It's one thing to get over the fear of having the conversation, but having to keep having it is like, "Seriously?" There were so many times when I had to exhale a sigh of relief because I finally brought up something that was irritating me, only for it to happen again shortly after. Like dude, we literally just had this conversation. But looking at it from his perspective, he can't flip the switch on the way he's wired overnight. I'll be real, sometimes his lack of changing on my timeframe would discourage me from saying something at all.

Why keep bringing it up if it's going to keep happening? Instead of coming down on him and rudely reminding him of the multiple times we've discussed it, I found that it was better for me to tell him in the moment that this was an example of what he did that bothered me. Sometimes guys take longer to actually get stuff. Bless their hearts. It takes time, and not just a conversation.