Your current position may not have turned out to be what you imagined it would. Maybe a fast paced work environment isn't a great fit for you. Or maybe your awful job has revealed to you that you're in the wrong industry for what is you're trying to achieve long term...or maybe you just very plainly, hate your job.
It's okay to not be completely happy with where your at in life or at work. Millennial women have so much pressure pressed upon them to succeed and to do it early on in life. Like, so what you haven't created and sold an app that has made you a 23-year-old millionaire. It's your responsibility to design a life of fulfillment and happiness (and xoNecole's job to help you along the way), so if you think your job sucks you have choices.
Here's what to do:
1.Self assess.There are days when I loathe my job but I stop to ask myself, “Is this just a bad day or is working in publishing really not for you?” Is it the organization, leadership, or is that kind of job simply not what you want to do? Make a list of pros and cons of your current job and decide what things on that list you'll look for in your next job. Doing this will not only help you clarify what exactly you dislike about your current position, but it will also help you identify what you need from your current or next job in order to feel satisfied.
2. Have a chat with your boss.My mom taught me this one. She is an executive level woman at a Fortune 500 company and she says keeping the line of communication open with your boss will always work in your favor. She says that when she’s clear on what does or does not work for her team, she can delegate tasks to them accordingly. If you're not happy with the tasks, projects or position you have then you should communicate that. Your boss may be able to shift some things around so that you are satisfied with your workload, schedule or pay.
3. Reach out to those who already do what you want to do.I go on LinkedIn and look for people who do what I’d like to do. I read their job descriptions to identify the kind of skills that are valuable in that industry. I also reach out to them and ask for feedback on my résumé or for advice. Twitter is a great place to network. I’ve introduced myself casually to those in my industry on Twitter and some of them are now my mentors. Find people who have your dream job or work at a company you really love. Find out what steps they took to get there, if the company is hiring, and see if they can connect you to your desired department.
4. Pack a parachute. I have multiple streams of income. Yes, I intern at a major publication but I also freelance write, have my own blog, and oversee my own organization. Do like your mom said and “don’t put all your eggs in one basket, girl!” Have other avenues of gaining experience and working in your industry. Before you jump ship, make sure you've prepared for the leap. Set a specific date that you want to have found new employment elsewhere. Save up money for the transition and start applying to new positions.
Does your job suck? How are you coping or planning to moving on?
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Our teeth are connected to so many things - our nutrition, our confidence, and our overall mood. We often take for granted how important healthy teeth are, until issues like tooth sensitivity or gum recession come to remind us. Like most things related to our bodies, prevention is the best medicine. Here are five things you can do immediately to improve your oral hygiene, prevent tooth sensitivity, and avoid dental issues down the road.
1) Go Easy On the Rough Brushing: Brushing your teeth is and always will be priority number one in the oral hygiene department. No surprises there! However, there is such a thing as applying too much pressure when brushing…and that can lead to problems over time. Use a toothbrush with soft bristles and brush in smooth, circular motions. It may seem counterintuitive, but a gentle approach to brushing is the most effective way to clean those pearly whites without wearing away enamel and exposing sensitive areas of the teeth.
2) Use A Desensitizing Toothpaste: As everyone knows, mouth pain can be highly uncomfortable; but tooth sensitivity is a whole different beast. Hot weather favorites like ice cream and popsicles have the ability to trigger tooth sensitivity, which might make you want to stay away from icy foods altogether. But as always, prevention is the best medicine here. Switching to a toothpaste like Sensodyne’s Sensitivity & Gum toothpaste specifically designed for sensitive teeth will help build a protective layer over sensitive areas of the tooth. Over time, those sharp sensations that occur with extremely cold foods will subside, and you’ll be back to treating yourself to your icy faves like this one!
3) Floss, Rinse, Brush. (And In That Order!): Have you ever heard the saying, “It’s not what you do, but how you do it”? Well, the same thing applies to taking care of your teeth. Even if you are flossing and brushing religiously, you could be missing out on some of the benefits simply because you aren’t doing so in the right order. Flossing is best to do before brushing because it removes food particles and plaque from places your toothbrush can’t reach. After a proper flossing sesh, it is important to rinse out your mouth with water after. Finally, you can whip out your toothbrush and get to brushing. Though many of us commonly rinse with water after brushing to remove excess toothpaste, it may not be the best thing for our teeth. That’s because fluoride, the active ingredient in toothpaste that protects your enamel, works best when it gets to sit on the teeth and continue working its magic. Rinsing with water after brushing doesn’t let the toothpaste go to work like it really can. Changing up your order may take some getting used to, but over time, you’ll see the difference.
4) Stay Hydrated: Upping your water supply is a no-fail way to level up your health overall, and your teeth are no exception to this rule. Drinking water not only helps maintain a healthy pH balance in your mouth, but it also washes away residue and acids that can cause enamel erosion. It also helps you steer clear of dry mouth, which is a gateway to bad breath. And who needs that?
5) Show Your Gums Some Love: When it comes to improving your smile, you may be laser-focused on getting your teeth whiter, straighter, and overall healthier. Rightfully so, as these are all attributes of a megawatt smile; but you certainly don’t want to leave gum health out of the equation. If you neglect your gums, you’ll start to notice the effects of plaque buildup, which can irritate the gums and cause gingivitis, the earliest stage of gum disease. Seeing blood while brushing and flossing is a tell-tale sign that your gums are suffering. You may also experience gum recession — a condition where the gum tissue surrounding your teeth pulls back, exposing more of your tooth. Brushing at least twice a day with a gum-protecting toothpaste like Sensodyne Sensitivity and Gum, coupled with regular dentist visits, will keep your gums shining as bright as those pearly whites.
Watching Angela “Blac Chyna” White’s transformation in real-time has truly been a sight to see. It wasn’t that long ago that she announced that she was reversing her cosmetic surgeries in an effort to go back to who she was before the world came to know her as Blac Chyna. In previous interviews, she stated that she was dissolving her facial and lip fillers, removing her breast implants, and getting a butt reduction, as well as removing the dimple piercings that enhanced her fame and controversial tattoos.
In a recent Tamron Hall interview, the mother of two said that she has “fully recovered” from the procedures. She is also celebrating one year of sobriety and opened up about being worried about how her new journey would be received by others.
“I’ve been in the entertainment industry for so long, right, and of course, like, you know, coming out, I’m like young, I’m gonna do wild things as we all have,” she said.
“...I feel like by me being vocal and showing everybody you can change your life and things can get better, like through myself, that right there is an accomplishment, and that’s a part of freedom, too.”
But as she started on her journey, many people have shown her grace, which is something she’s grateful for. “And then the fact that people have been showing me grace, it’s like amazing,” she said. “And I feel like when I did it, I just did it. It was more so like spiritual thing and I feel like people see that, and I’ve always been like my authentic self, so what you see is kinda what you get with me, and that’s just kinda what it is.”
Chyna, who recently received an honorary doctorate from Sacramento Theology Seminary and Bible College, has also repaired her relationship with her mom, Tokyo Toni. The social media celebrity surprised her daughter on the Tamron Hall Show. Prior to the sentimental surprise, Chyna dished on the reconciliation and having a better understanding of her mom.
“I must say, some of the things I have to take accountability for because, like my actions. As a mother, you don’t want to see your daughter doing certain things ‘cause it’s like it doesn’t matter what my past was or what we’re going through, I didn’t raise you that way,” she admitted. “So, it’s like, okay, maybe I was a little bit wrong. Maybe I was acting out a little bit. But I feel like as we grow older, I kinda see more, and I understand more.”
Chyna will be starring in season two of Fox's reality competition show Special Forces: World's Toughest Test.
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