I got six jobs, I don't get tired!
While I love this song by Kevin Gates, I don't care what he says, it doesn't matter if you are juggling two, three, four, or six jobs, you can get tired.
Tired physically, emotionally, and intellectually.
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Managing more than one job will test your patience and confidence, but it is definitely possible. While I'm not sure about the six jobs thing that Kevin Gates talks about (like really, who has time to work six jobs), I do think that having multiple jobs is possible.
When you work more than one job, be prepared to put in more than 40 hours a week, and see the financial gains as well. Sometimes depending on onesource of income doesn't cut it, and you also may see the value in having multiple sources of income.
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Working multiple jobs and having more than one source of income is very common. According to the U.S. Department of Labor, about 7 to 8 million of Americans (about 5% percent of all workers) work multiple jobs. Some people do it because of financial reasons, some people do it to gain experiences in another industry or field, and some people do it to live out their passion because their 9-5 won't allow them to do it. Nonetheless, people are looking for more ways to sustain their lifestyle, make more money, and work in industries that they are passionate about.
Recently, Drake spoke of his previous acting career, and claimed that he was forced to choose between acting and music. As you may know, Drake was an actor on Degrassi: The Next Generation, and during his acting years he had a passion for music. While acting, Drake was also in the studio, and he told W Magazine, “That was part of the reason I was kicked off the show."
He continued by saying, "Back then, I'd spend a full day on set and then go to the studio to make music until 4 or 5 a.m. I'd sleep in my dressing room and then be in front of the cameras again by 9 a.m. Eventually, they realized I was juggling two professions and told me I had to choose. I chose this life." In the interview, Drake also told the magazine, “I can't wait to get back into acting. No one ever asks me to do movies, and, although music is my focal point now, I'd love to do a film. That was the life that I lived before, and it would be interesting to live it again."
Despite the naysayers, Drake proved that you can juggle more than one job at once, but you have to be willing to put in the extra work. Although Drake wasn't able to continue his acting career with Degrassi, I learned a valuable lesson from his experience: Never let someone tell you that you can't do more than one thing at once.
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For some aspiring entrepreneurs, we sometimes let go of our dreams because of what other people think, to make other people happy, or because we lack in other areas like time management, organization, and prioritizing. But having more than one hustle is definitely possible, and a smart way to make more cash - who doesn't love more money anyway? Working more than one job means early mornings, late nights, and a multitude of diverse responsibilities, so sometimes it is hard to maintain balance, your sanity, and commitment to each job.
Before you lose your mind or say to hell with your other side hustles, I recommend that you consider my 6 tips on managing multiple jobs.
1.Plan your week ahead of time
Every Sunday before you go to sleep, figure out the big picture for each job and what you need to accomplish for each that week. Set priorities and make a realistic schedule, and set reminders for yourself as well. For example, there are a multitude of things that I use to stay organized. I have a paper planner that I use so that I don't put myself in a position where I have too many things going on at once. I utilize my Google and iPhone calendar heavily to jot down any meetings that I have or when I will work on certain things. I even have my meals and workouts planned for the week as well. I schedule what days I will go out for a run and decide if I will do a morning jog or evening jog. I even plan out what days I can go to the gym and schedule how much time I will spend there.
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Between my planner and my calendar apps, I am able to stay organized without feeling and looking like #teamnosleep. Having under-eye bags is not cute, and being overly tired doesn't benefit you or your many jobs. Not only are you tired, but you are less productive, less organized, and the work that you put out may not be as great. Planning your week ahead of time will help you work smarter, not harder.
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2.Be selective
When you are looking for ways to make extra money, try to find something that can further develop you. I don't recommend working three or four jobs that you are not passionate about and that you don't have an interest in. There is no point in putting your time and energy in work that you don't like. Now I understand that you may have multiple jobs because you need extra money. Even if you are not able to work in your desired field at your second job, find a way to learn valuable skills that can be transferable. For example, if you want to be a journalist, it may be hard to automatically get a writing gig at Ebony or People magazine. As a result, try to become a blogger for a smaller magazine or website to get your name out there and a portfolio. Although you are not living out your dream job, you are building the necessary skills that a journalist should have.
3. Don't spend all of your extra money
More jobs mean more cash. This means that you can save more, and invest in something. Your second job shouldn't mean that you can now go and out buy the red bottoms that you want, or swipe your card at stores that you wouldn't dare walk in when you were balling on a budget. I am not saying that you shouldn't reward yourself, but I am telling you that you shouldn't go crazy with your spending. When you start receiving those extra checks, make a plan to pay your bills, put a certain percentage in your savings, and then a little to yourself.
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4. Be honest with your bosses
When you have more than one job, there will be times when you may need a more flexible schedule. Be honest with all of your bosses and let them know what is going on. Although you used to be able to work a ton of overtime at your first company, you probably can't afford to do that now since you have another job. The idea of managing more than one job means that you need to be honest with yourself and figure out how much you can give to each job. When I first ventured out as a blogger, I told my boss about it. I wanted her to be aware for scheduling reasons and for other functions at work that I would normally partake in when I had the extra time.
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5. Don't forget to take care of you as well
As I mentioned earlier, when you work more than one job, you run into the possibility of getting tired. Being tired is normal, but you never want to put yourself in the position where you are burnt out. Take out time for yourself to do things that you like to do and learn how to unwind. For me, having a glass of Merlot while watching Scandal and polishing my nails helps me unwind (sometimes I even bring out my foot massager, some lemons, and essential oils and give myself an AMAZING pedicure - nail shop who?). I don't watch much TV, but I haveto have my Scandal fix every Thursday.
On the same note, you should also find time to be physically active and to eat healthy. Having a healthy diet will give you the energy and nutrients that you need to be successful. For me, cooking is also relaxing. I try to find time at least once a week to throw down in the kitchen making my Pinterest faves.
Last but not least, find time to SLEEP. Getting your beauty rest is important and during this time you are giving your mind and body a chance to just chill out.
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6. Know when you should say 'no'
When I first gained an interest in writing, I joined too many teams. I was writing different posts for several sites, my own personal site, and on top of all of that I was in graduate school and working a full-time job. I was too insecure to let a job go because I didn't want to feel like a failure. There is a saying that God won't give you more than you can bear, but I also believe God gave you a sound mind to make wise decisions. Don't be crazy and overwork yourself to the point that you are burnt out and depressed. It's okay to say no, and not accept every opportunity that comes your way. Even more, it's okay to cut the cord on certain projects or jobs when it becomes too overwhelming.
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Are you someone that works more than one job? Let us know how you stay organized and what you do to stop yourself from going crazy with a lot of work.
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Step 1: Schedule Your Reset Meeting
The first step to hitting the reset button is a State of the Union meeting with your partner. This is your chance to take a pulse on the relationship, discuss what's working, and identify areas that need attention. It’s all about creating space to reflect, without distractions.
Grab a pen and paper (or open a shared note on your phone) and come prepared to share your top 2-3 desires for your relationship.
What do you both want to feel more of in 2025? Maybe it’s feeling more appreciated, or perhaps you want to reignite the passion you had when you first started dating. Whatever it is, get clear about it, and make sure both of you are on the same page.
This isn’t just about listing your own wants, it’s also about discussing ways to nurture each other’s needs. Relationship goals should be focused on fostering deeper intimacy, trust, and mutual respect. Use this time to check in, not only with each other but with your individual feelings and expectations. Set the foundation for a fulfilling year ahead.
Alistair Berg/Getty ImagesStep 2: Set A Date (Or Multiple!)
Having the meeting is only the first step. Now, it’s time to take action. One of the simplest ways to breathe new life into a relationship is by reintroducing consistent, intentional time spent together. For many couples, life gets busy, and date nights fall by the wayside. But dating doesn’t stop when you say "I do"—in fact, it’s even more essential.
During your reset meeting, lock in a regular date night that works for both of your schedules. This could be a weekly dinner date or an every-other-week adventure—whatever keeps things fresh. The goal is consistency. It’s easy to push date nights aside when life gets hectic, but if you set a specific date each week or month, you’re making your relationship a priority.
If you’re unsure what to do for your date nights, don’t worry! The key is creating new experiences together. This is what sparks excitement and brings you closer as a couple. Whether it’s cooking a new recipe together, trying a dance class, or exploring a nearby town, it’s about creating shared memories that build your connection.
Getty ImagesStep 3: Find an Accountability Partner
Just like you might have a personal trainer to help you crush your fitness goals, an accountability partner for your relationship can do wonders for keeping both of you on track. Consider hiring a marriage coach or therapist—someone who can meet you where you are and guide you in strengthening your relationship.
When selecting a professional, it’s important to choose someone who truly wants the best for your marriage and can provide actionable advice.
Don’t be afraid to set high standards for your relationship, and seek guidance on how to keep it thriving for the long haul. In your reset meeting, discuss your commitment to growth, and be honest about areas where you may need support.
Marriage isn’t a set-it-and-forget-it endeavor—it’s an ongoing process. Regular check-ins with a professional can help keep your relationship in tip-top shape and “divorce-proof” by addressing issues before they become insurmountable.
DMP/ Getty ImagesStep 4: Try Something New Together
Stale routines can easily make a relationship feel monotonous. Spice things up by trying something new! Couples that explore new activities and create new memories together have stronger, more fulfilling bonds.
My husband and I host one of the top luxury marriage retreats, A Weekend For Love, designed to help couples experience new things together. From couples' workshops to outdoor adventures, the retreat provides a platform to rediscover each other and reconnect on a deeper level.
The element of surprise can reignite your connection. It’s exciting, fresh, and shows your partner that you’re committed to growing together. This doesn’t have to be a huge commitment—it could be as simple as trying a new hobby or planning an impromptu weekend getaway.
Your Relationship Should Be A Priority
As you start the year with personal goals in mind, don’t forget the importance of nurturing your relationship. It’s easy to get caught up in work, fitness, and family obligations, but your bond with your partner deserves to be at the top of your list. Resetting your relationship offers an opportunity to reignite that spark and remind each other why you fell in love in the first place.
In 2025, make a commitment to prioritize your partnership, to nurture it daily, and to invest in its growth. Take time to celebrate each other’s victories, support one another’s dreams, and build a foundation of love and respect. When you start the year with a clear focus on your relationship, you’re setting it up for success.
So, before you start mapping out your new workout plan or work goals, do yourself a favor: put your relationship at the top of that list. Your love story deserves a fresh start, too.
Happy New Year, and here’s to a love-filled 2025!
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The U.S. self-care industry is worth billions of dollars, but creating a beneficial self-care routine doesn’t have to break the bank. In fact, practicing self-care is much simpler than you might think.
Here are 7 ideas to help you refresh your self-care routine.
1.Get Curious
Self-care isn’t one-size-fits-all. What works for a friend or family member might not work for you. Therefore, gaining clarity about what you want, or need, in order to pour into yourself is vital. Ask yourself the following questions before you get started for guidance:
- What do I want more of in order to relax? What do I want less of?
- What are my core values and how can I implement them into my routine?
- What activities light me up inside?
- What am I currently doing that drains my energy or wastes my time?
2.Learn a New Skill
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Learning a new skill not only challenges your brain in the best way, but it can also help you feel better too! According to Psychology Today, learning something new– even if it’s just for fun– keeps your brain engaged and healthy. Plus, self-discovery and self-care go hand in hand. Not only will you expand your mind, but you’ll also increase your sense of well-being by taking up a hobby that challenges and intrigues you. To get started, consider the following:
- Cooking a dish from a region you’re not accustomed to
- Gardening
- Sewing or knitting
- Learning a foreign language
- Playing a new sport
- Painting or drawing
- Photography
- Learning to play an instrument
3.Write Yourself a Letter
When was the last time you recognized the parts of yourself that you absolutely love, outside of your role as a mother? Writing a self-love letter is a simple yet effective self-care activity that will fill your cup. You can list the characteristics you love about yourself in bullet form. You can choose to focus on a tender memory that shaped your life or simply brought you joy. Or you can write to your inner child, praising yourself for the person you are today.
There’s no right or wrong way to write the letter since it’s solely for you. You can be as extravagant or detailed as you want. You can boast, you can brag, you can flex– it’s up to you. Simply focus on the positive aspects of your being (big or small) and watch the words flow. But most importantly, allow the letter to serve as a gentle reminder that you are worthy of love.
4.Try a New Product
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Sometimes self-care calls for products that help you relax. As a busy mom with tons on your schedule, a subscription box offers ways to sample new self-care products each month. Companies like Black Girl Magic Box curate health and wellness products from Black-owned businesses.
Do you need a bit of R&R but can’t pencil in a spa day? Refresh your bath and body products with Naked Bar Soap Co.’s luxurious soaps, body oils, and bath bombs to wind down at home. After unwinding, don’t forget that sleep is an essential part of self-care. Investing in products like sleep masks, weighted blankets, high-quality pajama sets, and essential oil diffusers can take your rest to the next level.
5.Schedule “Me Time”
Alone time can be hard to come by but it’s vital for mental health. Periods of solitude can reduce stress and give us a chance to check in with ourselves. When our brains have time to disconnect from life’s stressors when we’re secluded, we’re able to pour back into our families and friends when we return.
For some, "me time" might look like sitting in the car for ten minutes after returning from work. Or maybe it’s enlisting a babysitter to watch your children while you take yourself out on a date. Maybe it’s locking your bedroom door and catching up on your favorite shows while your partner holds down the fort. However you decide to carve out time for yourself, remember to hold fast to it. Add it to your calendar. Cancel plans with others if need be. Your alone time is non-negotiable and deserves space in your life.
6.Practice Gratitude
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Reflecting on the things we’re grateful for is a guaranteed mood booster. Not only that, but it provides an opportunity for introspection, too. There are hosts of gratitude journals that offer writing prompts and nuggets to reflect on, but a regular journal works just as well. If you’re new to journaling, don’t feel pressured to practice it daily. Jotting your thoughts down once a week or once a month is just as impactful.
Affirmations are another way to reflect on the good in your life (or the good that is on its way). They are typically short in length and easy to read or memorize. Place them in areas you frequent throughout the day– think bathroom mirror, car, or office– for a daily reminder of the beauty around you.
7.Get Grounded
Grounding, or earthing, is a therapeutic technique that involves activities that place you in contact with the earth. Examples of grounding include walking barefoot in the grass or sitting/lying on the ground. People who participate in grounding report an increase in mood and a decrease in anxiety and depression.
If skin-to-earth contact isn’t your vibe, taking part in outdoor activities is another self-care option. Attend a yoga class in the park. Go for a leisurely hike. Or simply sit on a bench. Being outdoors for even just a few minutes is enough to boost your mental well-being.
Motherhood comes with tasks that are constantly vying for our attention. And even though we know how important pouring into ourselves is, we don’t want to abandon our self-care routine because we’re burdened by it. The goal is to incorporate self-care activities into our daily lives in a sustainable way. It might take some trial and error to figure out what works for your lifestyle, but it’s worth the effort. You are worth the effort.
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Originally published on February 8, 2023