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Kelly Rowland & Her Husband Say Role Play Is The Best-Kept Bedroom Secret

Even after hitting the 5-year mark in their marriage, she and her husband are intentional about keeping their bedroom lit.

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Marriage means having sex with the same penis, in the same bed, in the same positions for the rest of your life and the monotony of it all is depressing.

Be that as it may, contrary to popular belief, there is one way to have a night alone with a handsome stranger that doesn't involve a stranger at all. In fact, you can unleash your inner hot girl, spice up your sex life, and get your freak on from the comfort of your own home by implementing what Kelly Rowland calls one of her best-kept bedroom secrets.

The "Coffee" singer, who has been married to her husband, Tim Weatherspoon, since 2014, recently sat down with PEOPLEand explained why incorporating role play into your nighttime routine is the spark your marriage didn't know it needed. Kelly, (or Ms. Alicia, if you're nasty) explained that even after hitting the 5-year mark in their marriage, she and her husband are intentional about keeping their bedroom lit:

"As far as sex is concerned, I'm like, 'Well, if I have to play dress up and do role play, honey, if I need to be Alicia tonight and give you a surprise in the middle of the night or something, then it needs to happen. We spice things up a bit and keep it fun. When we met each other, we had fun. Two years from now, we'll have fun. I think if you hold that close to you, it can always show itself in your relationship."

Along with unveiling her alter ego from time-to-time, Kelly says that self-discovery and healing have been key in making their love story a reality. Despite being ordered to stay at home during quarantine, the singer says that she and her husband have still been committed to making couple's therapy a priority:

"If I wasn't taking the time to get to know myself better in this crisis, we would be struggling. We go to therapy every week and we're so proud of it. It's just to keep the relationship and the space of communication open, [so we're] ready for each other. I have a husband who supports me and is there for me and loves me and I'm the same for him. I met my best friend. There's nothing that we can't talk about."
"When I meet an older couple, I always ask them, 'What's the one thing that can break up a marriage?' and they're like, 'Money and communication.' With every challenge, there is a solution and I think he and I have grown to talk about everything."

In the interview, Kelly explained that although her beliefs on marriage wavered in the past, the last six years have assured her that divorce has never been and will never be an option for her and Tim.

"Before I was married, I was like, 'Well, if it doesn't work, you just get a divorce.' [But now,] that's not an option for me. That's not an option for me because I know I have a good man. I know I have someone that loves me unconditionally and we're gonna sort this thing out, we're gonna figure it out. Above anything, we've got faith and we've got each other. Marriage means a lot to me. It's something that I hold very sacred."

To read Kelly's full article, click here!

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Amira Unplugged

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