Fantasia Talks Marrying Her Husband Three Weeks After They Met
We're all familiar with the analogy about the cow and the free milk as it relates to sex before marriage, but to keep it G with you, I'm not cattle and I need to try before I buy, periodt. Marriage is a major commitment that is only superseded by death, and I don't want to spend the rest of my life with a man that doesn't totally "get me" in the bedroom, but there are a number of women that disagree with this perspective.
Ciara, Adrienne Houghton, and Tamera Mowry-Housely have all been open about choosing celibacy before marriage, and Fantasia Taylor recently revealed that she and her husband also refrained from knocking the boots until their wedding night, which was only three weeks after they met for the first time. In a recent interview with Angela Yee's Lip Service, Fantasia shared that although she and her husband jumped the broom in a relatively short amount of time, their connection was instantaneous. The 35-year-old singer explained:
"When I first met my husband, this was the keeper. We became friends first, and we got married very, very fast. We got married in three weeks! I'm a hopeless romantic!"
Fantasia went on to share the moment she knew her-now husband was "the one," and stressed the importance of having a man that will pray for you.
"I knew he was the one when I was getting ready to go on the road and he kneeled down and was like, 'Can I cover you?' And I was like, 'Cover me?' He kneeled down and started praying. And I couldn't even get caught up in the prayer, 'cause I was like, 'Is this real?'"
Over time, the singer says that Kendall eventually turned out to be everything that she prayed for and more and ultimately found that he aligned with the goals that she had set for marriage perfectly. Along with praying for her, Fantasia says that she and her husband shared the desire to refrain from sex until saying their vows in front of God:
"We were married before we made love. That was one of the things I wanted, too. There were just certain things that I asked God for that he brought to me through my husband."
While Fantasia and her hubby have gone the traditional route when it comes to most matters in their marriage, their love story is wildly unconventional in a number of ways. Along with marrying in only a short time, Fantasia also said in the past that Kendall was the one who requested a prenuptial agreement before marrying.
"He wanted the prenup and I think that was a dope move. Because he wanted people to know. I don't want you for… [your money.]"
I'm a firm believer in doing what works for you, and if that means keeping your cookies in the jar while you get your (less than) 90-Day Fiance all the way on, go off, sis!
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Taylor "Pretty" Honore is a spiritually centered and equally provocative rapper from Baton Rouge, Louisiana with a love for people and storytelling. You can probably find me planting herbs in your local community garden, blasting "Back That Thang Up" from my mini speaker. Let's get to know each other: @prettyhonore.
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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How A Stay At Switzerland's Luxurious 7132 Hotel Reminded Me To Live The Life I Deserve
Sometimes, as women—especially as single Black women—we simply need to be reminded that we are deserving of living a life we dream of. Even if that means creating it for ourselves. I recently set out on a weeklong trip to Switzerland, a trip I’ve been wanting to take for years, and near the end of my visit, I had an epiphany.
“DeAnna, this is the life you deserve,” I thought to myself as I took in the gorgeous bathroom in my suite at the famous 7132 Hotel and Thermal Spa. It was one of the most luxurious hotels (and bathrooms) I had ever stayed in—and that’s saying a lot for someone who often travels for work.
To help you better understand why this was such a mental awakening for me, I first need to give a bit of my backstory. I’m in my late thirties. I’m an attorneyand a journalist. I own a home and have traveled the world extensively. Essentially, I’ve done everything in life I set out to do. However, when it comes to dating, I struggle. Not because there is anything wrong with me per se, but because my career and “lifestyle” often create problems in my romantic relationships.
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I’ve been told everything from, ‘I can’t continue to date you because you seem to choose your career over wanting to settle down and have kids’ by a man after only the second date to ‘Maybe if you just sat down somewhere for a while, I’d actually wife you’ by someone who has honestly never proven themselves to be the settle down type. And these are only a handful of the things I’ve been told over the years.
It’s been frustrating, to say the least, and there have even been seasons where I purposely dimmed my light in hopes that my career wouldn’t push away potential suitors. I know what you’re thinking, “Girl, why would you even consider that? If they’re for you, it won’t matter what you do.” Hey, don’t judge me, but also, I one hundred percent agree.
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That’s why this recent moment in Switzerland was right on time. When I first walked into the hotel to check in, I was blown away by the surrounding beauty. It was a five-star property with one of the world’s most famous thermal bathhouses. Yet, it was something about seeing that 90% of the hotel’s guests were couples, that forced me to sit back for a bit of introspection—while soaking in the thermal spa, of course.
As I went through the mental conversation, there was a battle of sorts. On one hand, I knew that being able to partake in experiences like the one I was having at that moment was important to me. I knew that, at times I actually love being able to dabble in the finer things—after all, I’ve worked hard to be able to afford them. On the other hand, and sadly, I knew that sometimes being a single Black woman that publicly showcases her “luxurious” habits can intimidate men and even scare them off from pursuing you under the guise of them feeling like they “can’t do anything for you, because you have everything.”
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So, what is a girl to do?
Do I minimize/hide the life and experiences that I have? Do I play down the hard work I’ve put in to get where I am professionally? Or, do I risk being single in exchange for being able to have said life, without backlash?
Luckily, the joy that I felt while being at this property won. There was something about taking a full day to simply pamper myself at the bathhouse and in my in-room steam shower and soaker tub, indulging in cuisine from a 2-star Michelin restaurant and doing all of this while surrounded by an amazing group of Black women that reminded me—this is certainly the life I was meant to live and that I deserve. Even if it means that right now, I’ll just have to provide it for myself until the right partner comes along. And honestly, I’m okay with that.
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