Kelly Rowland & Her Husband Say Role Play Is The Best-Kept Bedroom Secret
Marriage means having sex with the same penis, in the same bed, in the same positions for the rest of your life and the monotony of it all is depressing.
Be that as it may, contrary to popular belief, there is one way to have a night alone with a handsome stranger that doesn't involve a stranger at all. In fact, you can unleash your inner hot girl, spice up your sex life, and get your freak on from the comfort of your own home by implementing what Kelly Rowland calls one of her best-kept bedroom secrets.
The "Coffee" singer, who has been married to her husband, Tim Weatherspoon, since 2014, recently sat down with PEOPLEand explained why incorporating role play into your nighttime routine is the spark your marriage didn't know it needed. Kelly, (or Ms. Alicia, if you're nasty) explained that even after hitting the 5-year mark in their marriage, she and her husband are intentional about keeping their bedroom lit:
"As far as sex is concerned, I'm like, 'Well, if I have to play dress up and do role play, honey, if I need to be Alicia tonight and give you a surprise in the middle of the night or something, then it needs to happen. We spice things up a bit and keep it fun. When we met each other, we had fun. Two years from now, we'll have fun. I think if you hold that close to you, it can always show itself in your relationship."
Along with unveiling her alter ego from time-to-time, Kelly says that self-discovery and healing have been key in making their love story a reality. Despite being ordered to stay at home during quarantine, the singer says that she and her husband have still been committed to making couple's therapy a priority:
"If I wasn't taking the time to get to know myself better in this crisis, we would be struggling. We go to therapy every week and we're so proud of it. It's just to keep the relationship and the space of communication open, [so we're] ready for each other. I have a husband who supports me and is there for me and loves me and I'm the same for him. I met my best friend. There's nothing that we can't talk about."
"When I meet an older couple, I always ask them, 'What's the one thing that can break up a marriage?' and they're like, 'Money and communication.' With every challenge, there is a solution and I think he and I have grown to talk about everything."
In the interview, Kelly explained that although her beliefs on marriage wavered in the past, the last six years have assured her that divorce has never been and will never be an option for her and Tim.
"Before I was married, I was like, 'Well, if it doesn't work, you just get a divorce.' [But now,] that's not an option for me. That's not an option for me because I know I have a good man. I know I have someone that loves me unconditionally and we're gonna sort this thing out, we're gonna figure it out. Above anything, we've got faith and we've got each other. Marriage means a lot to me. It's something that I hold very sacred."
To read Kelly's full article, click here!
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
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THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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How A Stay At Switzerland's Luxurious 7132 Hotel Reminded Me To Live The Life I Deserve
Sometimes, as women—especially as single Black women—we simply need to be reminded that we are deserving of living a life we dream of. Even if that means creating it for ourselves. I recently set out on a weeklong trip to Switzerland, a trip I’ve been wanting to take for years, and near the end of my visit, I had an epiphany.
“DeAnna, this is the life you deserve,” I thought to myself as I took in the gorgeous bathroom in my suite at the famous 7132 Hotel and Thermal Spa. It was one of the most luxurious hotels (and bathrooms) I had ever stayed in—and that’s saying a lot for someone who often travels for work.
To help you better understand why this was such a mental awakening for me, I first need to give a bit of my backstory. I’m in my late thirties. I’m an attorneyand a journalist. I own a home and have traveled the world extensively. Essentially, I’ve done everything in life I set out to do. However, when it comes to dating, I struggle. Not because there is anything wrong with me per se, but because my career and “lifestyle” often create problems in my romantic relationships.
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I’ve been told everything from, ‘I can’t continue to date you because you seem to choose your career over wanting to settle down and have kids’ by a man after only the second date to ‘Maybe if you just sat down somewhere for a while, I’d actually wife you’ by someone who has honestly never proven themselves to be the settle down type. And these are only a handful of the things I’ve been told over the years.
It’s been frustrating, to say the least, and there have even been seasons where I purposely dimmed my light in hopes that my career wouldn’t push away potential suitors. I know what you’re thinking, “Girl, why would you even consider that? If they’re for you, it won’t matter what you do.” Hey, don’t judge me, but also, I one hundred percent agree.
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That’s why this recent moment in Switzerland was right on time. When I first walked into the hotel to check in, I was blown away by the surrounding beauty. It was a five-star property with one of the world’s most famous thermal bathhouses. Yet, it was something about seeing that 90% of the hotel’s guests were couples, that forced me to sit back for a bit of introspection—while soaking in the thermal spa, of course.
As I went through the mental conversation, there was a battle of sorts. On one hand, I knew that being able to partake in experiences like the one I was having at that moment was important to me. I knew that, at times I actually love being able to dabble in the finer things—after all, I’ve worked hard to be able to afford them. On the other hand, and sadly, I knew that sometimes being a single Black woman that publicly showcases her “luxurious” habits can intimidate men and even scare them off from pursuing you under the guise of them feeling like they “can’t do anything for you, because you have everything.”
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So, what is a girl to do?
Do I minimize/hide the life and experiences that I have? Do I play down the hard work I’ve put in to get where I am professionally? Or, do I risk being single in exchange for being able to have said life, without backlash?
Luckily, the joy that I felt while being at this property won. There was something about taking a full day to simply pamper myself at the bathhouse and in my in-room steam shower and soaker tub, indulging in cuisine from a 2-star Michelin restaurant and doing all of this while surrounded by an amazing group of Black women that reminded me—this is certainly the life I was meant to live and that I deserve. Even if it means that right now, I’ll just have to provide it for myself until the right partner comes along. And honestly, I’m okay with that.
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