. Since then, she's ventured into different avenues, from acting on various TV series like House of Payne to starring on Real Housewives of Atlanta.
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Eva praises her castmates and the play’s producer, Je’Caryous for her positive experience. “You know what? Je’Caryous fuels my audacity car daily, ‘cause I consider myself an extremely audacious woman, and I believe in what I know, even if no one else knows it, because God gave it to me. So I know what I know. That is who Je’Caryous is.”
But the mom of three isn’t the only one in the family who enjoys acting. Eva reveals her daughter Marley has also caught the acting bug.
“It is the most adorable thing you can ever see. She’s got a part in her school play. She's in her chorus, and she loves it,” she says. “I don't know if she loves it, because it's like, mommy does it, so maybe I should do it, but there is something about her.”
Overall, Eva hopes that her contribution to the role and the play as a whole serves as motivation for others to reach for the stars.
“I want them to walk out with hope. I want them to re-vision their dreams. Whatever they were. Whatever they are. To re-see them and then have that thing inside of them say, ‘You know what? I'm going to do that. Whatever dream you put on the back burner, go pick it up.
"Whatever dream you've accomplished, make a new dream, but continue to reach for the stars. Continue to reach for what is beyond what people say we can do, especially as [a] Black collective but especially as Black women. When it comes to us and who we are and what we accept and what we're worth, it's not about having seen it before. It's about knowing that I deserve it.”
This interview has been edited for length and clarity.
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Do You Get More Yeast Infections In The Spring? There's A Reason For That.
I don’t know about y’all, but if there’s one thing that I try to avoid, with everything in me, it's getting a yeast infection. Unfortunately, because I have a fungal sensitivity, I’ve had more of them over the course of my lifetime than I would like. The upswing, though, is that as I’ve learned more about them, I’ve been able to take preventative measures to keep those bad boys at bay. And one of those things is doing research on what causes them.
For instance, I used to wonder why it seemed like I would get yeast infections in warmer weather. At first, I thought it was all in my head, yet it absolutely isn’t — and if you read this all the way through, you’ll see why I say that.
Now that we are in full-blown spring season, there’s no turning back as far as the rising temps go. And so, if you are also someone who tends to get yeast infections during this time of the year, I’m about to explain to you the reason why the weather, 1000 percent, has something to do with it.
First, a Quick Yeast Infection Recap
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Since it’s been reported that approximately 75 percent of women have will get at least one yeast infection in her lifetime, and almost half will experience more than one, there’s a pretty good chance that you’ve had one before — and that makes you pretty familiar with, at the least the symptoms, of a yeast infection. Still, in order for it to make sense that warmer weather can lead to more yeast infections, I’m going to briefly explain what a yeast infection is truly all about.
Something that pretty much all of us have somewhere on our body is a fungi known as Candida; however, something that you may not be aware of is the fact that only around 20 percent of women have it in their actual vaginal tract. Anyway, having Candida in your system isn’t an issue — unless there is an overgrowth with it. If that happens, it can lead to what is known as a yeast infection — and although you can get a yeast infection, pretty much anywhere on your body, what I am going to focus on today is vaginal yeast infections.
Although it is actually possible to have a yeast infection that doesn’t have any symptoms, typically, if you’ve got one going on, your body will certainly let you know because you will experience things like incessant itching (have mercy!), a thick white/off-white discharge, a swollen vagina and/or vulva, a burning sensation when you urinate and perhaps even discomfort during sex.
The cause of a yeast infection is usually tied to something that causes Candida to multiply because you have more “bad bacteria” in your system than good bacteria. This could be due to things like having a weakened immunity; an imbalance of hormones; antibiotics; being pregnant; your blood sugar levels being off; wearing underwear or pants that are too tight (bookmark that one); using body washes, spermicides or other body products that are too strong for your vagina (ones that end up irritating it) and/or douching.
If any of this leads to you having a yeast infection and it isn’t your first trip to the rodeo when it comes to experiencing one, there are over-the-counter antifungal medications that you can use. Or, if the yeast infection is chronic, your doctor may prescribe you an antifungal pill like Diflucan (although these days, you can oftentimes get a prescription prepared for you online via some of the same sites that prescribe birth control; check out “Before You Get Online Birth Control, Read This.” for some references on those).
Aight, so now that you basically get what yeast infections are all about, why does it seem like many women experience them more often during the spring and summertime? Is it all in their head, or is that actually a fact?
Why Yeast Infections Sometimes Uptick Whenever the Weather Warms Up
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Remember how I said that one of the things that can lead to a yeast infection is wearing clothes that are too tight? Well, when your vulva and vagina aren’t able to breathe and instead, moisture is trapped in that area of your body, Candida is able to thrive. And that, my friends, is why it’s pretty common for women to either be more susceptible to a yeast infection in the spring and summer seasons, or they may end up with more than one of them (if they’re not careful). That’s because the warmer it is outside, the easier it is for air to hold moisture, and that can lead to you sweating more and your clothes retaining water — which creates the perfect storm for a yeast infection.
And that is why this article has the title that it does — indeed, if one of the things that you dislike about this time of year is that you have always found yourself being vulnerable when it comes to yeast infections, now you understand why. Humidity cultivates moisture, and trapped moisture causes fungi to multiply, and that can lead to a yeast infection.
6 Things You Can Do to Help to Prevent a Yeast Infection
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So does all of this mean that you just have to lie back and let Candida have its way with you right now? Absolutely not. In fact, as the weather heats up, here are a few things that can decrease your chances of experiencing a yeast infection.
1. Wear breathable fabrics. It’s sundress season, and no one can rock those like we can, right? And listen, yeast will be pissed at you if you do (especially if you go without undies) because the lightness of a sundress’s fabric makes it easier for your body to breathe and for your vaginal area to remain dry. So, sundress or not, definitelywear lighter fabrics like cotton, linen, and silk for the next few months.
2. Take vitamin C. Something else that I said could lead to a yeast infection is a weak immune system. That said, something that can help to keep yours in great shape is vitamin C. The main reason why is because it has the ability to strengthen your white blood cells, which are the cells that help to fight off infection. So, if you’re not doing so already, take a vitamin C supplement and also consume foods that are high in C like citrus fruits, berries, cantaloupe, spinach and broccoli.
3. Leave the scented products alone. We all like to smell good and you doing so is something that I will always and fully support — just make sure to keep the fragrance stuff away from your vulva and vagina. Again, it only irritates them. As an alternative, if you want to do a lil’ somethin’ down there, spray some perfume or apply a sensual essential oil to your inner thigh; the same mission will get accomplished without you having to worry about your vulva/vagina getting mad at you in the process.
4. Massage your vulva with coconut oil. This one might surprise you. Something that has pretty strong antifungal properties in it is coconut oil. That’s why some women use it to treat a yeast infection whether it’s by soaking a tampon with coconut oil and inserting it into their vagina or using it to soothe their irritated vulva. As a semi-preventative measure to keep fungi from irritating your vulva and/or to moisturize it, you certainly can’t go wrong with applying some organic coconut oil to “her” as well.
5. Swap out ice cream for frozen yogurt. Something that yeast feeds off of is sugar; meanwhile, something that keeps yeast from getting out of control is probiotics. And since this is the time of year when a lot of us enjoy scoops of ice cream, if you want to increase your chances of avoiding a yeast infection, consider going with frozen yogurt instead. Although both have sugar in them, yogurt also contains several strains of probiotics too. It’s a delicious way to proactively fight a potential yeast infection from the inside out.
6. Ease up on the stress triggers.When you’re stressed out, it can also make you more susceptible to a yeast infection because stress can weaken your immunity. So, get outside and enjoy the sunshine. Plan a vacation. Spend time with your friends at rooftop restaurants and enjoy a mocktail on your back deck (check out “10 Spring/Summer Cocktails (& Mocktails) That Your Vagina Will Truly Enjoy”). The less stressed you are, the less tension your vagina will feel…and the less chance there will be of you having a spring or summertime yeast infection. #givethanks #enjoy
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