

The grind is real. And most of the time, it can get too real; to the point where our bodies have to tell us, it's time to chill for a day. But typically, feeling overwhelmed and frustrated without a relief in sight isn't the first sign that we need a break. This is especially true when it comes to our mental status.
Taking a mental health day doesn't mean you're lazy or don't appreciate the value of the hustle. It just means that you value your emotional state and will do what you need to in order to keep it intact. And you don't have to wait until you have a breakdown to do it. Instead, keep in mind these signs that you need a mental health day:
7 Signs You Need A Mental Health Day
1.You’re Consistently Unmotivated and Uninspired
Doing the same thing day in and day out, day by day can get really unmotivating. Whether you're an entrepreneur or working your dream 9-5, it's really easy to feel like you're caught in the rat race as you face one mundane day after another. The solution could be to take a mental health day.
Take a day to do something you enjoy that will reignite your passions, or just watch a funny movie to get back up in high spirits. Then, when you go back to your responsibilities, you'll be renewed, refreshed, and restored, ready for what the day will bring as well as ideas on how to spice it up.
2.You’re All Over The Place
If you notice you have a recent pattern of misplacing things, forgetting appointments and responsibilities, and just feel like you can't focus or complete a task in a timely manner, a mental health day is in order. You can use this day to get back on track and create a schedule, a calendar, or whatever you need to not just remember things, but see them coming so you don't feel overwhelmed.
Create a new habit of looking at your calendar the night before to get prepared and fill in anything you might have missed. Whatever you do, take a day to plan, budget, and get yourself intact mentally, to prevent an inevitable breakdown in the future.
3.You Make Rash Decisions
From going too far during a day of retail therapy to channeling your inner Sanaa Lathan on Nappily Ever After– making a drastic change at the drop of a hat can be a hint that you could use a good old mental health day.
It's like you're trying to find some type of relief, and all you can think of is to buy more clothes when in reality, you need a mental break. I know it's so much easier said than done but taking it can make a world of a difference.
4.You’re On Edge
We've all had moments when we're sitting on ready waiting for someone to say something so we can react with no filter. At times, it gets so bad that we misunderstand what someone is really saying just so we have an excuse to react and let out emotions that have been building up over time.
When you feel like you can go off on any given person at any given minute, it might be time to take a mental health day sis. Relax with a massage, a hot bath, a book, or all of the above! Taking a break from the hustle and bustle of life and just getting back to you and who you really are can do wonders.
5.You’re Fatigued But Can’t Sleep
…Or you sleep more than usual. Getting off of your sleep cycle regularly can serve as evidence that you need an entire day to focus on staying mentally healthy. When we're exhausted, we tend to get more stressed, which can ironically prevent us from getting the sleep we need.
It's this ugly cycle that we have to be intentional about escaping. Whether you need to just take a day to sleep in or a day to let your body get its much-needed rest, you can't be good to anyone, including yourself, without taking in a mental health day.
6.What Weekend?
Listen, there might be this ongoing joke that Mondays are the worst, but when you feel like you didn't get a break over the weekend and feel overwhelmed just thinking about the week you're about to jump into, you need a mental health day. It's okay if the weekend didn't do the trick. Sometimes we need to take an actual day off of work to get back on track. And you shouldn't feel bad about it.
If you need regular mental health days, Mondays might be bae in that area. If that's completely unrealistic with your job, see if you can at least work from home on one day a week to regroup.
7.You Get Sick
This one might seem a little extreme, but it also might be the way your body is telling you that you need rest. I actually experienced this when I was up for a promotion. I was already super stressed out and afraid to tell my boss that I threw up and needed to go home because I was afraid I wouldn't get the job. I ended up telling her I needed a day, and she was understanding (and I still got the job).
Still, even if no one else looks out for you, you have to look out for yourself. How well can you do your job or run your business if you're not mentally healthy? Being team no sleep might sound great, but it's even more notable when you take care of yourself from the inside out.
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Eva Marcille On Starring In 'Jason’s Lyric Live' & Being An Audacious Black Woman
Eva Marcille has taken her talents to the stage. The model-turned-actress is starring in her first play, Jason’s Lyric Live alongside Allen Payne, K. Michelle, Treach, and others.
The play, produced by Je’Caryous Johnson, is an adaptation of the film, which starred Allen Payne as Jason and Jada Pinkett Smith as Lyric. Allen reprised his role as Jason for the play and Eva plays Lyric.
While speaking to xoNecole, Eva shares that she’s a lot like the beloved 1994 character in many ways. “Lyric is so me. She's the odd flower. A flower nonetheless, but definitely not a peony,” she tells us.
“She's not the average flower you see presented, and so she reminds me of myself. I'm a sunflower, beautiful, but different. And what I loved about her character then, and even more so now, is that she was very sure of herself.
"Sure of what she wanted in life and okay to sacrifice her moments right now, to get what she knew she deserved later. And that is me. I'm not an instant gratification kind of a person. I am a long game. I'm not a sprinter, I'm a marathon.
America first fell in love with Eva when she graced our screens on cycle 3 of America’s Next Top Model in 2004, which she emerged as the winner. Since then, she's ventured into different avenues, from acting on various TV series like House of Payne to starring on Real Housewives of Atlanta.
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Eva praises her castmates and the play’s producer, Je’Caryous for her positive experience. “You know what? Je’Caryous fuels my audacity car daily, ‘cause I consider myself an extremely audacious woman, and I believe in what I know, even if no one else knows it, because God gave it to me. So I know what I know. That is who Je’Caryous is.”
But the mom of three isn’t the only one in the family who enjoys acting. Eva reveals her daughter Marley has also caught the acting bug.
“It is the most adorable thing you can ever see. She’s got a part in her school play. She's in her chorus, and she loves it,” she says. “I don't know if she loves it, because it's like, mommy does it, so maybe I should do it, but there is something about her.”
Overall, Eva hopes that her contribution to the role and the play as a whole serves as motivation for others to reach for the stars.
“I want them to walk out with hope. I want them to re-vision their dreams. Whatever they were. Whatever they are. To re-see them and then have that thing inside of them say, ‘You know what? I'm going to do that. Whatever dream you put on the back burner, go pick it up.
"Whatever dream you've accomplished, make a new dream, but continue to reach for the stars. Continue to reach for what is beyond what people say we can do, especially as [a] Black collective but especially as Black women. When it comes to us and who we are and what we accept and what we're worth, it's not about having seen it before. It's about knowing that I deserve it.”
This interview has been edited for length and clarity.
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Tracee Ellis Ross Is Still Living A 'Robust' Life Despite Sometimes Grieving Not Being Partnered
Tracee Ellis Ross sat down with former first lady Michelle Obama and her brother Craig Robinson for their IMO podcast to have a candid discussion about dating, marriage, and family. At 52, the beloved actress is single, but is still open to finding her person. However, she realizes that she has to navigate dating differently, describing herself as a "unicorn."
“I’m a very unique sort of unicorn of a woman, so it's gonna take a unique person,” she explained. "And in the meantime, I've really learned how to live my life and enjoy it and not sit around waiting."
Calling herself a "choiceful woman," she has had to push against culture norms and found that many of her experiences with men around her age were challenging due to the toxic masculinity they had been raised in. Many of their views about relationships conflicts with how she lives her life, so she tends to date younger.
“It's not just that I'm older. I’m also very embodied. I am a full, very whole person who knows myself, who is in charge of my life and who lives a very full, just robust life," she said.
Regardless if they're younger or older, Tracee has made it clear that she isn't settling and won't be in a relationship for the sake of having a partner. Even when loneliness creeps.
“As much as grief does surface for me around not having children and not having a partner, I still wouldn’t want the wrong partner. At all, I’m not interested in that. You have to make my life better, it can’t just be ‘I’m in a relationship just to be in a relationship,” she said.
Fans have watched pieces of Tracee's life played out on social media and TV. Just one look at her Instagram, you see that the black-ish star lives her life to fullest and it's filled with fashion, family, and all-round fabulousness.
"Even though the grief does emerge, and that comes, and I hold that, I think of what I’ve done. I think I woke up every morning trying to do my best. I didn’t wake up one morning and be like I’m gonna mess this day up. So I must be where I’m supposed to be.”
She added, “And sometimes I think of all of the things I’ve done—the courage that I’ve had to have, what I had to learn to how to navigate as a single person with no one to hide behind. It's built a really beautiful experience around me and I have incredible friends."
The Black Mirror actress has spoken about dating before and has always stated that she doesn't allow singleness stop her from living her best life.
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