We're all familiar with the analogy about the cow and the free milk as it relates to sex before marriage, but to keep it G with you, I'm not cattle and I need to try before I buy, periodt. Marriage is a major commitment that is only superseded by death, and I don't want to spend the rest of my life with a man that doesn't totally "get me" in the bedroom, but there are a number of women that disagree with this perspective.
Ciara, Adrienne Houghton, and Tamera Mowry-Housely have all been open about choosing celibacy before marriage, and Fantasia Taylor recently revealed that she and her husband also refrained from knocking the boots until their wedding night, which was only three weeks after they met for the first time. In a recent interview with Angela Yee's Lip Service, Fantasia shared that although she and her husband jumped the broom in a relatively short amount of time, their connection was instantaneous. The 35-year-old singer explained:
"When I first met my husband, this was the keeper. We became friends first, and we got married very, very fast. We got married in three weeks! I'm a hopeless romantic!"
Fantasia went on to share the moment she knew her-now husband was "the one," and stressed the importance of having a man that will pray for you.
"I knew he was the one when I was getting ready to go on the road and he kneeled down and was like, 'Can I cover you?' And I was like, 'Cover me?' He kneeled down and started praying. And I couldn't even get caught up in the prayer, 'cause I was like, 'Is this real?'"
Over time, the singer says that Kendall eventually turned out to be everything that she prayed for and more and ultimately found that he aligned with the goals that she had set for marriage perfectly. Along with praying for her, Fantasia says that she and her husband shared the desire to refrain from sex until saying their vows in front of God:
"We were married before we made love. That was one of the things I wanted, too. There were just certain things that I asked God for that he brought to me through my husband."
While Fantasia and her hubby have gone the traditional route when it comes to most matters in their marriage, their love story is wildly unconventional in a number of ways. Along with marrying in only a short time, Fantasia also said in the past that Kendall was the one who requested a prenuptial agreement before marrying.
"He wanted the prenup and I think that was a dope move. Because he wanted people to know. I don't want you for… [your money.]"
I'm a firm believer in doing what works for you, and if that means keeping your cookies in the jar while you get your (less than) 90-Day Fiance all the way on, go off, sis!
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