Y'all. Y'ALL. A couple of weeks ago, I decided to get a humidifier (which is basically an electronic device that helps to put humidity into the air). The main reason why is because I read an article that said that COVID thrives in low humidity. I'll get into that in a second, though. Anyway, what I thought was going to be a quick trip up the street ended up being a day-long endeavor because I had to go to four different stores and all of them had inventory issues. Most said it was because of the labor shortage that's been happening all over the country.
So, before I get into the reasons why investing in a humidifier is quite possibly one of the smartest things that you can do this fall season, let me first say that there are plenty of articles out in cyberspace (like this one, this one and this one) that are warning that between labor issues, supply chain drama and yes, inventory nightmares, it would be best to purchase as much as you can as soon as you can. That way, once the holiday season does roll around, you can be cozied up in your house rather than frantically out in stores. Feel me?
That said, here are 10 reasons why I am sleeping better than ever (and I typically sleep pretty well), now that I have a humidifier running every night.
1. Moisturizes Your Skin
Something that I make sure I do before turning in every night is I put some rosemary oil on my face (and neck) and some shea butter on my lips. However, it never fails that while my skin ends up fairing pretty well, oftentimes my lips will be slightly chapped come morning. This hasn't been the case since I've been using my humidifier, though.
One reason why getting a humidifier for this time of year is such a good idea is, the colder it gets, the more we tend to rely on central heat. And the more central heat blows, the more the humidity level drops within the rooms of our house (oftentimes around 20-30 percent). That produces dry air that can wreak total havoc on our skin.
So, if you know that you naturally battle with dry skin anyway, first read "If Your Skin Stays Dry, No Matter What, Check This Out". Next, strongly consider purchasing a humidifier. Trust me, your skin (and lips) will totally thank you for it!
2. Conditions Your Hair
If your skin can get zapped of the moisture that it needs, you definitely know that your hair can be too, right? And here's the thing — when it's cold outside, that can cause your hair cuticles to lift and that can result in your hair becoming brittle which can ultimately lead to breakage. So, if you want to gain as many inches as possible between now and the spring season, having a humidifier can certainly help; especially if you're prone to not tying up your hair with a silk scarf or satin bonnet and/or you don't sleep on a satin pillowcase (hopefully, you do, though).
3. Soothes Headaches
Are you someone who suffers from headaches or even migraines? This is just one more reason why a humidifier could totally change your life for the better. Oftentimes, what causes this kind of discomfort is, when you're taking in dry air, that can dry out your mucus membranes. When that happens, they can end up becoming irritated and inflamed which can lead to painful head pressure. This reminds me — when you're looking at all of the humidifier options that are available, you might wonder if a cool mist or warm mist one is best.
While I personally prefer cool mist ones (they're more energy efficient, plus I like sleeping in a cooler space), you might wanna go the warm route, simply because it heats up the water, is able to kill more bacteria, can ease head pressure quicker and can help to warm up your room during the fall and winter seasons. If you do go with "B", just make sure to keep it away from young children or pets. Some humidifiers boil the water which could end up harming little ones and animals that don't know to stay away.
4. Clears Sinuses
It's not uncommon for people to have more bloody noses and/or sinus headaches around this time of year, especially if that's something that they experience from time to time anyway. A humidifier can assist with this as well because not only does extra humidity help to soothe your sinuses passages and reduce bloody noses (which typically happens as the result of overexposure to dry air), it can also help to clear up congestion. And the less pressure you feel, the easier it will be to breathe in the day and sleep at night.
5. Protects Your Throat
If your nasal passages and sinuses require moisture, it would make sense that your throat would too, right? Plus, if there's bacteria that's in your bedroom, a humidifier could help to keep it under control, so that your sore throat doesn't get worse over time.
A cool hack as far as this is concerned is to get a humidifier that also works as an essential oil diffuser. That way, you can put some oils into the humidifier that help to ease a sore throat. Some of those include the anti-inflammatory and antimicrobial properties of lavender; the antibacterial compounds of peppermint; the antioxidant properties of bitter orange; the antimicrobial of lemon and the anti-inflammatory properties of ginger.
6. Eases Cold and Flu Symptoms
It does need to go on record that if you happen to have asthma or really bad allergies, you should probably speak with your doctor before getting a humidifier. The reason why is because sometimes higher humidity levels can trigger symptoms associated with either issue. Still, if you're trying to get a leg up on the cold and flu season, a humidifier can certainly help you out. I actually checked out a study that said low humidity levels can actually help the viruses that cause colds and the flu to not only thrive but last longer.
This means that, say you share your bed with someone and they've got a cold or they're coming down with the flu. Keeping a humidifier close by can actually reduce your chances of getting sick because in high humidity, viruses have a harder chance to survive. This actually brings me to another super valid point.
7. Fights Against the COVID Virus
Since so many folks out here don't wanna wear masks (lawd), one of the main reasons why I thought it was essential to get a humidifier this year is because I read several articles about how COVID also really enjoys low humidity. So, when you factor in central heat and then add to it stuff like lots of cooking and maybe even a fireplace — whew! It's like a customized party for COVID. So, whether you're vaccinated or not, out of all of the reasons on here to have a humidifier in your home, please take this one to heart. If you're wondering which humidifiers would be best for achieving this particular goal, there's a pretty thorough list that you can check out here.
8. Lubricates Your Vocal Cords
If you or someone who you know happens to sing, host a podcast or do something else that requires a constant use of vocal cords, you might want to gift yourself or them with a humidifier this year.
9. Helps to Prevent Snoring
So, here's the thing about snoring. Being overweight (because it leads to extra tissue in the back of the throat), consuming alcohol (because it relaxes throat muscles), nasal congestion and even sleeping on your back (because it narrows your airways) are all things that can trigger a snore fest. And while dry air isn't another cause, there is no way around the fact that it can certainly make the sound of snoring a heck of a lot worse.
Not only that but since dry air usually has allergens floating around, the extra humidity in your bedroom that comes from a humidifier can keep allergens on the floor, so that they don't irritate your nose which could cause you to open your mouth to breathe easier which could also lead to more or louder snoring (funny how all of that works, huh?).
10. Improves Your Quality of Sleep
It's been reported that a whopping 50-70 million Americans have some sort of sleep issue. And y'all, that ain't good. If you happen to be one of them, a humidifier can assist with this too. Less snoring aside, sleeping with a higher level of humidity oftentimes makes your bedroom feel more comfortable which makes your body feel more comfortable which makes it easier for you to fall and stay asleep.
The Potential Disadvantages of Using a Humidifier
So, with all of the praise that I've just given these bad boys, do humidifiers come with any challenges? Good question. All a humidifier does is turn the water inside of it into mist; this means that if the water is dirty, you're taking that in. That's why you need to clean your humidifier, just the way the manufacturer recommends and, if it comes with a filter, you should change it regularly.
Another point to consider is too much of a good thing could backfire, humidity included. When you've got too much humidity around you, that can lead to mold or mildew (which is why they shouldn't be blowing directly on your walls or sitting on the carpet without something underneath).
Also, unfiltered water tends to have minerals that might be too much for your system if you're constantly breathing them in. So, filling up your humidifier with a faucet that has a filter on it, boiling the water first or using distilled water is probably best. But if you keep all of this in mind, I don't know how you could regret investing in a humidifier. I know I don't. Not one freakin' bit.
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It's kinda wild that, in 2025, my byline will have appeared on this platform for (what?!) seven years. And yeah, when I'm not waxing poetic on here about sex, relationships and then...more sex and relationships, I am working as a certified marriage life coach, helping to birth babies (as a doula) or penning for other places (oftentimes under pen names).
As some of you know, something that I've been "threatening" to do for a few years now is write another book. Welp, October 2024 was the month that I "gave birth" to my third one: 'Inside of Me 2.0: My Story. With a 20-Year Lens'. It's fitting considering I hit a milestone during the same year.
Beyond that, Pumas and lip gloss are still my faves along with sweatshirts and tees that have a pro-Black message on them. I've also started really getting into big ass unique handbags and I'm always gonna have a signature scent that ain't nobody's business but my own.
As far as where to find me, I continue to be MIA on the social media front and I honestly don't know if that will ever change. Still, if you need to hit me up about something *that has nothing to do with pitching on the site (I'm gonna start ignoring those emails because...boundaries)*, hit me up at missnosipho@gmail.com. I'll do what I can. ;)
Your Guide To Letting Go Of What No Longer Serves You Based On Astrology
Letting go is a gift we are given and a strength that we find throughout our lives. There are times when we want to grab ahold of what we are experiencing and sensing, and times when we need to let go of something that was once everything to us or what we wanted for ourselves. The moment you conclude that you need to let something go in your life is the moment that your brain fights to make that happen for you.
In Astrology, there is an area of your birth chart that is designed for you to understand where you will be letting go a lot in this lifetime, and exactly how to do so. We dive through the birth chart as we seek a deeper understanding of ourselves and let go of what no longer serves us, and there are tools available to help us do so. If you don't know where your South Node is in your birth chart, you can use a free calculator like this one here.
What Does Your South Node Represent in Astrology?
When it comes to what we are destined to let go of or move away from in this lifetime, we look to the South Node. The South Node is the area of your birth chart that has to do with your past lives, karma, lessons, old habits and traits, gifts, and energy you are moving away from in this lifetime.
Your South Node is opposite your North Node, which is your destiny and the energy you want to move towards.
We can learn a lot from our South Node and it’s an area of our life where we tend to gain the most wisdom. By understanding why some patterns in your life tend to play out in the same ways, you can be more conscious of the choices you make in the now and let go of who and what doesn’t serve you in the process.
South Node Insights: Letting Go
The South Node is our natural gifts and talents, but also where we don’t need to focus so much of our energy on, taking us away from where we need to be developing, which is the North Node. So when you are looking to let go of something, gain a new perspective, or feel more trusting in what you are doing right now, you can examine your South Node.
We learn from our South Node by not making the same mistakes over again, letting go of what needs to be let go of, and understanding what we need in order to create space for our new beginning.
Read below for your South Node on how to let go of what no longer serves you.
Aries South Node: Letting Go of Independence for Connection
You are used to being independent and figuring things out on your own. In this lifetime, however, you are being asked to lean on others for support when you need it. You are working on letting go of the ego and focusing more on the heart. By extending your compassion for others, you discover a part of yourself that leads you toward empowerment and allows you to let go of a false sense of safety.
You are meant to experience harmonious, fortunate, and compatible love in this lifetime, and you will do so by opening your heart to others and letting go of people who don’t support you or whom you can’t count on.
Taurus South Node: Releasing Overdependence and Superficiality
With your South Node in Taurus, you are letting go of the need to acquire by focusing on the depth and intention of what you are obtaining. Your relationships tend to have a lot to do with your financial world, and these things can get twisted and distorted if you are not being careful.
In this lifetime, you are working on letting go of what doesn’t serve you by following your heart and your intuition more and focusing more on the feeling you want for yourself rather than the things themselves. You are also working on letting go of overdependence or superficiality in relationships, by connecting with the people whom you have a deep and spiritual bond with.
Gemini South Node: Finding Freedom in Authenticity
For you, letting go means following your freedom. You are meant to do things your own way in this lifetime, and the less you can focus on how you are going to be perceived, the more you can live the life of your dreams. With a South Node in Gemini, you are moving away from the commotion of life. What helps you let go of what no longer serves you is traveling, getting out of your comfort zone, and being in new environments.
In past lives, you may have given too much of your focus on your social successes and business pursuits, and in this lifetime, you are meant to focus on the bigger picture. What helps you let go is understanding that once you do, better is available to you.
Cancer South Node: Trusting Yourself Beyond Emotional Impulses
With a South Node in Cancer, you are learning to trust yourself and your logic more than your emotional world in this lifetime. By letting go of feeling like you have to be the one to nurture and support everyone and allowing people to do that for you, you lead your destiny.
With your South Node in Cancer, you are letting go of emotional impulsiveness or making decisions irrationally before you have thought about them.
In past lives, you were led by your emotional world, and in this lifetime, you are meant to think more about your long-term goals and intentions. What helps you let go of what no longer serves you is knowing that you are more than what you can give to others.
Leo South Node: Prioritizing Community Over Recognition
In this lifetime, you are working on letting go of the need to be seen and recognized and focus more on your need for community and soul companionship. You are moving away from the “I” and moving closer to the “We.” What helps you let go of what no longer serves you is giving your focus to humanity, the progress you want to make in this lifetime, and who you want to make it with.
You are learning how to work with others and let go of the need to figure everything out yourself. The more you connect with the people who make you want to team up and form a relationship, rather than the people who make you want to be alone, the better for you.
Virgo South Node: Embracing Compassion Over Perfection
In this lifetime, you are letting go of the need to do everything yourself and to have everything all together. You can let go of what no longer serves you by thinking more with your heart than you do with your mind and by trusting this gift of yours. By focusing more on your spirituality, emotional connections, and creativity, you let go of a timid side of you that can disrupt your relationships or the bonds you make.
In past lifetimes, you were focused on perfection. In this lifetime, you are meant to focus on compassion. By surrendering more to the flow of things, you can let go of what no longer serves you while remaining open for what does.
Libra South Node: Rediscovering Your Independence
With your South Node in Libra, you are meant to experience the gifts of independence, freedom, and inner clarity in this lifetime. In the past, you may have been more dependent on the people around you and made a lot of your focus on love. However, in this lifetime, you are being reminded to not lose your identity in others. You can let go of what no longer serves you by only moving towards the things that feel authentic to you.
You are meant to feel confident, inspired, and free in your relationships, and if you don’t feel this way, then that is a sign you are around energy that doesn’t serve you. You are meant to do things your own way in this lifetime.
Scorpio South Node: Letting Go of Struggles and Embracing Ease
With your South Node in Scorpio, you have lived many lives and have experienced a lot emotionally. In this lifetime, you are learning how to trust the process more and to understand that not everything has to be difficult or trying for you. You can experience great things with ease, and you’ll know you are in the right place when things are just falling into your lap.
What helps you let go of what no longer serves you is focusing more on the things and people who make you feel safe, stable, and comfortable. Instead of always seeking the rush or the thrill, bring your attention more towards the things that ground you.
Sagittarius South Node: Building Connection Through Learning
Your South Node in Sagittarius urges you towards connection with your community and your immediate environment. In this lifetime, you are letting go of the need to be everywhere at once, rather than with the people who matter most to you. You are moving away from knowing everything and into learning everything.
By looking at life as a place where you will learn, grow, and connect, you can let go of the things that stretch you too thin or don’t serve your heart.
What helps you let go of what no longer serves you is expressing yourself more, meeting new people, and spending time on a cause or creative project that inspires you.
Capricorn South Node: Choosing Home and Foundations Over Status
In this lifetime, you are meant to put more value and effort into your personal life, home, family, and foundations in life. In past lifetimes, a lot of your focus was on your reputation, achievements, and successes, and in this lifetime, you are meant to bring your energy more to the home base, family, and stability in life.
You will know if something is right for you if you want it because it makes you feel safe and nurtured, rather than just something that looks pleasing to the eye. What helps you let go of what no longer serves you is by focusing more on your personal life rather than your public, and what you truly see for yourself here.
Aquarius South Node: Shining in Your Individuality
With an Aquarius South Node, you are meant to shine, be seen, and express yourself in this lifetime. You are letting go of the lone wolf energy you are used to, and working on taking up space. You are able to let go of what no longer serves you by being confident in yourself and the decisions you are making.
If someone doesn’t make you feel like the best thing in the entire world, then they aren’t right for you. In past lifetimes, you gave a lot of your energy to your community and the people around you, and in this lifetime, you are meant to focus on yourself and your path more. It’s all about doing what makes you feel good and trusting that you deserve to.
Pisces South Node: Honoring Logic While Embracing Intuition
Your lesson in this lifetime is that your mind is your gift. In past lives, you were very intuitive, psychic, and spiritual, and in this lifetime, you are learning to trust and honor the logical part of yourself more. You may tend to put your all into your relationships and not get the same energy back, and you are working on taking care of yourself first before you can give to another.
What helps you let go of what no longer serves you is trusting your body and the signals it gives you when you are around certain people or energy that doesn’t serve. Get organized, figure out your needs, boundaries, and wants, and get clear on who you are and what you want for yourself.
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5 Simple But Bold Steps To Reinvent Yourself For A Totally New Career
The older you get, the more you realize that life is all about reinvention, especially when it comes to your career. For some of us, this means leveling up in skills, emotional intelligence, and leadership mastery for a promotion, while for others, this means totally changing how we approach work, what we're known for, and the career we actively pursue.
This article is for the latter: for the sis whose current career has run its course, the professional who has outgrown her industry, or the woman who wants to lean a bit more heavily into other facets of being a multi-hyphenate creative. If you've made the decision to make a total 360 in your career, first, congrats.
It takes a lot of courage and a bit of crazy. And you're not alone. Queen Latifah went from bold '80s raptress rocking the regal crowns to acting in iconic sitcoms to becoming a music and Hollywood mogul. Rihanna was singing dancehall-laced tunes in the early 2000s, cut her hair and went pop (selling out global arenas), and is now a hot mama of two, taking billion-dollar beauty brand meetings.
Coco Jones went from giving us sugary-sweet Disney vibes to sultry R&B hits. Tracee Ellis Ross morphed from model-daughter-of-Diana-Ross to award-winning cult-classic actress, to fashion icon, to haircare brand boss. Eve was riding rough as a blond-haired hip-hop legend, got her own TV sitcom, then went into the shadows for a bit, only to emerge as the wife of a wealthy British entrepreneur and cash in on millions of her own(with a new book release to boot).
If these examples still don't convince you that you're on to something good, and you're a bit lost as to where to start your reinvention, try these steps to get you going:
1. Get honestly clear on who you are as a professional and what you currently offer.
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If you don't know who or what you already are in your career, you don't really have a foundation for envisioning who or what you can or will become. A great place to start is adding 30 minutes of devotional, silence, meditation, or prayer time in the morning or evening (or both). This creates space for self-reflection, gratitude, and positive vibes.
Then, carve out at least 30 minutes to an hour a day to write out who you think you are professionally and what people have said you are (i.e., performance reviews, LinkedIn recommendations, career success metrics, or verbal insights from work friends, mentors, and former managers who can offer constructive criticism as well as insights on what you're good at). Ask your network to support you in getting this information. (You can even get creative with this. I once sent surveys using Google Forms.)
Once you've done this assessment and you are clear on the actual reality of where you are (versus an inner perception that might be based on ego, trauma, fear, or, let's just be honest, lies fed by negative self-talk), plan for who and what you want to be, starting today, even if that happens in the form of a brain dump, vision board, or to-do list.
2. Dip a toe in that future career water first to get experience before taking the big leap.
More than a decade ago, award-winning actress Niecy Nash was known most for thriving in comedic roles until she advocated for herself and began to go for more dramatic parts. After six years of success with the early 2000s TV series, Reno 911!, (and several other comedic TV and film roles before that), she was mostly known for her ability to command attention through slapstick antics, satire, and witty comebacks. During that period, she still appeared in smaller roles on dramas like ER, CSI: Crime Scene Investigation, and NYPD Blue.
“Once they found out I was funny, it was like, ‘You’re just that,’ ” she told Backstageabout her start in comedy despite having dreams of being a dramatic actress. “But because I wanted to work, that part of my gift opened the door first. I rode the wave of that for quite a long time before it finally manifested into what I saw in my head at the beginning.”
Now, the 2020s have been a winning one for her, as she's won big among audiences and critics alike for her major dramatic roles in films and series like Selma, Scream Queens, Clawz, When They See Us, and Monster: The Jeffrey Dahmer Story.
Consider this as one powerful example of how making small strategic pivots to pursue elements of your major reinvention today can lead to big success tomorrow.
3. Take deliberate, but small steps to change your current habits.
This is especially important when your reinvention includes more financial freedom (or wealth) or you're looking to make a major physical change as part of your reinvention. In the very wise words of author Octavia Butler, “Habit is more dependable. Habit will sustain you whether you're inspired or not. … Habit is persistence in practice." And I'm sure you've read or heard this somewhere on social, but I'll remind you anyway, "You can't change while embracing the same habits."
Start with micro-actions and be consistent for 10, 20, or 30 days initially. This could be waking up 30 minutes earlier to work out, committing to (and even buying tickets for) two networking or professional events outside of your industry per month, or simply getting a new haircut or hair color (and setting the follow-up maintenance appointments immediately after your service is complete).
If you're a homebody but the new you requires more networking, get out there, even if it's to volunteer once a month. If you need additional skills, invest in a 6-week online course, certifications, or a 2-year program at a local community college (and allow the money you've paid to be your accountability partner.) If you're always hanging out with your healthcare besties for brunch, but you're trying to break into cybersecurity, take one weekend from that crowd and give it to a new crew who's in the other industry. Create new systems around new goals and stick to them.
4. Get more active on social to showcase the new (or future-loading) you.
If you think constantly posting on social is cringe, you might want to forget the shame, apprehension, or snobbery, slap the dust off those LinkedIn, Facebook, or Instagram profiles, and showcase the new you on those platforms (or at least who you're shifting to be).
Personal branding isn't just for influencers. Create a content calendar, start posting at least once per week (as a way to, again, build a new habit of consistency and discipline), and simply showcase the new you. Think of it as a fun project just for your own enjoyment and personal satisfaction.
Take new photos for your personal website, your social media banners, and profile photos. And you don't necessarily need to do a full-on shoot for this. Maybe there are photos you've already taken that better reflect the new vibes you want out there, or simply set up an affordable tripod with your phone, go somewhere local with good daylight (i.e., your home office, living room, veranda, or apartment complex's lobby---all places I've taken great photos for websites) and get to snapping.
If you've been put in a box in terms of the expertise or skills you're known for, post useful information, blogs, videos, or other content that showcases new knowledge or areas of interest. Update your photos, share the latest news, watch the analytics, and find out how you can collaborate with others in the industry you're looking to break into.
If your reinvention includes more public speaking opportunities, research appointments, or a promotion in your current industry, showcase yourself like that powerhouse executive with real knowledge and talent and offer your unique way of breaking down processes, problem-solving, and everyday issues professionals face. Follow the people you admire who have actually done what you want to do (or similar) or who spark inspiration, self-discovery, and empowerment for you.
5. Do at least one thing that makes you afraid or is out of your comfort zone but is a big part of bringing the future new you to life.
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Known as the always responsible marketing manager but want to totally transition out to get into stand-up comedy? Hit up that Open Mike Night Amateur Talent Show, or audition once a week, even if you could face boos or rejection. Get a coach or agent. Join an acting class or improv group. Start doing social media videos or hosting small events of your own.
Need something to help you stand out and boost your confidence when you're trying to land clients? Ditch that long dark center-part lace front, and try a chic auburn bob. Change that makeup routine you've been doing for the past few years and start wearing other brands and colors.
Want to work on boosting your self-confidence while gaining a new skill? Start an outdoor running challenge, learn a new sport by joining a local team, or take lessons on how to play an instrument. The completion of the course or that 10th practice session alone will be exactly what you need to be bolder in other aspects of your career reinvention journey.
Track your progress either via a video diary (that you can keep private), photos, or journaling. This helps you to be able to review what has worked and what hasn't, and it can help you avoid repeating cycles that won't allow for reinvention.
If you find yourself super-challenged doing these things consistently, make that virtual (or in-person) appointment with a coach or therapist because there might be a need for self-exploration and mental wellness assistance before fully pursuing the reinvention plan, and that's absolutely okay.
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